2013-11-15 13:21:00 on this is frustrating.
that’s not being hopeless, that’s you practicing self control. if you can’t control yourself, then leave and tell him over the phone or leave a note, end of story. if nothing changes this is helping no one.
2013-11-15 11:42:36 on this is frustrating.
You are not his mother, nor is it your job to ‘take care’ of him. If that’s the only reason you’re staying then you’re doing neither of you a favor. If he’s clueless about so many things and you love him no longer(i assume you loved him at some point) then feel free to be honest and let him live his poor lost life on his own. He will manage, it’s not the end of the world, he will move on. He’s a capable human being that will learn how to do what’s necessary even if he has to hit rock bottom first…if he’s spoon fed everything, he will never learn. Playing mother isn’t cute when dealing with adults.
2013-11-15 11:32:08 on What do you think about this?
I don’t know if it’s ‘almost every time’(unless you feel everyone else but you is the wrong person to have the $$ lol). I guess it also depends if you’re referring to a specific group, what you mean by the ‘wrong’ people and that sort’a thing. Sometimes ppl do things in order to get $$ which other people wouldn’t or don’t do. Sometimes ppl have(or work to have) more chances than others to advance in certain ways which will allow them to obtain more $$. Some people who have it all sometimes loose it to others for some reason or other, and those who gained it may have had nothing to begin with or simply add to their pile. May have more later lol… :)
2013-11-15 08:56:17 on i have never played guitar but,
Hm, i guess you might as well memorize the words for a song of your choosing and strum randomly when it sounds right….or pick another bday present. It’s the gesture that counts! :)
2013-11-15 08:30:58 on I was talking to this guy who said he broke up with
That’s pretty sad but hey, maybe they deserve each other. Idk if they will try to come hurt you, but no one should be threatening you like that. Have her info? Call the cops.
2013-11-15 07:33:35 on I know this isnt a serious ‘help’ topic but..i could use some ideas if you have some time!
I like those ideas, i too would go for the more personal. This xmas my hubs asked to make him some traditional food from where he’s from, so i’m gonna give it a try(and try not to fail lol). When gifting in general i try to think of an experience as opposed to items. On a previous anniversary i gifted tickets for a balloon ride(which was amazing), for my hub’s last bday a day pass to a golf course, for my aunt’s last bday a certificate for an hr massage, the list goes on… :)
2013-11-15 07:27:28 on i have never played guitar but,
Browse youtube for easy or beginner guitar songs and you’ll come up with tons of tutorials on how to play what. How much time do you have to ‘practice’ before this? Will it be an electric or acoustic? If it’s acoustic the hardest thing will be building up the callus on your fingers. I recently started myself and got blisters after the 2nd day of practice(15mins a day).
2013-11-15 07:22:36 on I lost my insurance and cannot go to the pain doctor anymore.
Yes you CAN go to the doctor and/or get your meds, you’ll just have pay the total amount. I’m not very familiar with other options(than getting insurance in general), but could there be a place which has a payment plan or some kind of financial help/discounts? Can you pay with your credit card(s) perhaps, have you researched gov. help/programs?
2013-11-14 11:09:33 on my name is amanda and im 21.
:( sorry to hear of your troubles. Since the surgery has your hand healed enough where you can work again(it’s almost a year) even if it’s something other than a bartender? Keep reaching out to gov/city programs, the same goes for your mom.
2013-11-14 09:11:42 on why does she do this?
Seems like she likes to be involved in other’s business, could be she can’t/wants to deal with her own situation so she dives into everyone else’s. Maybe she has issues and wishes someone would have done that for her in the past so now she does it for others(regardless of what you think). Idk, there’s so many reasons which can make a person do something. If you’re not ok with this then tell her, and if you have how did she take it? Hopefully she doesn’t take it the wrong way, but if so be ready to loose that friendship.
2013-11-14 09:04:36 on Is my relationship normal?
Right, i don’t think he feels the same way either. His mood/personality changes are probably caused by something, maybe he’s looking for something new or maybe he’s already found it, who knows! I guess if you care enough about the guy have a chat and tell him exactly how you’re feeling, hopefully you’ll find he cares enough to want to make it work and/or be honest enough to say whatever it is he may prefer to do. If he does want to make it work yet he’s not putting any effort into that, then he was probably pulling your leg. Good luck! His expectation for wanting to take your virginity is hilarious, is he still hung up on his ex by any chance? Seriously, if that’s what he’s all about in some twisted way then he shouldn’t get involved with anyone who isn’t one(obviously).
2013-11-14 08:08:15 on Nobody will help my mother.
Hm, keep looking for programs which she may get help from. I second that, there’s a lot of help out there if you’re able to find it and get approved. If anyone specifically isn’t able or willing to get the correct diagnosis or details, then ask for someone that will. May have to put in some time but it’ll be worth it at the end.
2013-11-14 08:01:16 on My sister in law is destroying my family!
Sad and unfortunately. Your brother for some reason or other chooses to stay with her regardless of her behavior and what kind of person she really is. If all this drama has not gotten through to him yet, i doubt any attack from your family will do the trick(rather he’ll feel like he has to protect her. The time to say something was before they got married). So, what do you do? Keep your distance, avoid the drama. Why? ’cause you guys simply don’t get along, it’s not a secret.
2013-11-13 14:43:15 on Do you believe everyones life is pre-mapped out for them?
[quote mintra]I knew you were going to say that.[/quote]
2013-11-13 13:09:59 on Do you believe everyones life is pre-mapped out for them?
I don’t think so, all tho i’m sure you’ve heard the old ‘everything happens for a reason’ and that God has a plan and he knows everything etc etc… if it’s not predetermined i guess his plan for you is ever-changing(while knowing exactly how it’s going to turn out).