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• im 15 and i think i might be bisexual,i want to be but im afraid of judgement..i know my parents would kill me if they found out..
  

  From what I hear from my gay friends if you think you are bisexual then you are not. Why do you think you are? At your age (Im guessing here) sex is on your mind all the time. I talked to my best friend yesterday about sex when he was young and he said it was on his mind all the time. And he didn’t care who or what he had sex with. If you are gay you are gay. If you are upset about being what you call bisexual then you may be confusing those strong sex feelings with a guy you just admire. That is natural. I didn’t realize that guys were SO sexual from 12 on until my friend told me. He said whatever walked in front of him made him want to have sex. He also thought he was bisexual but he isn’t. Being gay is a whole lifestyle. I would talk to a counselor before I talked to your parents. You can always talk to your parents about this after talking to a counselor and the counselor may help you to know how to tell your parents without it being a big crisis. I know you are confused right now so don’t make up your mind without more thought and talking to someone. I would be careful who you talked to. Do you have a gay friend? It is nothing to be ashamed of but I would not go around telling everyone until you know for sure. If it turns out you are not bisexual it might upset your parents without reason unless they are super understanding. Why do you think you are bisexual?
  - written 9 months, 1 week ago

• Is finding friends a long process?
  

  You are doing all the right things. It is very brave of you to walk into those places you mentioned and simply tried to make a friend. You are right, it is a hard thing to do. The two best friends I had i just walked up to their houses and knocked on the door and introduced myself. I knew their husbands so we had a bit in common.I lived in the country, a new town and was crushingly lonely. I just kept going back to them over and over and became closer than sisters. If they had turned me away I would have found someone else that I liked and told them the truth. I had not made friends yet and wanted to talk to them if I was not intruding on their life. You are doing the right thing with the Saint John’s Wort. It won’t hurt you and it is doing a lot of good evidently. Later in life I began to play contract bridge and that took over my life and I made so many friends. But I am not the kind to have friends in my house. You do have to take it casual. If you are desperate you will scare most people off. They think you will annoy them when they are busy. But you have to make the effort, not them. You have to be brave and speak to people. Finding friends is the hardest thing but do not give up. Be sure and listen more than you talk. Everybody wants to talk. If you become known as a listener you will have too many friends.Ask a few questions and stand still and listen. It will happen if you want it but give it time and do not give up. Good luck and a prayer for you.
  - written 9 months, 1 week ago

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