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• (1 vote) Going through withdrawals and freaking out (anxiety from the withdrawals).
  

  Great that it’s helping. I think that it’s entirely justified to use the temazepam in order to help loosen the grip of the addiction. There is something about temazepam that can make it tempting to over-use if access is there, but it seems to me that you have a clear objective not to be under the control of a substance and and I believe that you will be strict enough with yourself that you won’t swap one dependency for another.
  
  Is this your first time quitting, or have you tried to do it before? How do you feel about progress so far, now that the anxiety has been levelled off a little?
  
  - written 2 years, 4 months ago – voted for by AlyxZombie

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• My boyfriends mum hates my puppy, even tho she has never met my puppy.
  

  This is only speculative, but could it be possible that your boyfriend’s mother has jealousy issues? Much has been written about why some mothers experience jealousy (often intense) towards their son’s partner. You can look it up, and decide whether or not it might apply. Whilst she is likely to know that she can’t criticise you directly to your boyfriend, it’s a possibility that she considers your puppy a ’safer’ object for criticism, and an excuse to keep her distance.
  - written 4 months, 3 weeks ago

• What are the criteria for a moral agent?
  

  How a person becomes accountable for their actions on a philosophical level is a massive question. It might be instructive, by way of exploring some of these issues, to look at how the law addresses them.
  
  The criteria for legal accountability are usually pared down into some straightforward objective criteria. Accountability is defined for practical purposes. Though the law is more systematic than everyday ‘common-sense’ reasoning, accountability in everyday life is significantly informed by the aims and interests of those who assess accountability. Neither legal systems, nor everyday reasoning, are necessarily rationally consistent or philosophically sophisticated. Accountability, in the real world, has a set of functions.
  
  One example in the law is that each country has an age at which legal accountability suddenly begins. It’s 10 in the UK, 12 in Scotland. Before that age, the child is deemed too young to be held responsible. At the appropriate age they are suddenly accountable in law. Without this, a highly subjective philosophical and psychological discussion would ensue about whether or not the child could reasonably be held accountable. The differences between England and Scotland represent differences as to when this accountability might reasonably begin. In Scotland as the law stands now, the young killers of James Bulger would not have faces criminal prosecution because of this objective cut-off for accountability. Until last year, the age of criminal responsibility in Scotland was 8.
  
  Also, consider the example of insanity pleas. Many states determine whether or not a person can be held accountable based upon variations of the ninteenth century M’Naghten ruling: - whether a person’s mental state caused them “not to know the nature and quality of the act he was doing; or if he did know it, that he did not know he was doing what was wrong”. That is to say, accountability is based on whether the person knows what they were doing was right or wrong.
  
  In terms of free will, people tend to follow their (perceived) interests. They are also guided by their impulses, which we know are often determined at least in part by biochemical reinforcement (such as dopamine-based reward systems in the brain). The question of free will is extraordinarily complex.
  - written 6 months, 3 weeks ago

• What does being in a relationship feel like?
  

  It can feel great in its way - it can make the participants feel ’special’ and it serves certain erotic and emotional needs (in theory). It provides mutual support (quite often “us against the world” in style, slightly queasy ). Also our society dictates that relationships are part of what makes us valid and successful. But relationships are also often extremely fraught and restricting. They often feed into human delusions and weaknesses. Some people seem happy in them, but no-matter how enthusiastic and over-the-moon people are about their current relationship the fact is that many of their previous relationships went to hell and and chances are that this and most of their future ones will go the same way (present posters excepted, of course!!) . Divorce figures are hard to pin down but according to the Institute for Professional Psychology 50% of 1st marriages, 67% of 2nd marriages and 74% of 3rd marriages end in divorce - that includes all of the trauma of a legal split, in some cases divided families with kids, etc. And of those that remain, how many are happy? Patterns are likely to be even more striking non-married long term relationships, not simply because they are not married but because the barriers to exit are fewer. The vast majority of relationships are doomed to unhappiness and destruction, it seems. Being clued up about human psychology on a very deep level is useful if you do want to try to make one work, however.
  - written 2 years, 2 months ago

• I want to join the Royal Navy army?
  

  It’s important to be fully informed about the reality of the combat injuries that you could suffer and would be expected to inflict on others if you join the armed forces. I would advise a thorough search on the subject, together with a look into what the percentage chances are. Would it, for example, affect your decision if you felt that it was likely we might enter into another major war soon? Political volatility levels are high, so you could find yourself in major conflict sooner than you think.
  - written 2 years, 2 months ago

• I have blown 1 of the 3 speakers in one stereo speaker cabinet.
  

  The ’speakers’ in a stereo speaker is called a drive unit. You would have to unscrew the broken drive unit, gently pull it out and look for both the brand and model number which should be printed or on a sticker on the back of the unit. You will need to look up that model numberand see if it’s possible to order one. If it’s a vintage pair of speakers, you may need to look for a used one or old stock on ebay. You also need to consider what the speakers are worth, and whether it’s worth it. What model speakers are they?
  - written 2 years, 3 months ago

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