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• I switch from one goal to another in a matter of hours posted (7 months, 1 week) ago
  Well, I hate this! Here’s the thing about myself that I hate the most — once I set a go…

• I cannot decide what I want… posted (7 months, 2 weeks) ago
  I’m doing web design for 8 years already, but consider myself a so-so, I think too often my d…

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• Lack of motivation.
  

  Well, I just came to this site to post a rant like this… I’m feeling you, mate. I guess it’s different for all of us, but it’s basically the same in my case. I’m 31 and still can’t figure out what I want to do with my life. I actually can’t work any more, and mainly do nothing for a month or so already. I had some money put aside, so my family is living off of that, but that’s it.
  
  All my years I was the kind of guy to jump from one thing to another, to start dozens of projects at once and abandon them as quick as I could to start more projects. I became fascinated with everything in the world and made huge plans. I tried different jobs and careers.
  
  Now I feel like it all has collapsed. I feel broken. Sometimes I spend my day trying to think of something I would be interested in, something to light at least a little spark inside me. And I can’t. Something’s missing, it’s like my brain just doesn’t work like it used to. I feel guilty, because I think I should do something, move forward in some career or project. Not to mention to make some money. But I just can’t, “just do it” doesn’t work for me.
  
  Sorry to clutter your thread and sorry I have no good advice for you — just writing this because my feelings seem so similar…
  - written 5 months, 2 weeks ago

• I’m lost.
  

  In fact you already have answers to all your questions inside your head, but you’re too confused to hear and use them.
  
  Here’s a little exercise I highly recommend:
  1) find a quiet place, highly preferable outside any building, under a tree would be perfect
  2) sit on the ground, if possible, or some kind of bench or something
  3) set a timer on your mobile or your watch, to about 15-20 minutes
  4) now close your eyes
  5) imagine all your questions, feelings and thoughts as men and women inside a small room. and you are the owner of the room. Kindly ask them “Please, please, pretty please. I love you all, but I need 15 minutes alone. Please leave the room and return in 15 minutes”. Imagine they leave
  6) now breathe deeply, inhale sharply and exhale slowly. Focus completely on air entering and leaving your body. Think of nothing, listen to the world around maybe — just try to get rid of any voices in your head, remember, they all left
  
  Do this for at least 3 next days. Maybe try to do this for 10 minutes, if you find 15-20 too long.
  
  This exercise helped me very much during many tough times, especially in situations of indecision and confusion. The trick is to free the “information channels” inside your brain for answers to come to surface, because otherwise these “channels” are blocked with thoughts, negative self-talk, etc.
  
  Hope this helps…
  - written 6 months, 2 weeks ago

• I don’t like my personality.
  

  What’s the link to the test? I’d like to take it too :) But I’m guessing I hate who I am :)
  - written 6 months, 2 weeks ago

• What are some things that you started doing after you
  

  I became a potato chips junkie because my wife absolutely can’t watch a movie without a really big bag of chips!..
  - written 6 months, 2 weeks ago

• Mkay so who wants to help me?
  

  Do you still think he cares about you? See, facts kinda show that he doesn’t. If you think he still cares — then just learn to forgive. People do A LOT stupid things in life, one of them being to much random sex.
  
  More importantly — do YOU care about him? If you knew he’ll never change and will be pulling these kind of stunts for the next 20 years, would you be there for him? Would you forgive and still see him as a nice guy?
  
  Hope you’ll take the time to answer these questions to yourself…
  - written 6 months, 2 weeks ago

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