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• I need to talk to someone….
  

  We did a short holiday a couple of months back, we get to the hotel room and he wants to watch a john wayne movie, half way through it! I wanted to go for a walk. I gave him relax time first, a coffee, his smoke. There was something happening down the street, a music festival, fete thing. I wanted to go look, he said he’d walk me down there and come back to room alone. WTF
  This is life with him.
  It is not worth the effort.
  I want to give up.
  I’m going to cry again for the loss of happiness.
  - written 5 months, 3 weeks ago

• I need to talk to someone….
  

  I’ve done the holiday thing, a couple of times. I came back clear that things change or I go. He promises this that and the other but never follows through. Lets me down constantly. My gut tells me this is because he does not love me.
  We should listen to our gut, right? But he is sooooo convincing that he truely loves me, I want so much to believe it. I feel rejected and I’ve never dealt with rejection in my life so am not coping at all.
  I don’t know how to get through this. It’s too painful. because I’m the one living the pain, I know in the big picture things can be a whole lot worse but even knowing this does not help.
  - written 5 months, 3 weeks ago

• I need to talk to someone….
  

  yes, he is very settled in his ways. very laid back, I loved that about him when we first met but now it drives me crazy.
  I’ve spoken to him many times, he says he gets it at the time but nothing changes.
  I’m heading to fifty and feel life is wasting away. I need some stuff happening. going places doing things. He’s a dead ****, sorry. He has no get up and go in him at all. He’s content to read, listen to the radio, news and quizzes and visit a couple of friends for a chat. Is he in his forty’s or pushing 80?
  I’ve always had my own interests, I have lot’s of hobby’s and keep myself amused quite fine.
  Do I give up on the idea of living a life together?
  I feel cheated and resentful.
  I try hard to focus on myself, look after myself, create happiness within myself. It all works for awhile but it’s preety hard living under the same roof with a man that is just not into living together.
  - written 5 months, 3 weeks ago

• I need to talk to someone….
  

  we had an arguement a week ago, and it was ’set in stone’ then that we go out next days off. Well they have come and gone and he spent the entire time watching footy, like four days! and visiting with his friend. Now he wants me to forgive him and give him another chance because he really does love me and he just didn’t think, He is so sorry he is thoughtless, blah blah blah. The trouble is the same kind of crap has been going on and on, 18 solid months. Is this our destiny? To live a boring nothing life? am I wanting too much? I’ve settled for once a month, to go out together, that’s it. and even that isn’t happening.
  - written 5 months, 3 weeks ago

• I don’t feel like I’m in touch with reality.
  

  hi dotty,i came on hear looking for help too. sorry your feeling so down, i can relate to your feelings. i’m feeling pretty crap too.
  - written 5 months, 3 weeks ago

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