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(you just replied to my other post) this is why i am insecure, i’m afraid that somewhere deep inside, my boyfriend misses things about his ex. that he likes things about other women better. i can’t trust what might be going on in his head, as apparently your girlfriend can’t either…i don’t know this just really confused me. i understand a memory of your loved one, your wife…but wishing your girlfriend were like here and you could be yourself with your girlfriend like you could with your wife? this would break your girlfriends heart (which i know is why you are keeping it secret) but that’s why we are insecure…ppl keep secrets and one way or another we always find out and the pain is too much to bear, and we just can’t trust, and we wonder why we aren’t good enough, and why we keep getting rejected over and over.

thank you. hopefully i havent ruined our relationship and hopefully its not to late for us…

well…i am that insecure girlfriend. so all the comments about insecurity really hit home. i really have no reason to be insecure, but because of past hurt and rejection for some reason i have lost my confidence. you do play an important role by letting your girlfriend know how much you care…she will never be able to hear it enough from you. but don’t cater to her either. make sure she builds a strong network of friends and that you encourage her to get out and try things on her own. make sure you go do things to. express your need for her, but let her know you want some guy time too. i have recently realized i was in denial about all this. tough love from my boyfriend is what has made me realize.

i’m ok, i just wish things were different. how bout you?

wow..sounds like we have very similar situations.

that’s really sweet. i just broke up wit my boyfriend :( i really love him. hope he comes around.