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• (2 votes) How do you view self harm?
  

  I don’t cut, so to me I don’t understand it. Just saying I don’t understand how someone can physically hurt themselves that way. Even the idea or imagining the act is so violent to me, and sends fear up my spin.
  
  I use to consider myself tough, I would play sports where I would run at top spend head first into others guys, most weighing over 90Kg and most bigger than me. I did this every weekend in winter for around 25 years, from the age of 5. Some of the physical injuries will be with me for the rest of my life, but I don’t consider this the same.
  
  Now I have stopped playing sports I have real problems, I no longer have a release for my frustrations and so in my head/mind I open up deep wounds everyday. I feel physical pain from doing that sometimes. Reading various post here have made me realize that there is little difference from cutting on the inside to doing it in a physical sense.
  
  Too me my scars are deep and I can see them when I look in a mirror, even though there are no real scars. I even feel others can see them so I act as though I have to hid them. I end up feeling I let all the people I know down.
  
  These are just my thoughts that were invoked by the original question, what do people think about self harm.
  
  I think it takes many forms. You might cut, I feel I destroy relationship I have, I think both are forms of self punishment, and both are harmful. And they are accumulative, compounding the pain in which they were attempting to relieve.
  
  - written 5 months, 2 weeks ago – voted for by [think peace], dove7

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• I hate my job and my bf is out of a job and its all
  

  Hunts man are cool we had one stuck between the window and the fly screen, had drunk a few beers and saw the sliowette climbing up behind the curtains, likes of horror movie … I miss sydney … and stuff like that.
  
  huntsman are harmless!!!!
  - written 5 months ago

• I don’t know how to loose weight.
  

  Run, run every day outside in the fresh air all you need to do is 20 mins and after a few weeks you will start to lose wait while eat the sugars you love.
  - written 5 months ago

• depression.
  

  Being ’scared to try’ equals ‘don’t know how’.
  
  Listen to linuxya, they are giving really good advise. If nothing else linuxya is helping me.
  - written 5 months, 1 week ago

• Should I say goodbye forever or hurt terribly when she moves on?
  

  Take it from me, if you know the is no future, move on before your obsession gets out of control. My obsession with a girl that I have lost has resulted in my lowest self esteem ever. I now have no job, no motivation, no interest in meeting new people and hide away from life.
  
  Telling her how you feel could make things equally worse, as they could better. I can’t advise here. Is there no chance you can just stay friends, it means not being obsessed with her, and over time you will drift apart naturally. A sudden break will only work if that is what you want, for me it made things worse.
  
  Best approach is to communicate, and talk it through fully, if you end up with unfinished business that can remain unfinished for a long time.
  - written 5 months, 1 week ago

• depression.
  

  [quote linuxya]Depression comes from being passive. Passivity comes from anxiety. Go to the root of the problem: not running away from people and activities because you feel uncomfortable or overwhelmed.
  
  The way out is action. Small goals, committing to those goals, and persisting until you achieve them and feel relief.
  
  Vigorous exercise, proper diet, and expanding your social horizons are the rest of the solution.[/quote]
  
  Good advice and I like the definition of depression too.
  
  [quote p1bike]i feel as though everythings so unreal and its getting me down. i feel like it could be the start of something very bad.[/quote]
  
  I feel this way too, i feel i live inside my head as apposed to reality. I think reality might be a better place to live but I am too scared to try.
  - written 5 months, 1 week ago

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