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• Help I am a 24 year old girl, and want to go to a Backstreet Boys consert but my parents do not approve of it.
  

  What culture do you come from?
  
  The reason so many people here will tell you that a 20 yr old should be independent is simply because that is the norm in the West. It’s very much usual for a 24 yr old to still be dependent on his/her parents in other cultures/traditions (although, usually the reciprocal is true too, ie that the parents are dependent on the child as well - its a case of interdependence, really!)
  
  In many cultures parents and children live together as a family forever … the parents take care of the child then the child takes care of the parents (rather than kicking the child out at 18 or the child dumping the parents in an old folks home)
  
  I don’t understand why people here seem to assume that what they consider to be a norm is also a norm for others.
  
  To the OP:
  If you belong to a culture where dependence on parents is normal at this age, then it would be entirely pointless just trying to confront them as some people are saying here. You need to be calm, considered and understanding with your parents when approaching them.
  
  If your religion bans the music then be even more understanding and calmly explain that you do not see the reasoning behind the prohibition on the music and cannot understand why it is ‘dirty’ as they claim.
  
  So, don’t just, out of the blue, confront your parents by telling them that you’re an adult and that legally you have rights, blah blah like some have suggested …. just ease into the conversation and be cool and reason with them as to why you have a difference of opinion.
  
  I’m pretty sure it will work a lot better!
  - written 5 days, 8 hours ago

• Help I am a 24 year old girl, and want to go to a Backstreet Boys consert but my parents do not approve of it.
  

  What culture do you come from?
  
  The reason so many people here will tell you that a 20 yr old should be independent is simply because that is the norm in the West. It’s very much usual for a 24 yr old to still be dependent on his/her parents in other cultures/traditions (although, usually the reciprocal is true too, ie that the parents are dependent on the child as well - its a case of interdependence, really!)
  
  In many cultures parents and children live together as a family forever … the parents take care of the child then the child takes care of the parents (rather than kicking the child out at 18 or the child dumping the parents in an old folks home)
  
  I don’t understand why people here seem to assume that what they consider to be a norm is also a norm for others.
  
  To the OP:
  If you belong to a culture where dependence on parents is normal at this age, then it would be entirely pointless just trying to confront them as some people are saying here. You need to be calm, considered and understanding with your parents when approaching them.
  
  If your religion bans the music then be even more understanding and calmly explain that you do not see the reasoning behind the prohibition on the music and cannot understand why it is ‘dirty’ as they claim.
  
  So, don’t just, out of the blue, confront your parents by telling them that you’re an adult and that legally you have rights, blah blah like some have suggested …. just ease into the conversation and be cool and reason with them as to why you have a difference of opinion.
  
  I’m pretty sure it will work a lot better!
  - written 5 days, 8 hours ago

• I don`t have many friends
  

  The key to friendship is being cheerful!
  
  (the more positive you are –> the more positive vibes you will send out –> the more you will attract people)
  
  And bear in mind that people won’t just automatically come to you (they might but it would be foolish to solely rely on others to approach you)! You have to do some work too! Approach people … it doesn’t matter where you do so (in school, at work, in a bus, outdoors, while volunteering somewhere, in a gym) but when you do approach people be cheerful and seem genuinely interested in them and in forming a friendship!
  
  Some pointers from my own experience:
  - Exercise frequently –> You’ll be more energetic and you will feel more confident about yourself!
  - Become more involved in whatever social constructs you maybe part of (ie if you’re at school or even at work then get involved in clubs, sports, societies etc)!
  - Take opportunities to meet new people whenever you can!
  - Always be in control of yourself (know when to say yes and when to say no)!
  - written 6 days, 8 hours ago

• Happy birthday, Littlenick!
  

  Happy Birthday, dude! Have a good one!
  - written 4 weeks ago

• …………………&
  

  I think you’re severely underestimating the circumstances that existed at Kerbala! There are several commentators on Husayn and most of them will agree that it was a sacrifice that took place rather than just a war (including non-muslims, the likes of Mahatma Ghandi, Charles Dickens, etc.)!
  
  Have you read the statements that Husayn said prior to heading for Kerbala, he clearly states that he was not going in order to fight a war and that he knew that his demise and that of his family and followers was to pursue! I’m not sure you understand the gravity of happened (it wasn’t just a beheading)!
  
  You know, never mind, let’s stick to Christianity.
  
  How does the Trinity theory work (3 elements of God)? What does it consist of?
  - written 1 month, 1 week ago

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