A few hours became an entire week! I’m so sorry for the delay, my friend. I was hit by the flu and it left me with no energy to spare. But I’m back! :D)
I’ve had plenty of time to think about this. Do you really have to defend yourself? Maybe that makes things more difficult all by itself, eh? You are who you are and that really shouldn’t need defending. Any who don’t understand or don’t agree with your personal choices…well…it seems the problem is theirs.
I don’t think it’s necessary to live a lie (hiding a part of yourself). I don’t think it’s necessary to ‘come out’ (sharing a personal part of yourself). Seems contradictory?
Your friends, if true friends, will accept you as you truly are. Acquaintances might move on but life is full of those moving in and out of our lives. I suppose the question is whether or not you need to share such personal information with your ‘friends’. Personally, I can’t think of anything I can’t share with my closest friend. That doesn’t mean that I share everything…I just know that I can if I ever feel the need to do so.
You say that you are just as happy being with a guy but….what happens if you meet a girl who knocks you off your feet? Can you honestly say that it will never happen? The fact that you view staying quiet as ‘missing out on opportunities’ tells me that you may find yourself resentful for being ‘untrue’ to yourself.
It’s possible to be true to yourself without hiding or coming out. Simply live your life as you wish. Accepting and loving yourself is key. Those around you will chatter and tsk tsk and the news will get old and they’ll move on to somebody else. :D)
I don’t think you have to ‘out’ yourself with casual dates. Yet, if there is a deepening relationship, the potential long-term partner has the right to know that you are ‘bi’ and attracted to women as well as men. That should lead to a lot of interesting discussions that will determine if the guy is really right for you and vice versa.
I completely understand what you are saying here. I’m going to give this some thought before I answer. It’s getting late (1:30am) and I need to get some sleep because my brain doesn’t want to function any longer. :P
I’m going to reply to this with my coffee in the morning, okay? Please come back to check for it. :D)
Outing is scary. I understand that. It takes a lot of courage and a network of support.
I have relatives who have outed and I don’t think any of them had an easy time of it. But they did it. Over time, things became easier. By the way, one of them was dishonorably discharged from the military because of it. He still went on to have a career with the government. :)
Even though there have been such great strides towards acceptance of those we don’t necessarily understand or agree with, there is still a long way to go. I don’t know if the world will ever be completely free of prejudice..malice..hatred. I don’t know.
Oh no! Nooo..please don’t think of yourself as selfish for having these thoughts. :/ You aren’t selfish. You are relating to what you think he may have suffered because of being out. Sort of like looking at your own fears with it all, eh?
Thank you so much for the wonderful update! I’m so happy to hear of the successful outcome. :D Little ones can be so resilient.
My nephew went through skull surgery when he was only days old. He was born with no ’soft spot’ and they had to remove bone. Cross sectioned his head and full of stitches. They had to repeat it 3 more times before he was grown to give the brain room to grow. Amazing what they can tolerate. :D
i actually dont know magic either.. i SUCK at magic.. but im excellent at (dream magic). Im able to tell someone something or contact someone in their dreams.. without entering their dreams. I want to fall in love.. i was gonna look for a grimwar (the book). o-o oh
i cant waits…
So a question.. not now.. i want a love reading… im not going to be selfish and ask for you.. (actually i want like 4 other readings) love… success…maturing.. and that last i dont remember. Bur i really want to know what the name of the book was that you used…. i want to.. fall madly in love.. and.. change my life.. and GOD You were so accurate i feel i might actually be saved o-o.. oh yeah i forgot u cant use tarots on yourself…(dang it)
I would like to ‘friend’ you but I just noticed that you don’t have any friends here. Is that your preference? (And I seem to be your first shout).
I’m going to read your other posts. We have a few things in common. My brother lived in Okeechobee; he was a game warden there. :)
I took care of my sister’s children during her messy divorce. She was very neglectful and cared much more for herself than her kids. There were 3 and very young. They are all grown now but the impact of those early years took a toll on each of them in different ways.
Bless you for having a loving heart. :) They need you.
I will keep you & your ‘babies’ in my thoughts and prayers and wish you all good things. :D
Shout me anytime.
~ kitty ~
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