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I’m going to guess that 1.) you no longer have wireless phone service to your iPhone and 2.) you were downloading apps online via the online app store. I don’t have an iPhone myself, but if this is the case, I’d imagine you’ll have to either download apps wirelessly via internet connection or download them to your computer via iTunes and upload them to your phone.

[quote Pepsi]This is what happens when you lead a woman on to believe that her mouth was designed for more than choking on d***.[/quote]

Regardless of what your intensions were, that was just rude. If you have to hide behind sarcasm, you’re obviously not a very funny person. There are far better ways to remain compelling than grasping for the lowest common denominator.

LOL. It also appears that you have the type of family that thinks they know everything. If you doubt it, just ask them. Somehow however, I’m willing to bet that none of them are opticians either. So I’ve got to ask - what in the hell can they possibly know about YOUR eyes that your doctors, who all spent YEARS in medical school, do not? Of course it is possible for any doctor to be wrong, but most doctors I know do not go about will-nilly referring their patients to expensive specialists just for fun. Your doctor is trying to protect your vision. Your family is trying to protect their egos. Ignore them and take care of yourself.

Incidentally, what you’re experiencing is normal, at least from my experience. When you wear glasses, you are correcting your vision. When the glasses come off, you are no longer correcting it and your eyes will obviously have to adjust to the new conditions. If it persists, though, I recommend consulting your doctor about it again. If you can describe the issue, it may be something that he or she can discuss with you over the phone and you won’t have to worry about making another appointment.

Of all the drugs you could have taken, these would appear to be among the lest severe; however, that certainly does not rule out life threatening complications. Antidepressants like Prozac can be toxic when taken at high levels, so as the people above, I suggest you seek medical treatment immediately.

[quote Pepsi]It’s okay, most women don’t.[/quote]

Apparently, you don’t get sexism.

Talking to a professional is treatment, Nellie.

Anyway, I’m going to refer to something I wrote on a similar post a while back: You can not QUIT cutting. It’s not something you quit. That doesn’t mean you can’t abstain and keep yourself away from it, but there are larger things at work. Let me explain:

Everyone’s brains are set up to deal with problems. Cutting is your brain’s way of coping with these problems. It’s not the best way, we know that, but it’s how your brain is set up to handle things RIGHT NOW. If you try to “quit” cutting, you’ll leave your brain with no way to cope. And, as those of you who’ve relapsed have discovered, your brain MUST find a way to cope somehow. I don’t know what would happen if your brain didn’t find a way to cope, but for the sake of argument, just picture lots of things exploding.

So there we have it - your brain currently understands two things in life 1.) cut 2.) explode. Either way, not good. So, in order to help your brain along, you literally have to teach it other ways to deal with problems. You have to teach it other methods of coping and make sure it knows to use those first. Then when problems arise, you won’t NEED or WANT to cut. And THAT is how one stops - it stops itself, you see?

The best way to address this is through therapy with a professional that you understand and trust. Whatever issues underly your cutting - abuse, trauma, whatever - those need to be brought out in a healthy way. Just like an infection, if they aren’t addressed, they will keep right on bothering you and you’ll be right back where you started from. But you can definitely change your life if you want to!

Ok, maybe I should be more clear…

Don’t act in a way that you don’t really feel. Ultimately, you’re only lying to yourself. Your counselors are there to help you whether you feel good or bad, so don’t short change yourself with the time you’re spending there. The next time you go into their office, say “Look, I feel f’ing bad today, OK? I started cutting again and I’m having nightmares and, regardless of how I act sometimes, I am still not 100% happy. We need to fix this, so let’s get started.” Totally cool to do.

Ask him/her about the EMDR…and don’t hide your feelings. That’s not going to help anyone!

Definitely not texting him will get him to think more. That is the beginning of losing friendships and the other sorts of things that he will come to regret as he gets older. Eventually, once he’s had enough of that, he’ll come to see the error of his ways. A word of warning, though- you’re happily going on with a cleaner and soberer life, so you might not be there to see that happen. For now, though you can be perfectly honest with him. Make it clear that his choices (not the drugs) have changed him and you don’t need that around you or in your life. It’s probably not easy, but it is that simple.

Have you gotten treatment for this, Spazzy?

“Where can i go to get him help. I know only he can help himself but I need some sort of clinic”

Back the codependency train up for a sec. You CAN’T help him - you know this. In fact, you stated it above. He’s absolutely not going to go into any sort of rehab until, unfortunately, he HAS F’d his life up. That’s sort of the way it works for addicts, which I’m sure you know by now. You need to take a step back from him and let him make his own decisions, wherever they may take him. Otherwise all it’s going to do - and I do mean ALL - is make you miserable and drag you down with him. If he wants to be an idiot, he’s going to be an idiot. People at 17 think they’re invincible - he’ll soon find out otherwise. You can’t save him now, but when/if he’s ever ready to clean up, you can choose to be there for him them. That’s the real choice you have to make - to ride out the storm or abandon ship before it starts to sink. The rest, of course, is up to him.

Oh puh-lease. What are you like 16? You’ve a whole world ahead of you. You should read the “Big Book” for alcoholics and check out Bill W’s story. Bill was the guy who founded AA and, when he did, he was literally inches from death. The guy had quit drinking about 1000 times and had lost just about everything a man can lose in his lifetime. By the end of his days, it was just him in a hospital bed counting down the hours. BUT not only did he somehow live, he also sobered up and went on to from one of the largest organizations in the world, one that’s saved countless thousands of other lives. And he did all this only AFTER he had given up on everything…including himself. So you see, it’s never too late as long as you’re still moving forward.

Yay! I will pray for you, too :)

That’s really horrible, Kwstar. I have had PTSD myself, so I know how you feel. I have two, possibly 3, suggestions for you. First off, you should consider seeing a counselor. Not just a school counselor, but if possible, one trained in handling post-traumatic stress. I also suspect that this is not the ONLY stressful occurrence to happen in your life. In fact, it is probably just the most recent and so sticks in your mind the most clearly. If that is the case, it’s going to be very helpful to discuss the other events in counseling as well, because they are all related in one way or another.

Secondly, I would encourage you to seek out a treatment called EMDR. It is a treatment that is geared SPECIFICALLY for PTSD and, by all the doctors accounts I have witnessed, has an exceedingly high rate of effectiveness for eliminating the symptoms. You can find lots of information about in online, but it will also be something that you will have to see a counselor for.

Thirdly, you might consider talking to your doctor about your sleeping problems. The therapy above has a greater chance of stopping your nightmares, but if simply sleeping is a problem, he or she might be willing to try you on a short-term sleep aid to give your body a little help until the therapy gets going.

As I was told, this condition *is* treatable, so don’t give up hope! Good luck, kwstar!

[quote Jessica909]He does cocaine every one and a while and he said he doesn’t want me to live with him, so…[/quote]

Just saw this…obviously, your Dad is not a good option if he’s using too. I would contact the groups above and see if they can help you learn to cope with her addiction while you finish school.