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• Freedom, posted (1 month) ago
  What is it? Just curious to see how differently everyone defines this one word, and what everyone s…

• Theres a guy I know has liked me for the past year… posted (1 month) ago
  He is pretty nice, but I really don’t feel ANYTHING for him. He hangs around where I work at …

• Friends with benefits? posted (1 month) ago
  ?! What the heck. A load of rubbish if you ask me. People just get hurt. You can’t be that…

• What clothes do I pack for 3 months of winter in Europe? posted (1 month, 1 week) ago
  ? Help ! I am completely stumped, I am used to Australian winters, which isn’t really winter…

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• (1 vote) How do I regain lost confidence?
  

  Prayer definately helps. At times when I am at my lowest I have learnt that reading the bible and praying is the only thing that makes any sense whatsoever - it brings my head back into a real space (as opposed to being completely irrational !)
  
  I find the bible gives me guidelines for life, and I have found that it is when I ignore these guidelines - that my life quickly comes crashing down around me. Haha, you would think that I would have realised it earlier, but if I continue growing in faith and reading I wouldn’t have to make all these mistakes and spend so much time in building it up again.
  
  On the issue of confidence, I think that it isn’t so much as worrying what people think of you, but rather being happy with yourself. It sounds so cliche, but I think it is true. If you have something to believe in, something that gives meaning to life and everything you do - then your confidence will be obvious to those around you…people will start to admire you for what you believe and you might become a positive influence on them… (which in turn will make you feel good for helping someone out). I believe in Christ, and although I am not the best Christian I am going to keep plodding through life, trying to do my best - because thats all that I can do !
  
  Hope this makes a little sense =)
  
  - written 1 month, 2 weeks ago – voted for by M.y.a

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• okay so i have this ‘mate’ and i am mad about him.
  

  Oh, I’m not into the no strings attached thing btw…I think its a stupid load of crap - but thats just my opinion =)
  - written 4 weeks, 1 day ago

• okay so i have this ‘mate’ and i am mad about him.
  

  yeah, no i Know what you mean…
  I sorta thought he would be like that because he knew me for so long though.
  At first he wanted the ‘no strings attached’ thing, but i said no way - and gave up on him for ages, as that is completely opposite to what I think love is all about…
  
  But then we became friends, and hung out a bit…I never really forgot about him, but now it seems pretty clear he just wanted to see how far I would go. Which really sucks, you think you sort of know a person - but no way…
  
  But he sends mixed signals all the time, I just want him out of my head now - its sad =(
  I hate feeling like that.
  - written 4 weeks, 1 day ago

• okay so i have this ‘mate’ and i am mad about him.
  

  But what about boys who ‘really don’t care’…
  Boys that are out for a good time, with no strings attached.
  
  Do they get attached too? What if you have known this guy, and seen him most days of the week at work - then around town, and out in the pubs. You know he is a bad boy, but you feel a connection, and you have so much in common you would think he feels the same…
  Sometimes he gives you this vibe, other times not at all?
  
  Sorry if I’m asking too many questions !!
  - written 4 weeks, 1 day ago

• okay so i have this ‘mate’ and i am mad about him.
  

  It is really hard not to think about it afterwards…
  But probably a wise move to protect yourself.
  
  Some boys I have met would tell me anything, and being pretty gullable and a real bad judge of character I believe them. Its best not to get yourself in these situations and it will ease you a whole lot of confusion.
  
  I sound so feminist here, it sickens me !
  I don’t think boys are bad, I promise!! I love them, boys are real…and fun…
  Its just the ones in my life lately are not so great.
  - written 4 weeks, 1 day ago

• okay so i have this ‘mate’ and i am mad about him.
  

  I hate mixed signals…I’ve come to the conclusion they are sent to confuse =)
  I get confused way too easily, so I figure anything that confuses me is totally not worth it - and I avoid it at all cost.
  
  Heck, doesn’t make it easy though.
  
  Intuition is also very real, as much as you hate to believe it, and try to ignore it at the time.
  
  I thought boys got over things easy?? All the ones I have met seem to anyways.
  They never seem to have a problem moving on at all, but I don’t know if this is just a cover up or what…
  
  See, confusion…best to ignore and not think too much !
  - written 4 weeks, 1 day ago

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