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• i guess i am stressed enough to write here. posted (6 years, 5 months) ago
  things don’t seem to get better this year, losing my best friend for no obvious reason, an ex-…

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  I think you should get some counseling first, do you go to school? talk to your social worker there, i am sure they can help you vent some of it and help you get some perspective. your life sounds really hard, but you sound like a really strong girl, so don’t let it get to you, just keep your faith, and remember you don’t cause problems to people, if they choose to fight it is their problem not yours. just always keep in mind that you are someone important too, don’t blame yourself for things that people did to you or are doing to you right now. and do talk about the abuse, talk to a counselor, to a doctor, get it out of your system, because it can eat away at you. all the best my friend, and if you need to talk, just write me!
  
  Nina
  - written 6 years, 4 months ago

• some nites i crie at nite b/c i think back of all the
  

  Sweety, you need to deal with the pain first before seeing him again. i knw you need hinm as a parent beside you, but if he didn’t stop hurting you, there is a chance it will make it worse if you go to him now. try getting some counseling and talk about it to a social worker or shrink, then when you are able to face your fears and memories, and face up to your dad, you will be ready to see him. you need to make sure you can confront him if he tries to hurt you another time. you should be in control of your life, not him. if you need to talk more, just pop me an email, i am here for you…
  Nina
  - written 6 years, 4 months ago

• ok…i am new to this but i need help seriously!
  

  Sweety, we all go through this. i remember when i was 14 up to 16, god knows i tried suicide like three times, but i guess life has better plans for all of us, so it didn’t work. life is not easy, especially in families, the shouting of your sister and mom and the bulimic thing is just a reaction. you are not happy. there are many things you can do, talk to a friend, even a doctor, just go out of the house, not at night clubbing and drinking, but on a walk in the neighborhood, in the park, just clear your head, allow yourself some me-time where you think of no problems and no one else but yourself. find a hobby, even something small as reading a weekly magazine or collecting mugs or shots or whatever. go to the gym, not for the sports part as much as it is some time for you to be alone and maybe meet new friends, even a 20 minutes visit will do you some good. and if you need someone to talk to, i am alwys here, just pop me an email and i will reply directly. trust me, it is a phase we all go through. wish you all the best. hang in there.
  Nina
  - written 6 years, 4 months ago

• Hi there.
  

  My Dear MQ,
  
  That is a lot to deal with at your age my friend, you are not supposed to be dealing with issues like that, but i guess this is life and we have to live by it…
  I understand your guilt issue in case you left your dad behind, especially if you are moving far away and can’t see him on a regular basis. however, your father needs to put his act back together, and maybe if you talk to him in a positive way and explain that you are not walking out on him, he will think of improving his life instead of taking it away. You do have to think of your safety and the safety of your family, which i believe the reason why your mom wants you with her. i think you should think of that too you know, it won’t do anyone any good if you stayed and got hurt…
  As for the depression part, i totally understand what you mean, since i started being depressed at the age of 15 and attempted suicide severalt imes. Still, you need to find your center, look for the good in your life, and get help. if you feel you are having a relapse just go see a doctor, trust me, it can give you another perspective and help you vent all your issues, it will help you get all the frustrations, anger, hate, anxiety out of your system with no guilt or shame, which will help you see them outside your system thus deal with it properly.
  Just remember, you are not your parents and are not doomed to follow their path. make your own, think positive, and hopefully things will clear up as you go by.
  
  All the best, my heart goes to you
  - written 6 years, 5 months ago

• i guess i am stressed enough to write here.
  

  Things did go well, he apologized for being this grumpy, seems he is like that when he is really really tired, like yesterday, so i kept my distance again yesterday, and he found his way back to me… i hope things will get clearer by the time he leaves Wednesday early morning… thanx you guys, i appreciate it!
  - written 6 years, 5 months ago

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