TheQueenJr's reply history at Help.com

lol, u know u sound abit like me… well, i think for me the people i’d really want to bother with the most would be those a) that i know i can trust b) been there through the rough times with me and stuck by me c) the ones who genuinely make me happy and contribute positively to my life

Thank you guys, you guys are amazing! :)

wow, i should sue my doctor

Thursday i think it is…i go with my mum

Thank you aisha… i’m pretty scared of use being seperated to though…. i’ll try with my physcotherapist again. I do know that it’s not going to get better, my mum’s just always hoped one day her prayers will magically work and we’ll wake in the morning to changed new dad. It’s not going to happen though :/i think i’d rather talk to my physcotherapist first…. hopefully she does something… last time all they did was come to my house once tho, and then speak to my dad who obviously lied and daid’he’s fine’ so they took his word and went [quote Aisha]Queen, please listen to Padre, you need to get out of that situation. It is never going to get better, unless they both get help and it does not seem as if they want to. They are telling you stories to scare you not because they want to change and make things right, but only to scare you into not getting help for yourself.

Nothing that happened is your fault even if your parents try and persuade you that it is. If we all here can understand that, then so will the police.

Even if child services becomes involved, it would be better for you to be safe. Your parents are grown ups and cannot blame you for behaving badly. You did nothing wrong.[/quote]

Thank you for all your help and guidance jonathon, u’re replies never seem to fail to help me out… i will ask God to help guide me into doing what is right at the right time, because i feel i’ve tried doing as much as i can or can think of right now, me and my mum do see my physcotherapist together now… hopefully i hope it helps her open up about my dad abit more, i think it should (God willing)

SNAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAPPPPPP!!!!! we are basically in the same situation my friend! feel free to add me as a friend on ur account if u like, i don;t know what to do about my father, he needs help, but i feel like i’m the only one who’s willing to take action. My mum doesn’t bother, shes just weak and been abused too much, i get fustrated at her though, she’s lost her brains it feels like to me, and then my dad will never take help anyway, he thinks he’s fine or that he’ll ‘live’ by carrying on with his ’struggle’ because apparently that’s what life’s all about, being a nut cae, and making everyone in ur house a nutcase with u. I too know how to respect people and i genuinely and just not easy to follow the rules with parents when they don’t follow them themselves.

isit really a rude thing to call it mental illness? My doctor, told me i had a mental illness :/ shesaid sorry after… but was she being rude ? lol

i think it would just be mental illness… i think it’s always been frowned upon (according to my parents that is) …but i think this is only by those arrogant people who have probably never relly suffered from one themselves or never been disgnosed, because they’ve been too scared to get treatment, or just grew up with lots of stigma attatched to it

It’s nothing to be ashamed of. Recognising u have the problem is a huge achievement

[quote Padre J Roulston]Queen. You have done NOTHING wrong. They just don’t want to deal with the legal issues that they are bringing on themselves.

Call 911. Whether the bleeding has stopped now or not he needs to be looked at ASAP. And you need to be protected. Call the police. Tell them the truth. Be completely honest and listen to your heart. not your parents word.

You know that what has happened was wrong. Right the situation. Get your father the help he needs and get yourself safe.[/quote]

my mum will probably hate me…. what if social services get involved and split us up? what if our house gets repossessed? my mother, has no job, no reall work skills, she hasn’t worked in YEARS, she knows she won’t be able to pay the mortgage or anything….. hopefully if God wills i do want to move out, and my dad says he will too one day, but i’m not sure when that’s going to happen yet…

If he does those bad things to you, he deserves prison. Tell the truth, hopefully he goes to prison. Change your name, and move so when he’s out he can’t find you. Ask God to protect you and guide u to do the best thing

[quote AnExtendedHand][quote TheQueenJr]i think he’s thinking about going to the hospital later on…. i want to tell my physcotherapist, but the last time i tries to mention dometic violence to her they came to our house and my parents were MAD, they just told to tell them it’s nothing.. so i did. and just now i was speaking to my mum, and she’s telling me how if we say anything, social services will get involved and split up our family etc and we’ll loose out belongings etc.
Apparently it stopped bleeding now, it’s just scratched. but my dad’s moaning that apparently i ruined his face :s , i do feel bad. that was wrong, but how the hell can i stick to all rules when the adults in the house don’t bother[/quote]

They are after their own well-being and not yours. As Padre says, be honest.[/quote]

Who my parents? Yep, i’ve estabilished that :/ ….it’s been too long now, my mum always put too much pressure on me as a kid, she’d ‘lean on me’ wayy too much, until one day i stopped comforting her, because i needed comfort myself. now i think about it, i think that was extremely selffish of her, how do u rely on a kid as young as 5 like that?! and then my fathers just **** right stupid, i think he might be a physcopath sometimes…. i don’tthink he has a concious, because other wise he’d stop acting this way… i dont know what it is …secretly i know he doesn’t want the best for me, when i talk about moving out, he blaitently ‘pretends to care’ and tells me ‘don’t go’ he fake cries and fkes emotins with me all the time… when he sees me actually getting somewhere he tell me i’m his best daughter and then if i retalliate (excuse the spelling) against him, like today, then he curses me and tells me i have no future, and i’m never going to get better, and always discourges me from things, like he discouraged me from joining a support group, stuff like that

i think he’s thinking about going to the hospital later on…. i want to tell my physcotherapist, but the last time i tries to mention dometic violence to her they came to our house and my parents were MAD, they just told to tell them it’s nothing.. so i did. and just now i was speaking to my mum, and she’s telling me how if we say anything, social services will get involved and split up our family etc and we’ll loose out belongings etc.
Apparently it stopped bleeding now, it’s just scratched. but my dad’s moaning that apparently i ruined his face :s , i do feel bad. that was wrong, but how the hell can i stick to all rules when the adults in the house don’t bother

I think even if u do end up lying in court, God should understand what predicament you are in, maybe when u are older, more independant and able to be away from ur dad, u could come clean. I think u should ask God to guide u, on what the right thing to do is, and then in court follow ur instinct etc. I wish u the best

i feel like text might be weird… his friends might take his fone and things 0.O it’ll turn into a big thing, i think maybe the next time i see him, i’ll try to appear approachable a little more…. i think subconsiously when i saw him the other day, i was up to talk to him, i sort of just froze literally lol, but he kept avoiding eye contact