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What about it is hard for you? Just because she is attracted to girls doesn’t necessarily change the nature of your own friendship with her. You’ve known straight girls who are just friends with guys, right?

ah. Well, sometimes it helps to let the voices in your head know that you’re not afraid of them, you won’t bend to their will, and you are going to do what you want to do.
Also, killing people will not quench your anger. The more constructive way of approaching an anger issue may be to look within and figure ut where that anger may honestly be coming from… and then go from there.
This must be hard. i feel compassion for you.

that’s sweet. you should tell your father.

Well, do you think your father feels afraid for your to be so independent?

Its definitely possible. Science that is popularly accepted today tends to focus on the obvious, physical realm of reality, but this was not alwasy the case. I encourage you to read more about ESP and spiritual intelligence. I am reading a great book on thi right now - “Riding the Windhorse: Spiritual Intelligence and the Growth of the Self” by Kathleen D. Noble. This is published in the United States - I’m not sure where you are. If you’re interested in psychology, you may also want to look into the psychological theories of Carl Jung.

first of all, dream interpretation is one of those things in which you should realize the primary and best interpreter is the Dreamer her or himself… because you know best what these things symbolize to you. But with that said I would ask, are you afraid of entering the world independently of your father, or parents? Are you perhaps a little afraid of “growing up” or having to figure things out for yourself without his help? Or are you afraid his advice is not always correct for you? Do you feel somewhat powerless when it comes to maintaining your own safety? These are the questions that come up for me when i read this.

thank you, all of you. With the help of your prayers and my own intentions and effort, already things are starting to get a little brighter in my life!!!! :) thank you so much.

so you think she should appreciate those “copiers” more than she does? Maybe you could suggest, in a friendly and caring way, that she try viewing that copying differently, because to you its just a compliment, not annoying. She m ight not change her mind but it might be interesting to talk about it with her.

certainly not worth worrying about. I’m not sure who you are to her, but she is probably just looking to have some time to feel independent, and take care of herself. Maybe she’s felt too busy to do that much recently.

this sounds like its really hard for you. Take small steps to nurse yourself. Draw pictures, write down how you feel, go outside and take deep breaths of fresh air, take walks around the block a few times a day. Try calling the most reliable person you know of, even if its been a while since you’ve talked to them. Take your time, go easy on yourself. Depending on where you live there might be great free counseling services. You could find those as well just by doing a search on the internet. Lots of people have been in the state you are now - you’re not alone! You can pull out, you will, try to imagine that happening…

in my short time here all I’ve seen from you are friendly, light-hearted, kind replies and I’ve almost always appreciated them. :)

is this dialog from a movie or something? its pretty funny.

yes. do you have a more specific question i could help with?

you should definitely tell him how you feel. He may be under a lot of stress right now, and it seems you are doing your best to support him however he needs you to… But he needs to meet your needs in this relationships too. It goes both ways! And maybe he has no idea you feel hurt. Try bringing it up in a non-defensive way, and ask if there’s a time you could talk about this. maybe you could even write a note to him, if that seems easier at the time being.

Maybe you just need to find friends who appreciate you more. and show you appreciate them..? I don’t know the answer - its hard to tell what’s going on by what you said - but you sound like a friendly fellow. Don’t be too hard on yourself.