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• (1 vote) How do you view self harm?
  

  Things to do instead of cutting:-
  
  deep breathing
  
  relaxation techniques
  
  call a friend, your therapist or a crisis line
  
  try not be be alone (visit a friend, go shopping, etc.)
  
  take a hot bath
  
  listen to music
  
  go for a walk
  
  write in a journal
  
  some people find it helpful to draw red lines on themselves with washable markers instead of cutting themselves
  
  hold ice cubes in your hands - the cold causes pain in your hands, but it is not dangerous or harmful (some people find it relieves the urge to harm themselves for that moment)
  
  punching a bed or a pillow (when nothing but a physical outlet for your anger and frustration will work).
  
  scratch draw a picture on a thick piece of wood or use a screw driver and stab at the piece of wood. (can be another physical way to release your emotions without harming yourself.)
  
  avoid temptation (i.e. avoiding the area in CVS where the razor blades are kept, etc.)
  
  try to find your own creative ways as outlets for emotions.
  
  learn to confront others/making your own feelings known instead of keeping them inside
  
  go outside and scream and yell
  
  take up a sport (a form of exercise can help you release tension, etc.)
  
  work with paint, clay, play-doo, etc. (the person who suggested this mentioned that they would make a big sculpture and do whatever they wanted to it. They said it was helpful to calm the urge to self-injure, plus it gave them some idea of what might be underlying the pain.
  
  draw a picture of what or who is making you angry
  instead of harming yourself, try massaging the area you want to harm with massage oils or creams, reminding yourself that you are special and you deserve to treat yourself and your body with love and respect
  
  go to church or your place of worship
  wear a pipe cleaner or something that will fit on the places that you injure.
  
  break the object that you use to self-injure as a way to show that you have control over it.
  
  write a letter to the person(s) that have hurt you and express how they made you feel. Theses letters do not have to be in perfect form and you do not have to please anyone but yourself. You do not have to give these letters to the people, but it is a great way to release the feelings that you are carrying within. After you write the letters, you can decide then what to do with them. Some people find destroying the letters help (i.e. tear them up, throw them in a lake, etc.)
  
  do some household chores (i.e. cleaning)
  
  do some cooking
  
  try some sewing, crossstitch, etc.
  
  recite a poem, prayer or anything else familiar the comforts you multiple times
  
  write down all your positive points and why you do not deserve to be hurt
  
  write in your journal why you want to hurt yourself and if you have hurt yourself, write down what caused it to happen so in the future you can prevent it from happenings - or find out what your triggers were
  
  Play some kind of musical instrument. Even if you don’t really know how to play, picking out tunes is a way to concentrate and help get rid of the urge to harm yourself.
  
  yoga
  
  - written 5 months, 2 weeks ago – voted for by Sans

• (1 vote) i am so eager to work in germany but i cant get chance
  

  i guess you also felt the calling of the lederhosen
  
  - written 5 months, 4 weeks ago – voted for by Meow...

• (1 vote) My roomates and I
  

  yeah dr ralph I am sure another poster felt great when his marriage was breaking down and you told him he blew it. I wouldnt want to cry on your shoulder when I needed cheering up but I will take your advice and stop reading your posts from now on.
  
  Anyway southern traveller have you asked your male flatmate about trying to keep things respectable in the bathroom? does he leave the communal areas dirty aswell such as the kitchen? If so do you know if your other housemate is irked by this? maybe you could both talk to him about it.
  
  About the personality issues there is really not much you can do if you are having personality clashes with your housemates, maybe it is better if you moved out. I was best friends with a guy for 10 years and we moved in together and within a week we got into a punch up. Some people just aren’t meant to live together.
  
  Holding grudges is just going to make things much worse my advice would be to try talking to your housemates again and if things dont improve then start thinking about moving out.
  
  - written 8 months, 2 weeks ago – voted for by tay_br

• (1 vote) Is there any good decent people in the world?
  

  Money really isnt everything. I have a colleague who was brought up in a council house like your children and he is actually doing very well in life. Not only is he incredibly intelligent and nice block but he is also very wise with the ways of this world. Think of it this way two people have been raised one in hardship and one has been spoonfed and not done a day of work in their life. If for some reason they both lost all their money the person who grew up in hardship would be able to cope while the spoonfed person would not. The jist of what I am trying to say is challenges in life make you a much stronger person. So the optomist in me says that maybe this is a blessing in disguise?
  
  - written 8 months, 3 weeks ago – voted for by saraharkins200

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• how do you get your virginity back?
  

  build a tardis, I think i have an instruction manual somewhere let me go see if i can find it.
  - written 5 months ago

• So it is ’scientifically proven’ that people
  

  right but how many of these studies have been published in real scientific journals? very few i am sure you will find. Thats because alot of these studeis are either badly designed, lack power or they dont really have any real evidence at all. Often these mag articles are just based on a scientist’s opinion and just because a scientist says it happens doesnt mean thats scientific proof/evidence.
  - written 5 months ago

• So it is ’scientifically proven’ that people
  

  well unless its been proven in a good scientific journal and not some low grade magazine i wouldnt regard it as proof.
  - written 5 months ago

• ok, i’m 16, and under my eyes its really dark.
  

  apparently bags under your eyes are linked to either a lack of sleep and/or a high salt diet.
  - written 5 months ago

• I need to know what you think about this breakup text.
  

  well then wait if your not going to see him for another 2 weeks its not exactly going to bother you that much is it
  - written 5 months, 1 week ago

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