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• i need to stop hating my ex. posted (1 year, 2 months) ago
  please help. last week, after over 5 years together, my *** of an ex deceived and dropped me in th…

• I can’t stop bursting into tears at random times by myself. posted (1 year, 3 months) ago
  Driving to work; sitting in front of my work computer; etc. My (now) ex admitted three days ago th…

• arrrgh - i just had a terrible job interview. posted (5 years, 8 months) ago
  and i’m beating myself upside the head. stupidness. now i have to scrounge up references and…

• What do you do to make yourself (or your children) comfortable when you are suffering from the common cold? posted (5 years, 8 months) ago
  (e.g., cough, sore throat, the sweats). Updated: My new cold comfort drink: Cut up healthy c…

• several questions…a couple personal…. posted (5 years, 9 months) ago
  is there such a thing as ‘the one’? can/should one wait for their ‘ideal’ …

• help! posted (5 years, 11 months) ago
  i get the world’s worst paper jams. and i need a permanent solution. i’ve got a brot…

• R.I.P. posted (5 years, 11 months) ago
  nick of time my mare, nikki, was put to sleep this morning at 9am my time. she started to colic la…

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• (1 vote) Why is it so important to be politically correct?
  

  np. it was interesting for me too.
  i find it funny when people say they’re too old to change — b/c everything changes. language, everything. it’s unnatural not to change - isn’t it?
  
  just some more food for thought. it’s why i come on this site, no?!
  
  - written 5 years, 8 months ago – voted for by Astrid

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• i need to stop hating my ex.
  

  Warning: Rant.
  
  what i would like to do (but won’t):
  
  - steal his dog (who he doesn’t even know how to care for);
  - kick him in the groin; shins; pull his hair; punch him in the stomach; and poke him in the eye;
  - throw a brick through his windshield;
  - throw a brick through his bedroom window;
  - pour bleach on all his clothes;
  - spray paint profanities on his car;
  - slash his tires;
  - key his car;
  - pour cement down his sewer pipes;
  - put neet in his shampoo;
  
  but i won’t. ~sigh~
  
  instead, i will chose to feel sorry for his sorry-self, his sorry excuse of a relationship with his unfortunate new g/f, and his sorry stupid self. i will sleep on it and try and dream about tomorrow.
  - written 1 year, 2 months ago

• i need to stop hating my ex.
  

  thanks so much for your reply and affirming my anger. everyone’s input has been really helpful. it’s like an alternate universe where common-sense prevails (apparently, we’ve been estranged for too long!).
  
  thank you all for talking me off the ceiling!
  
  kitten, you’re right in that he has moved on. and for all my anger and aNgER!!!, i am relieved that i haven’t once felt like i want him back. it complicates things less to experience just sheer rage :P
  
  Question: What are the stages between anger and acceptance? these feelings keep coming in waves- just when i think i’m fine, Bam! it would be nice to know when the end is neigh. perhaps the answer is in wiki?
  
  i haven’t been back to this site for a few years - but i’m grateful for it and the community of folks like yourselves. thanks for inviting me to rant — I’ll probably take you up on that. i apologize in advance for the length of my rants, but it’s true i’d prefer not to be subject to a restraining order.
  
  so thanks again! i’ll probably keep re-reading these as req’d (and maybe have a little cry) but i’m happy to be looking forward to an unexpectedly peaceful sleep tonight..!
  - written 1 year, 2 months ago

• i was so pathetic in the past
  

  i think the operative word in your post is “Was.”
  
  my dear, i think you’ve already gotten over it no? it’s in the past and congratulations - many people struggle to get to “was..”.
  
  you are not what you were!
  
  not to sound to corny (but i don’t know too much about you, so this seems apt): tomorrow is the first day of the rest of your life!
  - written 1 year, 2 months ago

• i need to stop hating my ex.
  

  i’ll keep telling myself, “breathe…don’t hit him…breathe…don’t hit him…” got it! :)
  - written 1 year, 2 months ago

• I can’t stop bursting into tears at random times by myself.
  

  Thank you! I needed to hear this. (it brought me to tears b/c it smacks of common sense).
  
  since i originally posted today, i sent once last text. there’s a colleague at work who calls me “bulldog,” b/c i’m a stubborn advocate (which is an asset in my job). but i’m unclenching my jaw now.
  
  that’s it. i’m done. i’m Done!!! thanks again - i may be able to sleep tonight afterall!
  - written 1 year, 2 months ago

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