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I agree with eb0nI, if you feel like you are unable to tell him how you feel. There are other ways to keep in contact over vast distances digitally.

He needs to be made to know how you feel, obviously if he does nothing he must feel very comfortable in your relationship. I admit this can happen over time with just about anyone.

Even if it hurts him now it is important that you tell him exactly how you feel; however, don’t allow this singular desire to consume you totally, you may end up leaving a great relationship over very reconcilable problems only to jump into a total shipwreck.

You may just need some time to sort things through, it may be worthwhile to perhaps discuss it with her?

One more thing Anon,

If you feel that you really cannot control those emotions and feel like you are a danger to yourself please get in contact with a professional.

These numbers may help:

http://www.suicidepreventionlifeline….

[quote Anonymous]not for a long time, but getting worse as time has gone on[/quote]

Anon, you know times have been better. Whatever is driving you to this now may be strong emotions or perhaps a string of unfortunate events. If you need to rant or explain further we are all willing to listen. Its important though to be logical with yourself, these feelings won’t be forever.

You could try maybe after school? If you find it hard to get him relatively alone you could always try to ask something like that online via a messenger? That way you could carefully choose your words if you are worried about implications.

However, that said if you are always worried about what your class thinks about the situation now, how much harder will it be if you actually do get together?

Is this emotion from a recent event or do you find yourself carrying it with you for a long time?

Well Dreaming Weird why not ask him to something?

Like for Coffee? That would certainly bring you closer to your goal without committing too much.

If it is difficult to tell if he acts differently around you perhaps you could try consulting some of his friends or some of your friends that may know him?

If you want to try to avoid asking him straight that is ^_^;

Keeping yourself busy can help take your mind off of it, dwelling will make it much worse.

I wish the best, take it easy today and remember to breathe!

I realize this is said a lot, but things will get better and life will go on. Pain is a part of all of that at times. It may be difficult to see past this now, but you will.

It isn’t easy :(

I am afraid i cannot tell you exactly what you should do; however, i can tell you that hiding the relationship from your family can be a strain on the relationship itself.

It is like pushing a rock up an eternally steep hill, the longer you push the faster the rock is going to be going when you finally let go of it.

I am so sorry, i realize this is difficult and no matter what you choose you will probably hurt. In life there are times when there isn’t an easy choice or even a favorable choice.

If we look at this in the long term, i believe things will only get worse the longer you do hide it.

How long would you hide it from your sister? Telling her could seem disastrous in the short term, you could potentially have a lot of people angry with you, but the longer this relationship with Derek lasts the harder it is going to be to hide it.

Let us look at this from the flip side. Those who are prefer members of the opposite sex have a variety of physical characteristics; therefore, would not someone who prefers someone of the same sex be the same in terms of variation?

Physical appearance has nothing to do with it, keep your chin up ^^!

Does your physical appearance make you feel depressed?