Thanks for replies.
I was raised to put others first and never yourself.
I grew up believing that getting what you want will take that something away from others, so it is a wrong thing to do.
So I have always gave things up for others. Now I realize that my life has been meaningless and I have gotten anywhere.
But I am afraid to get what I want for fear of being punished. - written 3 weeks, 3 days ago