Depends how old you are and how likely he is to listen to you. If there’s someone he’s more likely to hear out, tell them and get them to intervene. If not, be careful how you approach it. Don’t randomly destroy all the alcohol in the house, perhaps try to talk with him rationally about it at a time when he is *not* drinking or drunk. If this is not possible then the police or other authority such as social services may be appropriate.
Please tell us some more about your life — the more we know, the more likely we can help! We don’t even know if you are in school or what. Depending on your age different strategies may apply. - written 1 month, 1 week ago
Here’s another perspective: I was the child of a 19 year old and a 48 year old, who was adopted at birth and brought up by a different family. So I don’t think it’s a totally hopeless situation, but I really think you need to be ready to bring up a child, or give it up for adoption, before you take a pregnancy to term. It’s just irresponsible otherwise. I have no issue with abortions, as long as it is the best decision for all concerned. I think it is awful if you got pressured into it, but that doesn’t mean I think your mother was wrong, just wrong to force you.
What Susie said, basically. - written 1 month, 1 week ago
Start by mentioning the things that drew you to him e.g. “I saw that you like [insert hobby], I also like that” or “I liked the way you put [insert something he said], can I ask you more about that?” Try to find common ground so that you have something to talk about. Don’t be too full on, like “OMG I think i love you and want your babies”… that’ll almost certainly scare him away! Try to say something about yourself that he might be interested in, too.
Wow, sounds like a lot to deal with, no wonder you are seeking such a coping mechanism. Hopefully you can pull yourself out of it if you’ve only been doing it for 2 weeks, find some other way to cope e.g. talk to people as others have suggested. Try to occupy yourself so that you don’t have idle time when you could be cutting. Remember there could be serious consequences in the form of scarring or serious injury if you slip or something. Some people report drawing in red pen on themselves has a similar effect to release the emotions, might be worth a shot. If it goes on for a while or gets worse please seek professional help from a counsellor. This is all presuming that you want to stop doing it, which it seems like you do from what you’ve said. - written 1 month, 1 week ago
