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It’s not about settling. It’s about realizing that the perfect guy/girl doesn’t exist. Sorry, but they just don’t. You can spend your entire life being unhappy looking for the perfect person, and chances are you will never find them. In relationships I don’t settle, I tend to find the best in all people whom I date and I like them all for being unique. I have been with guys who weren’t my typical dream guy looks-wise, but who were funny, intelligent and caring in ways that other, more handsome guys weren’t. Is that settling, because I wasn’t insanely attracted to them at the start? I don’t think it is. I think it’s falling for a person for reasons you’re not even aware of yourself. I have liked people in the past and not known why I liked them. They weren’t my type, we clashed on everything, and there were complications aplenty, but each guy I liked nonetheless. I could also have seen a future with all 3.

You can’t have everything! Not everybody is perfect and trying to find the perfect guy who has looks, charm, loves you, is committed, is compatible with you and shares the same goals and aspirations as you is almost an impossible feat, and basing your happiness off of this ideal is going to get you nowhere. Thing is right, I find that often the best relationships are ones where the two people are with each other because the other offers them something that no one else can. Whether it’s something about their personality, or how they treat them, whatever it is, it’s that one reason alone that keeps them from looking for other people. That means that no they may not have an unspoken chemistry, they may be completely incompatible in all other areas, but that one thing makes it work. I also always say that when you are looking for relationships, you tend to land yourself with the wrong people for the wrong reasons. Your best bet is to be happy on your own, and chances are someone will eventually come along who may not be everything you hope for, but who is right for you and who will make you happy.

[quote Anonymous]but i’m not sure i want to settle… there’s this guy… who would probably adore me and make me his number one priority. but for some reason… there’s no attraction on my end… i just… can’t seem to find both :([/quote]

You better not be any age under 30 asking this question or I’ll rage >:l
Thing is, chemistry is fleeting. It’s not enough to go by and build a relationship upon because you can’t trust it. The guys who you have a certain chemistry with and are insanely attracted you, rarely ever end up being lifelong partners. The longest lasting loving relationship I know of, they all started off as friends, and over time built an affinity for each other and the relationship progressed. Both couples I speak of are madly in love and having both been together for 2+ years by now.

[quote 2d20][quote confusedns]In the long run, you really can’t stay with someone who doesn’t love and adore you..so u better look for someone who loves you.[/quote]

You can if you’re an emotional masochist. ^ ^[/quote]

lol. Well whatever works right? I’d rather be with someone who loved and adored me. I could learn to love them, you know, familiarity and all.

Half a sandwich? HALF A SANDWICH? What’s wrong with you girl!

lol

Whoops, by Don’t Shave I meant DO Shave, lol.

I’ve decided to make an anti no-shave policy for every month of the year!

Just Bare January
Follicle Shave February
Mo’ Bare Skin March
Absolutely Hairless April
Unmanly May
Joyfully Smooth June
Joyfully Smooth Take 2 July
All Over Shave August
Sumptuously Silky September
Outwardly Shaven October
Naked Mole Rat November
Don’t Shave December

No friends, or acquaintances, or family at all? Well then I guess you’ve royally f*cked yourself over? Break up with him, but agree to stay in the flat until you can work up enough money to get out?

[quote M. Wright]OK. I come from the thought that you should defend a person’s rights and liberties no matter who they are or whether or not you agree with them. If you’re the only free person left, who’s going to defend you when someone comes after your rights and liberties?[/quote]

I mean I agree with that, but I disagree with freedom of religion. I really, really do. How can religion claim a right to freedom when the very institution they are fighting for threatens all of ours? From birth if you are born into a religious family, you’re freedom is being taken away from you. The freedom of choice. If you live in a country where your religion is your people’s culture, that is not freedom of religion. When a religion waves the ‘freedom to practice our beliefs’ flag I call BS. Religion threatens the freedom of the human mind and does so very easily in this modern world, and has been getting away with eating at the fabric of human progression for far too long. So I actually think what Sweden did in this referendum is a good thing. I know many people don’t agree with this view, and many people believe that tolerance is important, but I like the majority of Swedish citizens do not want to start practicing tolerance for dangerous religion anytime soon.

I don’t have a problem with this.

[quote flabbie]oh wow, now i’m a pathetic immature sad ungrateful spoiled selfish nasty greedy person…cool with me…i agree…totally agree with you all…[/quote]

Glad you’ve come to realise it, and happy to have helped.

Um… you could ask, why, or, I don’t know… how any normal person would respond? 0_o

Zomg noes whatvs will u duu????
/sarcasm

Bullies will pick on easy targets (old, sick, physically unattractive etc) because this is the only way they can feel good about themselves. They are heartless, insecure, unintelligent thugs, that is why they do what they do, because they can amount to no better. It’s very sad, but it’s not getting worse. It’s always been this way. It’s just more evident now than it was before.