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Drop his ***. And do it now. Being drunk doesn’t make a person into someone they aren’t. It takes away their ability to stop themselves from doing things they would otherwise do. Simple answer to that, is he is willing to hit a girl. He’ll just need a good enough (in his mind) reason to.

Most likely I would think that this is a scam and should be ignored. If it turns out not to be one (highly unlikely) then the simple fact that she is not the girl in the pictures should be all the proof required.

He is seeming very non-committal about the whole thing. Not making his intentions clear either way. Add to that, that he left you for another girl. I personally think you should move on.

I don’t really care, I just hope it happens in a way that I don’t realize it’s over until it’s already done. I don’t want to know I am dying lol.

Reasoning is a big part of it I think. I would do “bad” things for family members. Things that I would not do under ordinary circumstances.

I’d give it a couple weeks to heal before doing anything like that. Would you put chemicals into an open wound?

If you want him to stop drinking, you too should stop drinking. Imagine how hard it is to quit something while your partner still does it. Either give up drinking with him and see where it goes, or dump him and look for someone more compatible. No reason to drag this out.

You are an adult. Think about if someone knew your daughter was cutting herself and didn’t tell you. Probably piss you off right, I know it would me. Tell her mother, just ask her to not let on where she got the info from.

He’s not interested. If he was, when he had the time to send an email saying he was busy. He would’ve had the time to say he would like to see you again.

[quote moonlightsupper]Clean the area (and keep it clean) with antiseptic to prevent recurrence.[/quote]

What moonlight said lol. I have actually heard of people using neosporin (over the counter anti-biotic creme) as the shaving creme when they do shave down there lol. Don’t know if it works, as I am just a trimmer myself.

I was a cop for a bit. First thing is more info is needed. Do you know her new last name? Where she lives? If she moved, where she moved to? Cell phone number? Her husbands first and last name. His last known location, if they moved away together. Need pretty much any info you might have on being able to contact her to help you out. Also if you don’t have a lot of info, ask family members what they know. Tell them you want to get in touch with her.

Sounds like an ingrown hair to me. No biggy, happens a lot when you shave in that area.

I have a similar issue. It is called hyper-vigilance or a more mild term is situational awareness. It usually happens to people with PTSD, which I have. I have had 3 people try to seriously injure or kill me in my life time. Luckily I have come out unscathed so far, but it does leave you a lot more alert and on the lookout for danger.

Seriously, stop inviting me to these posts which serve no purpose other than to try and get you moderator status

I find simply staring usually gets my point across lol