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  think peace, you made a sweet comment on my post about my wife and I fighting. I posted anaonymously but I am here to help.
  
  I’m not the best at advising things, and honestly I feel pretty down right now too. I have been suicidal at times in my life, and flashes of those thoughts entered my mind when my wife and I fought. I have made it through a lot of difficulties in my life, and I always seem to come out OK. I have two sons to think about, to provide for. I would be very selfish to take my own life and hurt them.
  
  So, I guess what I think we both need to think about is the people out there who rely on us, even in the slightest ways, who would suffer if we were not here. Every life touches another. You sound fairly young, but you must have friends, siblings, even cousins or other relatives who would be troubled or hurt.
  
  And your mother, I do not know her or the situation, but if you have made it this far in life, your mother cares for you. Sometimes parents have their own issues that plague them and they aren’t strong enough to deal with them and a child too. Sometimes older people are more screwed up than younger ones. But it might just be a phase in her life, or your life, or both. There might be better things ahead if you wade through the problems and make it to the other side. There IS a place for you in this world, there is happiness. Don’t rob yourself of the opportunity to find it. :)
  - written 5 months, 1 week ago

• Hi.
  

  I do have a tendancy to be longwinded. sorry about that.
  
  Yes, she does have a mean streak…I don’t know why. I only saw flashed of it while we dated, but it got worse after we married. We are still newlyweds, the pregancy came fast. Yes, I think we are still both learning things about each other.
  
  I want this to work out. Truth is, I WILL divorce her before I let five years slip by like my last wife, five years of unhappiness. I just don’t want to be rash, I think you have to work at things and give them a chance. I’m not sure where to draw the line. But I’m also afraid that people don’t change, they only get worse with time. Very frustrating.
  - written 5 months, 1 week ago

• I want this to end…..
  

  My parents divorced, it is a very difficult thing to go through.
  I myself am beginning to wonder if there is anything I can do to resolve family issues. Sometimes you just have to accept things, even if they hurt. Maybe your parents still love each other and can work things out, but you can’t FORCE them to and neither can your siblings. All you can do is love them and comfort them both. taking sides is not the answer unless ONE OR THE OTHER is truly, truly the one to blame for it all. This is rarely the case, relationships are a two way street.
  
  I may not be the best person to help you, I’m going through some issues of my own here. I wish you the best of luck and I want you to be strong for yourself, because ultimately your the one you have to care for above all.
  - written 5 months, 1 week ago

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