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• Hello.
  

  It is about Respect, Karge had t right. If you need confirmation about the above, just look at the way he treats other people. Look at how he treats his parents or his parents treat him. Look for clues. He may not have gotten to be this way on his own, and this is by no means said for you to pity him. I am saying look here and there for confirmation of what you all ready know. You have to CHANGE your mind, your thoughts. You have something like 10,000 thoughts a day, 9,900 are the same thoughts you had yesterday. He has become a bad habit (that’s why you call him, even though you know you shouldn’t)
  The treatment….as stated above:
  Keep busy with friends
  Go away on vacation without telling him
  Stop telling him anything about your life
  When you go to call him-phone a friend instead (think of it like quitting smoking or drinking–you need a sponsor!)
  Pick up a new hobby, take a class
  Get in to counceling–
  There should be a support group for this…because I have talked to many women, myself included (and men for that matter) who know that breaking up is the right thing to do, but they can’t do it.
  It took you six years to where you are now….it is going to take a long process to break it off completely.
  - written 5 months ago

• I’ve got it all- great girlfriend, nice appartment, great job yet I am never happy or contented.
  

  Your soul is yearning for something, and until you figure it out, you might feel this way. I caution you on making any impulsive leaps, you may do damage to others, and burn bridges. Be mindful. I strongly suggest trying a meditation retreat. (Vipassna 10 day sit, is a great one) To pray is to ask, to meditate is to hear the answer.
  
  If this scares you or annoys you…that is good! And if you absolutely DO NOT want to try this (if you are scared if it or don’t believe in it at all) then that means it could really really help you. You need to do something scary or unusual.
  Try to make that thing be constructive not destructive.
  
  Also– inherent in all of us is a need for uncertainty. (See some of Tony Robbins work) Your life seems to be very certain-no surprises. You may be in danger of makeing some uncertainty by rocking the boat (ie getting in trouble w work, or looking at having an affair)
  Just be careful of what you do, try to remain mindful. Watch your self. You could cause a mess.
  - written 5 months ago

• I just need to let this pain out, it’s not even a real question…
  

  You are doing the right thing by expressing yourself! Keep on expressing yourself. Turn the pain into a poem or a painting or a song. Let your creativity feed from this, it is one thing pain can be useful for.
  We all hurt this way Optti, I promise you, everyone suffers in his/her own way. Not that that is any comfort when you are depressed.
  Feel your pain. You all ready know that you are good, that you will be ok.
  You will be ok.
  You are ok!
  You have helped me to gain perspective on my own situation. Thank you for the expression.
  - written 5 months ago

• What will make my daughter listen?
  

  YOU are the one who is NOT listening!
  
  Be the change you wish to see in the world.
  - written 5 months ago

• I’m a 22 year old single male.
  

  Starting with boundaries, could be it. You are 22, try “dating”, or developing a friendship with both of these women. This means NO SEX, until you have discovered who you want to share your life with. You seem to be a man with integrity, and are thoughtful. (great qualities!)
  Be up front with both women, tell the mom, that you are concerned about the dynamic of a relationship that involves a child. Ease into it, just have a few casual dates–take the mom and her child to get ice cream. If the child doesn’t like you off the bat, that could be your answer. Tell bro’s ex that you are concerned about the dynamic of a relationship that could hurt your brotherly bond. Take her out a few times, see if your brother does get pissed off and see if you can manage that.
  This is a great experience for you to CARVE out YOUR life, by DESIGN not by DEFAULT.
  Keep practicing all of the qualties you want in a mate, keep treating people the way you want to be treated. It may be neither of these women that captures your heart, but if you remain respectful, honorable and true to yourself, you will find the same in her.
  It takes at least 3-5 MONTHS to get to know someone enough to know if you are a good fit.
  Take that time! And don’t settle!
  - written 5 months ago

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