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• right i tell the girl im with that i love her, and
  

  I promise, this is not you. At all. As a girl with low self-esteem, I don’t feel like I am worth being loved by anyone. So, when someone tells me they love me, I can’t believe it. The only thing you can do is just keep telling her how much you love her, and remind her she’s beautiful, and everything good about her.
  
  Trust me, she knows all about the bad.
  - written 4 months, 2 weeks ago

• This is actually a peculiar question, and might be a lil difficult to answer:
  

  I see on here a bunch of people saying you will “know” when you’re in love, and that’s their answer. I don’t think that’s what you’re asking.
  
  I think you’re feeling that you’re “in love” with everyone you meet, a.k.a you feel the need and desire to help them, regardless of the sacrifice for and of yourself. This is not as peculiar as you might think. It’s called empathy, and a few people have this precious gift, and don’t know it.
  
  According to the American Heritage Dictionary, empathy means “Identification with and understanding of another’s situation, feelings, and motives.” To some people, it can feel just like you do when you’re in love. You can feel such a strong draw to people that you will feel the desire to lay down your life, in a sense, for people you’ve never even met. This isn’t a bad thing, on the contrary, it’s very good. It can be painful, however, and can be very confusing.
  The way to know the difference is examine the length of time you;ve felt this way about this person. If it lasts toward this person longer than a month or so, then it’s most likely something deeper than your natural empathy for people. Your empathy usually will wear off after two weeks or so, at least for a specific person. If it lasts longer than that, you’re probably feeling something deeper than your empathy, and it is most likely love. Other than that, there’s not an easy way to tell.
  
  I hope this helps.
  - written 4 months, 2 weeks ago

• i just need someone to talk to.
  

  What is it that would make you happy?
  - written 4 months, 2 weeks ago

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