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• How can I help my boyfriend? posted (6 months, 2 weeks) ago
  He has been unemployed for 2 years now he is getting depressed we live with his parents we have no …

• I think I might be depressed I cry every day. posted (1 year, 2 months) ago
  I dont know why most of the time I just seem to like being miserable. I quit my job yesterday and fe…

• I need financial kind of legal(? posted (1 year, 10 months) ago
  maybe?) advice. I recently bought a spa day on my credit card from a company that has gone into ad…

• Dilema! posted (2 years, 2 months) ago
  Hi Guys, this may not seem like too much of a problem but it is keeping me awake at nights and I va…

• Keep fighting with my boyfriend because he never surprises me or does anything romantic, but he is sweet and kind and does nice things for me. posted (2 years, 4 months) ago
  I see my friends getting roses and whisked away on romantic weekends and getting engaged and married…

• I crossed the street the other day, when I looked all I saw was a van that I knew was far away enough for me to make it across, so I crossed behind me posted (2 years, 4 months) ago
  crossed the street the other day, when I looked all I saw was a van that I knew was far away enough…

• iserable and it is all my own fault and I do not know how to get things back on track and be happy and chilled out and easy going again? posted (2 years, 7 months) ago
  ? Can anyone help?…

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Victoria Sponge's Top (5) Replies by other users' votes

• (2 votes) ……….
  

  Ok last night I sat and told him how I was feeling, he seemed quite upset and asked why I was still with him if I was so unhappy, I said because untill a few weeks ago I was happy and just a few changes I can be happy again, so he was really lovely last night, i just hope that it doesn’t fall out the other ear tonight and he took on board what I said.
  
  - written 4 years, 6 months ago – voted for by Chunkymoves, Xeno Dragon

• (1 vote) I wish I knew what would change a womans mind after 6 years of being married to a man that would do absolutely anything for her.
  

  Don’t ask her what needs to be done. Look around is there washing in the basket or Machine or on the line? After dinner get straight up and clean away the table and tell her to rest her feet. Grab the vacumn cleaner and duster cook her a dinner and surprise her remember back to when you first met how you woo’d and dated her try some of those old tecniques
  
  - written 1 year, 10 months ago – voted for by IrAdler

• (1 vote) i need a boyfriend
  

  Needing a boyfriend is bad it means you will probaby settle for anyone so your not lonely, waiting with patience for the right people is the way forward, so get out there experience life enjoy your freedom so when you do meet someone you have things to talk abbout and stories to share
  
  - written 3 years, 3 months ago – voted for by evaetese

• (1 vote) What does love mean to you?
  

  Sharing….your life, your lunch, your wardrobe your bed and not minding even when things are really tough
  
  - written 3 years, 4 months ago – voted for by ℓινιηg4уσυ

• (1 vote) why cant i stay with someone?
  

  Yep just not met the right guy yet. I was exactly like you and thought what could be wrong with me why do other girls stay with guys longer, one day you will meet someone and that spark wont fade, so as lillies said enjoy life now, enjoy the freexom to do what you want when you want. Save responsibilty for when you are older, you have many many years of responibility trust me those fun free years go quick so make the most of them.
  
  - written 3 years, 5 months ago – voted for by track&field_2012

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• Should I be kind of nervous to have my first boyfriend?
  

  Yes nerves are good, we all get nervous in these situation, say yes and get through the nerves and enjoy a date. Do not let the nerves stop you you cant keep saying no because of them.
  - written 1 year, 3 months ago

• Why don’t people admit it when they’re jealous of someone?
  

  [quote linuxya][quote Victoria Sponge][quote ninjadomo8]I can see where you are coming from.. It is in a sense your own insecurity.. You feel it’s unfair that she’s only been with him for 18 months and you’ve invested in this guy for 4 years.. Sometimes it takes men a while to really decided to settle down.. They don’t have that urge that we do to settle down and create a family.. Maybe bring it up to him? Just casually ask, “have you ever thought about marriage?” Never hurts to test the waters…[/quote]
  
  All been tried and tested, he says he does want to get married and that he is letting them have their weddings first so ours is the last most remembered and greatest, also we are just returned from working abrod so timing and mony is not good. I will get my time one day so that is another reason not to spread my jelouy round :)[/quote]
  
  According to John Gray, men won’t propose until they feel financially secure. Women can help the process by setting the man’s expectations for what the woman thinks “financially secure” means.
  
  Personally, I just don’t get why marriage is so important to women. If you have everything you want, why torture yourself into being unhappy because you don’t have some silly status? When I make a commitment, it’s obvious from my daily actions. Marriage makes no difference to that.[/quote]
  
  For me I just would like to feel like a real part of his family, its not about the dress and a party I just want to know he wants me to be part of his family to give me his name would mean so much, I cant explain it really but thats how I feel, his brother proposed recently to a girl he has known a few months, she is introduced as the new daughter they never had and I have know this family for 4 years and not been honoured with that title as we are not getting married, at family events I am constantly reminded I am not family, not in a nasty way just in an its true way.
  - written 1 year, 3 months ago

• Should I stay in this relationship or leave?
  

  [quote ninjadomo8]She has a boyfriend and is living with him.. Very happy..Just got a puppy together.. I’m going to try going to my parents this weekend to give him some space.. I just really don’t know what to do.. I love him with all my heart but it seems like every move I make is wrong.. I’ve met her once and did not like her.. She is rude.. Very rude… He has gone to coffee with her once..[/quote]
  
  I think that is a good idea, getting away from the situation to help sort your head and be away from it all will help you to see things clearer and may help you both realise what it is you really want. What I know is that everyone deserves someone whole loves them completly and isnt paying attention to an ex
  - written 1 year, 3 months ago

• Should I stay in this relationship or leave?
  

  My boyfriend will tell me I got in at 1 and his friends will say he left here at 2 so I will think WHAT, then we will go out together and he will do the same thing. He guesstimates time, I think I am trying to say that could be what happens with the calls. Maybe you need to give him space to get over his ex? Is she with another partner? Do you know her or see her?
  - written 1 year, 3 months ago

• Should I stay in this relationship or leave?
  

  So you have looked at his email and calls and you have discovered he can be trusted so do you think you now trust him?
  Do you have anywhere you could stay so that you can have some time apart while you start dating again learning to trust each other again and remembering why you first came together?
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  - written 1 year, 3 months ago

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