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I might like to have a dog like that ..very cute

Love your avi picture .. very funny :)

Have you ever thought about writing a book about what you went through? All of the experiences, family etc? Military wives would have a better understanding of everything and regular people would be learning from another person’s experiences too. I would be the first one to read it.
I know how your wife felt and feels. Your wife is one of a kind but I am sure you know it. Many just wouldn’t care if their husbands would not return…how pathetic that is, and do you know why? Because their lives and health care and everything else will continue be provided by the military. I know examples too like the poster on this site is, that many would cheat on their husbands who are risking their lives every day…I could never understand either examples, and I thought I was weird. They don’t look at their husbands as human beings with feelings, they don’t know how to nurture them because they don’t want to. I also know some whose husbands are on a contract jobs in Kuwait for instance, sending home tons of money and that’s all they care about. So that is why I am in awe and admiration when I read a story like yours, when I hear a husband talking openly about his wife and feels proud of her and tells everybody and does not keep it secret that he is married to a wonderful woman. Think about writing your story and everything you went through that includes your ptsd. It will be an eye opener to those women in question.

It was just breathtaking to read an honest “confession” from a husband who openly praises his wife in an blog site. I also liked the way you said it was not like that before, that just a little problem and you were ready walking out. How did you change from that state to the one you are right now? It is remarkable. My husband is also in the military, and he is about to leave to Afghanistan……… ;-(

Hi aris,
I absolutely loved reading the way you talk about your wife in the post where this woman is cheating on her deployed husband and whether she should tell him or not.
Your wife is a very lucky woman to have you as a husband, who talks about her openly and claims her in public. I agree with you wholeheartedly that in a marriage one should not have secrets.
I added you as a friend.

Wishing You & Yours a Very Merry Christmas & A Blessed New Year!

Hey! It has been a long time, my friend. I noticed your last post. I know it’s closed but I’m taking a chance that you won’t mind if I answer it here.

You are so far away from being a failure. Seriously. You can do 80% of the work on the car! A lot of the husbands I know call AAA to change a flat tire. :O

If you have a vocational school near you that offers a mechanics course, call to make an appointment. You bring the parts and the labor is free. They need the jobs to teach the students. :) Job Corps & County vocational schools are great for this.

There are so many recalls going on right now with brand new vehicles as well as used. Okay, so you didn’t check up on that make/model before buying it. You know that even if you did, it wouldn’t mean you’d experience the problems that somebody else did.

You also know there are contributing factors to how well a car does including the driver and the conditions of the road. No car can repeatedly take potholes and not show the wear and tear.

I think your biggest fault is that you are finding fault with yourself where you have no reason to, my friend. Save the failure mode for something really big. ;)

You know that my old stomping grounds are the Big Apple. I have a lot of friends,neighbors and relatives who are in law enforcement. Several have retired on disability for PTSD. It’s a job with such built-in risks that you don’t know if you’ll live to the end of your shift and then you don’t know if somebody will look you up to seek revenge. :/

Know something? I’ll bet your wife is just glad that you are home and safe too! And, I’m sure she doesn’t want you to be stressing out over a vehicle. :)

It seems from where I’m sitting that your biggest problem is that you love each other. :) Lucky you!

haha i think it was kind of funny that person closed the post after our answers hahah :]

alrighttty (: lolz
cool.
thanks.

!lol!
He didn’t say anything for a long time, but then he quoted K - it sure was nice to suddenly meet her.
Yeah, I’m sure it was.
Jeezzzz!
LOL!

Van is hitting on Kblair. . .

haha your avatar looks like the dog i had as a kid.

Invitation to visit @ http://help.com/post/378430-megs-mond…

Invitation to visit @ http://help.com/post/376128-monday-po… – for enjoyment.

I’ll start planning a trip then. :) Sept should be a good time.

I will probably take a trip out there this Fall to look around.

Valleys..hmmm..is there a threat with flash floods as with Colorado?

I think of rock formations, boulders & tumbleweed. :D

hmmmm..why do I think of Utah/Wyoming as being too dry/sandy?

Thanks! I’ll take a look. :D I’m looking for quiet..peaceful.

One dumb question…do people garden there? I’m used to having a veggie garden and fruit trees. Possible?

I’m not sure yet. I know it won’t be Salt Lake - I could never take the inversion..ewwww. Looking at Cheyenne - I want some decent property, low taxes, low gov’t intrusion, live and let live aura. Know of a place like that? :D

profile wrote:
Cars, and target shooting…….not mixed lol

ROFL!!
I’m thinking Dukes of Hazzard lolss

Nice job with the profile. :) We have quite a bit in common; rough childhood, black/white vision, right is right, not a fan of sports. I’m concerned about the current direction of the country.

I go the other way when it comes to family loyalty. I still maintain ‘right is right’ and they are no exception. I’m not going to support someone who is doing the wrong thing just because we are related…no, noooooooo. :P So I have cut a lot of family ties, keeping in mind that the Bible suggests to do so when a relative is just ‘not right’. Yet, I’ve made very close (like family) relationships showing that yes, we really can choose our relatives. lolsss

I’m considering buying some land in Utah/Wyoming. I blame Ansel Adams for turning me on to the aesthetics of the West/SW.

lol sure thing. I will talk to you later. I did update the personal text portion of my profile if you wan to check it out :). I didn’t have anything in there and I figured it was time.

Thanks for stopping by to say ‘hi’. It’s after 2am here and I need some beauty sleep. :)

Good night, my friend. Be kind to yourself. Hope to see you again soon. :D

About the same here. Nothing eventful to report. :D

Glad you are doing allright. ;)

Hiiiiiii!!! Long time!! How are you??

Yeah it is odd. Pretty much all of NY other than NYC is considered to be upstate to some lol.

Hi my friend! :D How are you?

Sorry about not responding to your last shout but seems the shouts don’t auto update like before; guess there might be a few changes in the air. :) Might be a good thing..

Ah! I forget there is more than one ‘upstate’ NY. lolsss I always think of the Adirondack Park as upstate but it depends on where one starts out from I guess. I still have trouble with thinking of NYC as ‘downstate’. I might need to stand on my head awhile to get oriented to directions, ya think?

April 1st - No Fooling! :D

thx

I lived all over in NY, but we focused mostly in upstate NY. Binghamton, Johnson city area and the surrounding areas.

For sure! :D Thank you!

What part of NY State are you from?
I lived in the Adirondacks for a long time.

Well that’s a good thing! Us fussy people should stick together lol.

Ah! Then please allow me to be the first. :D

I’ve added you to my ‘friends’ list & I hope you will reciprocate. Welcome to Help btw. :D

I am fussy too. :P

Yes, it’s absolutely purrfect!

I notice you don’t have any ‘friends’ on your list. Anti-social, fussy, or just a loner? :P

Hi!

I just have to tell you (though you already know) that is the most adorable avatar!! Sweet!! :D

Thanks for sharing it. :)

~ kitty ~

wow someone somewhere feels he is not living his life which he meant to live,, thats nice at least am not the only one :)

I can agree to disagree lol. We certainly do have different ways of approaching someone that is in need of assistance. Maybe the reason I don’t go for the “tough love” practice is because that’s how I grew up. I wish now that there’d been more understanding and less toughness. But I do accept that everyone is different and maybe some people need a bit more tough and a bit less understanding.

Are you sure my post wasn’t deleted? Last I checked it was… Either way no biggy lol.

lol no actually, yours wasn’t. If it was I would have been perfectly fine with mine being removed.

And I really think you misunderstood me. I didn’t mean to kick her (the poster) when she was down. Nowhere near.
I just think we have different ways of approaching the same situations and I don’t think one is more right than the other.
Thanks for the shout though.