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• i miss her like hell. posted (5 months, 1 week) ago
  she’s my classmate, but i study and live in different countries, i spend bout 8 months a year …

• i like to help people because i’m really judgmental and cocky and i think i know alot about life even though i know that i don’t know all there posted (5 months, 1 week) ago
  like to help people because i’m really judgmental and cocky and i think i know alot about lif…

• hi everyone.. posted (5 months, 2 weeks) ago
  i’ve been in one relationship in my life…i was really naive back then but i’ve nev…

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• (1 vote) 22 No job, no friends, no GF, rent is due i can pay it with my college savings but it is bleeding dry.
  

  bro it took me close to two whole years to get over a chick who i loved, i think, much the way u loved yours…she cheated on me as well. and yes, she’s perfectly fine with it, and she’s happy with her new boyfriend and i still find it disgusting how people can…be that way at all. but it doesn’t matter, cause i’ve come thru, and i’ve met someone else, (be it as it may that it took two years…but i loved my cheating ex beyond all words).
  
  you have to believe me when i say: YOU WILL MEET SOMEONE.
  i’m very emphatic about this because that was my greatest fear; that i would never meet anyone else like her. but you will fall in love again, if you give yourself the time, and make the opportunities for yourself to do so..just believe me man, stick with it.
  
  about friends? i’ve never had one who didn’t disappoint sooner or later. like another member on help.com said to me, and i quote: u will have many acquaintances, but not many friends. don’t worry if you think you’re short on friends. everybody is, and acquaintances are just overrated. what you’re doing now? focusing on your homework and hitting the gym? you are on the prefect track to recovery man. invest time in your mind, invest time in your body, and your social life will follow. i know it sucks to feel alone, but you have to control your feelings, and shove them aside, if you must, to achieve your own true potential, and live your life to the fullest. calc sucks man. but i’ll offer you a sliver of hope…it’s maths..and it’s hard to understand…but practice it, constantly, continuously, push yourself to figure it out, it IS possible, and once you have it, it never leaves you, and you almost always have the right answer. you just have get over that hill. bout your money woes…sigh…maybe get a part-time job? if you can…lemmee know how it goes man. you’re doing well, focus on your studies, focus on the gym, and you will find yourself getting somewhere.
  
  i hope this helps, cause you really seem like a nice guy, and you really deserve whatever help you can get. and people like you just aren’t easy to come by in our day-to-day lives, which is perhaps another reason you feel alone…but truth is, most people just aren’t worth it. so yeah. take care man, chin up, take it one day at a time, and you’ll get wherever you wanna go.
  
  - written 5 months ago – voted for by LoneWulf

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• I can’t hold hands with my girlfriend.
  

  have you ever held hands with a girl before? i don’t mean this patronizingly, but it’s just that the first time it really is always kind of awkward. don’t think too much about it, and just gently take her hand one day….you might get a “pleasantly surprised” look, but then it’ll all be good from then on…or is there another reason that you feel intimidated? i really shouldn’t presume too much i guess…perhaps elaborate a bit more on why you feel that way?
  - written 4 months, 4 weeks ago

• i miss her like hell.
  

  thanks loads for that pretty girl…yep pretty much just trying to go about just that right now…but it always helps to see it in someone else’s words, keeps things in perspective. sincere thanks.
  - written 4 months, 4 weeks ago

• 22 No job, no friends, no GF, rent is due i can pay it with my college savings but it is bleeding dry.
  

  bro it took me close to two whole years to get over a chick who i loved, i think, much the way u loved yours…she cheated on me as well. and yes, she’s perfectly fine with it, and she’s happy with her new boyfriend and i still find it disgusting how people can…be that way at all. but it doesn’t matter, cause i’ve come thru, and i’ve met someone else, (be it as it may that it took two years…but i loved my cheating ex beyond all words).
  
  you have to believe me when i say: YOU WILL MEET SOMEONE.
  i’m very emphatic about this because that was my greatest fear; that i would never meet anyone else like her. but you will fall in love again, if you give yourself the time, and make the opportunities for yourself to do so..just believe me man, stick with it.
  
  about friends? i’ve never had one who didn’t disappoint sooner or later. like another member on help.com said to me, and i quote: u will have many acquaintances, but not many friends. don’t worry if you think you’re short on friends. everybody is, and acquaintances are just overrated. what you’re doing now? focusing on your homework and hitting the gym? you are on the prefect track to recovery man. invest time in your mind, invest time in your body, and your social life will follow. i know it sucks to feel alone, but you have to control your feelings, and shove them aside, if you must, to achieve your own true potential, and live your life to the fullest. calc sucks man. but i’ll offer you a sliver of hope…it’s maths..and it’s hard to understand…but practice it, constantly, continuously, push yourself to figure it out, it IS possible, and once you have it, it never leaves you, and you almost always have the right answer. you just have get over that hill. bout your money woes…sigh…maybe get a part-time job? if you can…lemmee know how it goes man. you’re doing well, focus on your studies, focus on the gym, and you will find yourself getting somewhere.
  
  i hope this helps, cause you really seem like a nice guy, and you really deserve whatever help you can get. and people like you just aren’t easy to come by in our day-to-day lives, which is perhaps another reason you feel alone…but truth is, most people just aren’t worth it. so yeah. take care man, chin up, take it one day at a time, and you’ll get wherever you wanna go.
  - written 5 months ago

• I really need some help and I was hoping someone could give me a little advice.
  

  Try any way you can man. webcam, email, snail mail, aol online/msn messenger, phone calls, text messages(!)…basically just anyway you can be close to her, attempt. i guess the most important thing to get across is that you really wanna be there for her, even if you can’t be, physically, and act on that to show her that you mean it.
  
  How to help her per say…man..that is a toughie. Just be there for her as much as you can, listening, supporting, and generally making sure that she knows you’re with her thru every tear she sheds..Really just listening, and telling her that it’ll be okay, are about as much as you can do for her. Perhaps you could try calling her ex’s brother…to figure out what would’ve prompted such strange behaviour…(why would you try to screw over your own brother before he was gonna die, right??)but that might lead to a wholeee new other series of events which you probably might not wanna have to deal with when ur away from ur girl.
  
  Bout ur relationship? u probably shouldn’t be wondering that man…as understandable as it is that you are. u need to give her as much time and space as she needs, and if you find yourself asking “how long is this gonna take?” it might build up to a sort of impatience and if you are even slightly less sensitive to her emotional needs that you would normally be it could end less-than-amazingly…you know how chicks need support right? yeah..so just be there man. this IS your relationship, and although you might not be ‘enjoying’ it, as you should be, there is no better way than demonstrating ur love and care for this girl than hanging in there with her every step of the way.
  
  my ten cents worth. hope this helps. good luck man…and sorry to ur girlfriend for everything. nites
  - written 5 months ago

• I want to care
  

  i know that it really sucks that the majority of people in the world can be morons most of the time, but it really isn’t within your control to keep them from making stupid mistakes. what Is within your control is that you stick to your own convictions..eg: following rules, so that at the very least you don’t lose yourself in the midst of all the stupidity. if you never really believed in following the rules in the first place, then perhaps now, when you are getting tired of living your life the way you have been, for the sake of keeping the peace, is the time when you have to find yourself, and figure out who you wanna be. your world is only as ordered as you are, and You are the only thing you are really in control of. let go of people you don’t like. let go if things you don’t like to do. anger might be the only emotion you are feeling because you’ve been using all the others for the sake of everyone but yourself. the cracks which are appearing have always been imminent, the fact that they are appearing now just goes to show that you’ve reached the end of your fuse. tell everyone what you really think, what you really feel. it’s gonna be a hell of a time, but perhaps it just Is time to come clean with everyone, and more importantly, with yourself.
  - written 5 months, 1 week ago

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