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No it will come with time when you start getting comfortable with yourself.

Just ask yourself if you respect these people’s opinion? If the answer is no, then why would it matter what they say about you if you dont care what they have to say in the first place? Maybe its an ego thing - we’ve all got em and most of them are very fragile.

[quote LoneWulf]no not depressed or stressed, not bored either i work part time, go to school full time, doing an english course in the evening and i am hunting for a second job. So its not boredom, also i am dating girls in between!! gahhhhh
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You’re probably just running yourself dry buddy. Take a break.

It’s “okay” to do pretty much anything you like - it doesn’t matter what you do as long as whatever it is makes you happy. You should decide who it is you want to be and do what you have to.

You’ll get the hang of it - no one expect you to have it all figured out just yet.

Could be skin cancer. Go to a Dr. Why do people come here for medical advice? Call a nurse hotline at least.

You have a sleeping disorder? You’re depressed? You’re just plain old bored as ****? Could be any one or neither of those.

Get some interested and share them? I dunno what to tell you - talk more and see what happens.

Hmm well yes, that might make it difficult.

So your finding things out about yourself, tis all apart of growing up. You’re learning about yourself - thats progress. I still think you should try talking to her. Maybe its just a crush that will all fall apart when you have a conversation with her and find out shes actually an idiot or something. Who knows.

[quote Anonymous]Trust me the girl will be fine without me talking to her, lol. Im sure she’s not interested.[/quote]

You dont know that. Just friggin try! Guys are too scared to get shot down that they miss out on chances. Im not saying jump her, just TALK to her, get to know her, maybe you could be really good friends.

Grow some balls and take a chance!

[quote Anonymous]How, I don’t talk to her at all.[/quote]

Well start talking to her. If you are who you describe yourself as, than you’re a charming fellow. Make an effort, flirt a little, show her you are interested in listening to her. Ask her questions about herself. Stuff like that.

[quote Anonymous]Very true, im a people’s person and unusually shy.[/quote]

Well get on it than!

Listen, when you look at her and people dissappear, that is a RARE find.

So? If she likes you, she’ll go for it. Let her decide.

Make a list of who you are.

Write down the things that make up who you are. All of them, even the flaws.

Read it. Make another one. This time about who you want to be. Read it.

If you know who you are and what you want, it makes gaining confidence a whole lot easier.

Why would you do that?!

This sounds like a perfect opputunity to take some chances and enjoy life. Get on that ****!

He’s human. Lets face it, we’re all jerks sometimes. Face up to the fact that he isnt perfect and look at him for who he really is.

That isnt to say drop him because he said something insulting - have you never said anything insulting before? Would you want someone to judge you off of that and that alone?

One statement doesn’t define someone.