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• Everything is fake, inside and out. posted (1 week) ago
  I was angry because everyone around me seems to be fake. I could give a lot of examples but I alrea…

• I feel so down after my little break from the everyday. posted (1 month, 2 weeks) ago
  I basically had a senior skip day yesterday and it was one of the greatest days of my life. All day…

• I wish I could forcibly transform him into a decent human being. posted (2 months, 2 weeks) ago
  I already know I can’t make him change. And I’ve tried reason and I’ve tried pers…

• Ugh I’m disgusting. posted (2 months, 3 weeks) ago
  I kind of enjoyed being single and okay with it for a few days. I found out that my ex boyfriend ha…

• I called someone on my cellphone and it seemed like they answered but didn’t say anything, could my phone have malfunctioned or did they definitely posted (3 months, 1 week) ago
  called someone on my cellphone and it seemed like they answered but didn’t say anything, coul…

• I need you guys more than ever. posted (3 months, 2 weeks) ago
  My boyfriend, who I love and who until recently planned on marrying me after college, is breaking u…

• Have you ever had an idea so big you didn’t know what to do with it? posted (4 months) ago
  I don’t even know how to explain this, but I’ll give it my best shot. Recent circums…

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hopelikefire4's Top (5) Replies by other users' votes

• (2 votes) I am embracing the Virtue of Selfishness, if you know about this philsophy by AYN RAND please help me understand it more.
  

  It doesn’t work. This site proves that it doesn’t work. The idea is that if everyone goes after their own happiness without worrying about anyone else, we’ll have a more just and generally happier society. The highest moral good is achieving your own happiness.
  
  We need each other’s help. There’s no getting around that. You can be as individualistic as you want but you’re still a social creature and in the end you’re gonna find out that you can’t do it on your own.
  
  And I suppose this is more of an opinion thing, but I just think there’s something disgusting about a person who thinks unconditional love is wrong.
  
  - written 6 months, 3 weeks ago – voted for by LocoLamigra31, Sans

• (2 votes) what is the possible effect of love relationship to those students and to their studies?
  

  I don’t know if I’m the average student but I know what the effect was on me…a student in a relationship gets distracted much more easily. Especially in the early stages of the relationship, you never really stop thinking about that one special person, and so even when you’re “focused” half your brain is somewhere else.
  
  A student may lose their motivation towards studies because the only thing that seems important is this person. So not only is it hard for them to focus, but they don’t particularly feel like trying either.
  
  The student’s priorities and time management skills get jumbled as they start making time for this person in their life. They have less time to study because they spend more time out with their new significant other.
  
  All of these factors can cause slips in a student’s grades, but as the relationship progresses and the student gets used to this extra person in their life, they can generally bring the grades back up. They sort their priorities out again, remember whatever it was that motivated them in the first place, and realize that it is not vastly important to the relationship to keep this person in their thoughts while trying to do Calculus.
  
  That’s based on experience, but I’m sure it’s a bit different for each student and relationship.
  
  - written 8 months ago – voted for by Mr. P, Solid

• (1 vote) why do we have 2 go to school….and show ur w
  

  You may not need to know calculus but you do need to know how to solve problems. You may not need to know history but you do need to learn from past mistakes. You may not need to understand Shakespeare or remember every grammar rule, but you do need to learn how to express, interpret, and formulate ideas.
  
  Doing schoolwork still sucks. It still feels pointless and there are probably better ways to learn these things. But it isn’t wasted time, you are gaining valuable life skills whether you realize it or not. At least, that’s what I tell myself when I’m sick of math problems :P
  
  - written 2 months, 1 week ago – voted for by ~willard~

• (1 vote) How do you view self harm?
  

  Four of my good friends are self-harmers. For three of them, it is the only way they know how to cope and whenever a problem arises they can’t resist. For one, who is bipolar, it is everything. Her release from pain, her way to control her manicness or depression, something to do when she is bored, angry, scared, anything. All of them, to a degree, are addicted. All of them could do other things to solve their problems. And all of them, no matter how I beg, or have them try alternatives, or try to be there for them, always go back.
  
  When I hear the words “self harm” It’s like the scars are on my heart instead of their bodies. I care about them so much and want them to feel loved and treasured and happy, I want them to be able to solve their problems, to be able to cope with their emotions. And I wonder about just how deep they go, and if they will ever stop going deeper, and if one day they’ll slip or underestimate their strength and I’ll lose them forever.
  
  But I also think of another thing that is very important. They told me about their self-harm, and while I understand it is a very difficult thing to do, it saved me. When I met them, I had my ups and downs but I generally enjoyed life. As time passed and my challenges grew greater I went through my own numb spells. I knew what I could do to start feeling again. But I also knew where it would get me, the addiction, the pain I would cause my friends, the serious injury I could do to myself. So I learned to cope in other ways. Those of you who do self-harm, your stories are incredibly important. Don’t be afraid to speak up. People need to know about this issue before they find themselves unable to cope. If everyone spoke up, self-harm could be prevented rather than treated.
  
  So that’s what I think of. And I want to wish all of you battling this addiction the very best of luck. You’ll be in my prayers.
  
  - written 5 months ago – voted for by ❀❁✿❁❀

• (1 vote) dont you think life gets harder the older you get?
  

  I think life gets harder but we also get stronger…don’t you remember when you were little and that first person teased you and you were so heartbroken? Don’t you remember when you skinned your knee for the first time and you cried and cried? The experiences get more painful as life goes on but we also learn how to deal with them, little by little.
  
  For a four year old with a skinned knee, life is not easy. But we envy his position because we could handle his situation better than he can.
  
  - written 7 months ago – voted for by ~willard~

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• Hey i need some good songs.
  

  Owl City!
  He(it is just one guy, not a band) is kind of my life right now. You might know Fireflies because its been on the radio a lot…but there are even better songs like “Tip of the Iceberg” and “The Bird and the Worm”.
  
  Er…trying to think of other poppy stuff I like…
  Try some Jack’s Mannequin, like “Swim” and “Dark Blue”
  And “Everything’s Magic” by Angels and Airwaves
  And that’s about all I can come up with right now.
  - written 4 days, 21 hours ago

• Hey Fellows, have you ever said to yourself, “Hey,
  

  Haha the guys at my school are going crazy for this
  I even heard one of them trying to convince a teacher to go along with it
  It sounds like fun :D
  Too bad I am a girl who rarely shaves anyways. Not much of an event for me.
  - written 4 days, 21 hours ago

• Everything is fake, inside and out.
  

  Haha well its not sympathy I’m after but I guess its something just as pointless and stupid to request.
  
  I am basically after an instruction manual. Tangible things I could actually put into practice. The ten steps to becoming a genuine person, or something. ha.
  
  Because in the world of the student there are clear cut directions for everything. Just another way I am disconnected from reality I guess. Would it help if I learned how to write my own manual for once?
  - written 6 days, 23 hours ago

• Everything is fake, inside and out.
  

  Well I like the drinking idea simply because I know I could actually pull it off.
  
  Thep I know all that but I don’t know how to do it. I don’t seem able to say “Ok self, just be who you are. No more pretending.” I hardly realize when I’m doing it sometimes.
  
  And I know what I like. I like horseback riding, writing, stargazing, dancing, music, I could go on. Knowing that doesn’t make me any more honest, any more real. I could pick on of those and make myself a new fake out of it, like being The Writer. But other than that I don’t see how these things could change anything.
  - written 6 days, 23 hours ago

• Everything is fake, inside and out.
  

  Not just me, but yep, me too. I guess I do it to appease others or get things I want, but its not like I’m doing it on purpose. It just seems to naturally happen. I’d like to stop it but I’m apparently so good at pretending that I can fool myself about who I am too. So I act like someone I’m not, thinking I’m just being myself. It’s nearly subconscious.
  - written 1 week ago

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