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• So I’m okay. posted (2 months, 1 week) ago
  When I take charge, ask questions, get things done, I feel so much more at rest. Maybe I’m no…

• Unemployed because I can’t handle anything remotely stressful, finding myself doing things without thinking, walking the streets at night, at a loss posted (2 months, 1 week) ago
  because I can’t handle anything remotely stressful, finding myself doing things without think…

• I’m bisexual. posted (2 months, 1 week) ago
  Should I feel guilty for constantly checking out girls when I’m with a totally awesome and lo…

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• Sometimes I wish sexuality didn’t exist.
  

  I’ve thought the same. I think it’s like “Love can mend your life, or love can break your heart”. Everything has a good and bad side. Sex is something very strong. A bond maker and breaker. I agree that it may make things simpler. But I don’t think it would make anyone happier.
  - written 2 months ago

• Am I too dependent on others?
  

  That’s not dependence. You expect alot from yourself and therefore expect the same from other people. I have the same thing, just not quite as strong. You need to stop expecting so much from yourself and therefore other people. You can control your own actions, but not that of other people, and not everyone has the same standards. To me it seems very rare to find people who believe so ardently in going out of their way for their friends and family.
  
  While it’s noble, it’s draining. Being selfless constantly and not getting anything back is very dangerous, and very lonely. Take time to look after yourself. Tell people how to treat you well. Tell them you want to be listened too. Find people who will listen. They are out there. Good luck.
  - written 2 months ago

• Is it possible to be absolutly terrfied of physical contact?
  

  Sounds like a phobia of some sort, I’d recommend seeking professional help.
  - written 2 months ago

• How can I get my head straight and think more clearly?
  

  It doesn’t work that way. You can’t say to yourself “If I just had ____ then everything would be alright.” It won’t. There’d still be something wrong. So what’s the point on dwelling on what you don’t have? The fact is you find things stressful. Just because other people have already found ways to deal with it or have a personality that deals well with stress doesn’t mean you can. That doesn’t make you abnormal at all. It means yes that you have to work on reducing your stress but getting upset about the fact that it doesn’t come easy won’t help you any. So accept it and start helping yourself.
  
  I don’t know what you’ve already tried, can you help me out? I have some suggestions but I don’t want to give advice that you’ve heard and tried that hasn’t worked.
  - written 2 months ago

• to much stress but i can’t stop it.
  

  You absolutely need rest. A good night’s sleep is the first big step to relaxing, and also to help your body recover from being sick. Also whenever you can, just take 10 minutes to take deep breaths and try to relax the muscles in your body.
  
  Good luck =)
  - written 2 months, 1 week ago

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