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I never said every guy. But fine, so it is money guys need more than a body…still, girls are like “poor me no one likes me for me! Why doesn’t anyone respect us” and then go after the rich guys.

I dunno I’ve never found it that hard to be a girl and not do makeup or get surgery or wear skimpy clothes. Yeah, there’s pressure to look a certain way…there’s pressure for everyone. Is it really so difficult to deal with?

I don’t think it’s fair that us girls always make it about ourselves. Why do you think guys spend so much time at the gym? For a lot of them, it’s probably not just to stay healthy…they gotta impress the ladies too ;P

Oh man. So many funny things happen at my school, I can’t pick one XD Some highlights:
-When asked if he actually grades every paper and how he can get through them all, our Bible teacher exclaims “I’m SUPERMAN, okay?” We believe him. He’s the man.
-My friend is late for English class practically every day, and the teacher rails on him every time. So one day, he’s like ten minutes late and he knows he’s going to get it, so he pulls a ninja and crawls halfway across the room, hiding behind desks and stuff, to his seat. Those of us who see him snicker but we make up a story about something else making us laugh, giving him enough time to make it to his seat. The teacher never notices. Yay, teamwork!
-We had a social once where we all ended up piling into this kids truck and singing along to Taylor Swift songs. Even the guys. We’re highschoolers. XD
-Another one that’s only funny because we’re highschoolers: although it is unofficial, our school has both a varsity and junior varsity pokemon team. And yeah, I’m a member. :P

This is just a sample of what it’s like to go to the nerdiest school on earth. Wouldn’t have it any other way 3

Praying for you Cindy. Take this as a nice excuse to relax and goof off all day long :D

Oh. my. gosh. I am so so so sorry. I didn’t realize how long that was until I saw it on this page XD

I wouldn’t blame you if you just skipped over it, because dang. It really is a novel.

I need to work on being pithy.

I don’t know if it’s just a happy coincidence or if I’ve actually done something useful, but I seem to feel more alive lately. I think I know what you’re talking about as well, I’m 18 and I’ve had these “zombie” days where I feel like I’m stuck somewhere deep inside myself, disconnected from reality so much that I don’t remember why I ever liked life at all. But it’s been weeks since I’ve had those days and there’s a couple of things I can think of that may have influenced this–maybe they can help you too.

1. Prayer. You may think this doesn’t apply but if you’re open to the idea at all, try talking to God. I used to stress over so many things, it was hard to express any one of them to others. But if I started a prayer and just let myself say whatever I wanted, no matter how angry, morbid or sad, everything started to pour out and afterwards I felt much calmer. We really can give our burdens to God and just telling Him about things made me realize I didn’t have to worry because it was in His control. If you’re not comfortable enough with the idea to try it, letting things out some other way might help too. Write, paint, talk to a friend you really trust, punch a pillow, anything that will calm you down and help you let go of some of your worries.

2. If you can get yourself to a relatively peaceful state, try listening to some optimistic music. It probably sounds crazy but I sincerely think that discovering Owl City’s music has greatly improved my mood. It is very difficult to be sad while listening to it unless you want to be sad. Try finding some songs you enjoy which also lift your spirits instead of focusing on negatives. Sometimes, when everything is just too much and you want to let yourself be sad for a while, negative music can help. But as long as you want to be happy, positive music can do just the opposite.

3. Stop overthinking. This can be a challenge but it’s SO helpful. Here’s an example, sometimes when I have too much homework I get into arguments with myself, about whether or not there’s a good reason for doing it, about whether I should bother starting when I know I won’t finish, about why I should even try calculus when I’m so terrible at math that I know I can’t do it. But here’s the thing, in the end I still have to do it. Why waste all that time thinking when I could stop putting myself down and just get it done? If I toss all those stupid thoughts out and just start, I get way more work done, it’s far less stressful, and guess what–I CAN do Calculus, as long as I don’t tell myself I can’t. This can also apply to random silly thoughts you have. Use some discernment of course, but if for some strange reason you feel like dancing around in a rainstorm or something unusual like that, go with it. It can be good to do things just because you want to, because if you’re happier you can make the people around you happier.

4. Stay connected to others any way you can. This will be easier to do in a good mood; you’ll find ways to spread the cheer. I like smiling at people I see walking through any public place, getting the mail from the mailman myself and telling him to have a wonderful day, and spontaneously giving hugs to my friends. Just look at each person around you as a human being, not a face. Each one of them has hopes, dreams, fears, talents and feelings just like you do. When you see each stranger as a potential friend instead of a threat, life becomes so much sweeter. It’s about turning fear into love and then sharing it with everyone else.

That was longer than expected! I hope some of it helps you and feel free to ask me about any of it ^^ One big inspiration for me in this has been a group called Everything is OK, who I found because someone posted one of their videos here on Help. They have a political message but also a lot of beautifully simple messages about life. Here is a quote from them which I love:
“You are born free, you will live free, you will die free. You are allowed to make a scene. You are allowed to scream for joy. You are allowed to complain. You are allowed to cry. You are allowed to love people. You are allowed to hug people. We are living in a world where we are starting to feel scared, we are starting to forget just how divine and special we are as human beings.”
According to the Bible, which I believe in, we were created in God’s image, just a little lower than the angels, and that is what makes us “divine and special.” And just according to reason, as is said in one of those videos, you are the only being exactly like you that will ever exist! We are entirely unique, and that is something special indeed.

I hope you can use something from what I’ve said. But I have already written you a novel so I’ll stop boring you :P

Love, not fear 3

Young me(not that I’m very old now :P) would think I was absolutely ridiculous. She would be disgusted by some of the music I like and upset at how I had become such a typical juvenile delinquent, haha. She would look at some of my grades with horror, and my beliefs too, and the way I’ve become so terribly crude and even fallen for those dumb immature boys. In short, /obviously/ being the smartest person in the universe, young me would never believe I was old her, because I’d become so terribly stupid. Young me wouldn’t really understand who I am now because she would see these outer factors and make too many assumptions. But she would also be far too shy to express any of that to me, and would most likely ignore me, possibly rolling her eyes whenever I did something particularly silly.

Jokes aside, you can’t /make/ anyone fall in love with you. you can act differently than you’d normally act to reel someone in, but then they are falling in love with somebody else. Once they know the real you, they either fall or they don’t, and if they don’t it’s because they aren’t the right person.

I think so anyway. Honestly, if I believed you could make someone fall, I still wouldn’t know what to do. XP

D:
I IS A HORRIBLE PERSON
And all this time I thought I was here helping people!

Then again, if I didn’t make you cry so much, no one would be able to have fun at the beach :D

If you can’t ever hang out with them because they hardly know you, how will they ever get to know you? You’ll become closer friends by spending time together. Yep, it’s awkward at first, but you’ll get through it and soon it won’t seem weird at all. Someone has to take that first step of offering to hang outside of school, so why not you?

Oh noes! Sorry littlenick, I never meant to hurt you…I hope you can forgive me for the terrible pain I have caused you…it must have been terrible thinking I didn’t want to be your friend, after all I am pretty awesome. But you don’t have to be sad anymore, now we are friends forever! :P

Haaaaaaappy birthday :D

Owl City!
He(it is just one guy, not a band) is kind of my life right now. You might know Fireflies because its been on the radio a lot…but there are even better songs like “Tip of the Iceberg” and “The Bird and the Worm”.

Er…trying to think of other poppy stuff I like…
Try some Jack’s Mannequin, like “Swim” and “Dark Blue”
And “Everything’s Magic” by Angels and Airwaves
And that’s about all I can come up with right now.

Haha the guys at my school are going crazy for this
I even heard one of them trying to convince a teacher to go along with it
It sounds like fun :D
Too bad I am a girl who rarely shaves anyways. Not much of an event for me.

Haha well its not sympathy I’m after but I guess its something just as pointless and stupid to request.

I am basically after an instruction manual. Tangible things I could actually put into practice. The ten steps to becoming a genuine person, or something. ha.

Because in the world of the student there are clear cut directions for everything. Just another way I am disconnected from reality I guess. Would it help if I learned how to write my own manual for once?