i think you deserve better than that darling. don’t feel too bad, i know it’s hard, but take it as a blessing. he’s not the right guy for you, there IS someone out there who will treat you better and make you happy.
Not being an alcoholic I can’t tell you definitively anything about recovery rates. But from my own experiences I can tell you that he has to want to do it. You can only help him in being teetotal youself and if he asks then not keeping any drink in the house etc. When you said “i thought i loved him enough to help him” that speaks volumes, you are just coluding or helping his behaviour. It is a form of abuse and he needs to sort himself out and love himself enough, best you can do is probably the sort of tough love and to look to yourself.
I hope I have replied with remembering my post and yours - looks like you have given me a shout from your named account and I replied to anonymous!