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• anyone who is looking for a way out by suicide… please read this. posted (4 months, 3 weeks) ago
  its not the way to go, trust me. i tried that way after living with my alcoholic mother. she was …

• i have posted this before, but i really think this is the perfect site to post this on and help people on… so here we go. posted (4 months, 3 weeks) ago
  hello, i am here today to tell you about my site… you see, i grew up in a family where my mom and…

• if your feeling sad, or have to motivation to continue on… posted (4 months, 3 weeks) ago
  please check out my site. its about my struggles with my alcoholic drug dealing mother, how i fina…

• hello, if you have the time… posted (4 months, 3 weeks) ago
  could you visit my site? it is being made to hopefully show people that anyone can overcome anythi…

• if you feel unmotivated, or feel like everything is crumbling around you… posted (4 months, 3 weeks) ago
  check out this site. http://cadys-story.webs.com/ its a story about my struggles and how i pulled…

• hey, if you havent seen this site can you check it out? posted (4 months, 4 weeks) ago
  i made it to try to help people, to try to give people hope that things will get better. its not f…

• if you have seen this site already, let me thank you, and if you have not, then i encourage you to visit. posted (4 months, 4 weeks) ago
  i created this in order to try to help people. its unfinished right now, but it depicts my life grow…

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• (1 vote) How do i tell my dad i have a boyfriend?
  

  hmm… well this is a tricky situation…
  
  try this…
  
  talk to your boyfriend, ask him if he would be alright if you stayed there with him for a little while if you tell your dad and he flips out and you feel threatened. if he says no, or it cant work for whatever reason, ask a close friend as well.
  
  now that you have a back up plan, i would suggest talking to your mom, or someone else in the house who has some kind of authority, in case you need help getting out if it grows serious.
  
  also, when talking to these people, make sure you give as much details as possible to what you are going to try to do, and when. so if something does happen (worse case scenerio, he locks you up or something(just based on your description of him) you have someone that knows that there might be a problem)
  
  third, now that your support system is established, think about how you are going to start the conversation with your dad. think about any topics that are unnecessary to mention unless brought up (for example that its been 15 months already)
  
  now, go try talk to your dad when he seems calm, dont interupt something he likes (for exampl a favorite show or something) and try to do it quickly. stalling and wasting time will only irritate people.
  
  also, if you have a cell phone, keep it on you during this time, if you need any kind of help from your support call when he is not around, if he hits you or beats you up, call the police (i know that sounds kind of scary but if you dont, he could seriously hurt you).
  
  if you notice he is starting to become angry, do not try to convince him not to be, let him vent his anger, and try to avoid keeping the conversation going till he calms down. dont ignore him or anything, just try to avoid the more… anger inducing topics.
  
  finally, if you feel threatened AT ANY TIME leave. if he does kick you out and wont let you back in, if your in canada anyways call social services. if your sixteen you can go on a program developed to help kids like you. its called the 16 and 17 program and will help you financially, and will help you find your own place to stay for a while.
  
  also try to keep any objects you may need close to you. your wallet for example and try to have some cash on you.
  
  some of these steps may not apply to you, and may be extreme for the circumstances, but as i am not there to witness anything, the more information you know the better off you are.
  
  edit this list to your specific needs.
  
  hope i helped :)
  
  - written 5 months, 1 week ago – voted for by wtfuhhkrystal!?

• (1 vote) how do i tell my parents?
  

  well, for this problem, follow these steps.
  
  first off ask them for a serious talk. make sure you tell them that it is importiant, so they do not brush it off and you do not catch them off guard.
  
  you dont fart around with stupid things and dont waste their time, its only going to make it more awkward.
  
  expect them to be a little shocked and possibly angry (depending on your parents)
  
  maintain eye contact, and dont try to hide your emotions.
  
  explain why this happened (but dont go into graphic details)
  
  always have a back up plan! have somewhere to go in case *something* goes wrong. some parents get a little… “irritated” at news like this and the situation can get extremely uncomfortable.
  
  tell the truth, if they ask you questions answer them. this way you show them your being more responsible then you have been.
  
  after all this it WILL be awkward for a while, but if you follow these steps you will have a better chance at having a better outcome
  
  - written 5 months, 1 week ago – voted for by ☞T☜

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• Just wondering what would happen if I tried pot.
  

  alright. it just seemed like your comment was belittling my earlier comment.
  
  anyhow. conversation droped. hope i helped. good luck and all that jazz :)
  - written 2 months, 2 weeks ago

• Just wondering what would happen if I tried pot.
  

  hey, i just said what the medical journals said.
  
  im not a doctor and im sure you arent, so lets not argue here. i stated what i found from the mayo clinic’s website, and you gave your oppinion. its not an argument about weed here. i gave him an answer to what he asked.
  - written 2 months, 2 weeks ago

• Just wondering what would happen if I tried pot.
  

  sigh…
  
  anti depressants generally should not be taken with alsohol… side effects of this may include… a dangerous rise in blood pressure, increased or new thoughts of suicide or increased depression, extreme drowsiness alone with intensifying any possible side effects of the drug you are on.
  
  pot from what i could find… can cause many of the same effects… the only one that did not seem to be included was the blood pressure rising… but mixing all three together on one day cant be too healthy…
  - written 2 months, 2 weeks ago

• How do I get rid of my lateral lisp?
  

  well… i can see its getting to you.
  
  alas i dont know how to fix that, but as for the last line you said…
  
  well if you were serious about that, then click the link below my post.
  - written 3 months ago

• My friend needs help!
  

  yea. well its actually my grandmas haha. but you would not believe how handy it comes when your helping people on this site haha.
  - written 3 months ago

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