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• I need help
  

  You are not alone. I know it feels like it, but I’ve been where you are.
  
  Tell me, are you cutting dangerously? If so, you need to find someone, a real person, right now, and ask for help.
  
  If you’re giving yourself non-dangerous injuries, we both know you need to stop, but only you can make it happen. For me, I realised that I didn’t want to be scarred forever, and that eventually was enough to make me stop. Can you imagine yourself, one day, older and happier? Wouldn’t you like to meet that day unscarred?
  
  Right now, I’m going to suggest you find a book you loved as a child, curl up with it and forget about tomorrow. Tomorrow I’d like you to call your doctor and ask for help. It doesn’t have to be like this, I promise.
  - written 5 months ago

• my boyfriend and i have been together for 3 years and
  

  What sort of thing does he do for her? And what sort of a relationship do they have, officially - are they still friends?
  
  If it’s making you feel uncomfortable, the bottom line is that he should stop. If he doesn’t want to, you need to ask him why he’s not willing to put your feelings before anyone else’s.
  
  Big question: do they have children together? If so, he may feel unable to turn down any of her requests because he needs to maintain contact with the children. If they don’t have children, there’s no reason for him to maintain a good relationship with her if it’s damaging yours. Ask him to change his behaviour. He is not being reasonable.
  
  (That said, sometimes guys are unreasonable simply because they don’t realise that something is upsetting to you. Make sure you give him a chance to explain and discuss it with you. Communication is everything.)
  - written 5 months ago

• My boyfriend and I have been together for 18 months.
  

  WHATABIGNICKNAM, this is the answer I wanted to hear, thank you so much! I didn’t realise until you posted it.
  
  I do need to ask him, but I hope that, like you, he just wanted to give us both an undisturbed night’s rest.
  
  This site is great, thanks guys.
  - written 5 months ago

• My mom thinks I shouldn’t have little things that make me different than her.
  

  Ask your mother whether she ever did anything different from the way her folks did it.
  
  Then explain to her that you’re on your path to learning how to be an adult, and that you trust her to be able to tell the difference between when you’re actively disobeying her and when you’re just harmlessly experimenting with life. Tell her that she brought you up to be inquisitive and thoughtful, and that you’re exploring the world just like she’d want an intelligent daughter to do.
  
  Then tell her that if you ever find you’re not sure about something important, you will always ask her advice.
  
  Hopefully that will reassure her and give her the confidence to let you do your own thing a bit more. Good luck.
  - written 5 months ago

• My boyfriend and I have been together for 18 months.
  

  Thank you. I texted him on my way home an hour ago, but no reply - I suppose he’s in bed (11.45pm UK time) but it’s unusual for him.
  
  I know you’re right, but it just makes me feel rotten and I can’t have the conversation with him right now, so I feel a bit sad and lost. Thanks for the good answers, though.
  
  New question: how do I cheer myself up enough to sleep well and worry about it tomorrow?
  - written 5 months ago

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