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Thank you so much for your research. I appreciate your time and effort. Your thoughts are worth pondering. I didn’t look at it that way.

Thanks so much going to bed

I appreciate any help I can get

Actually I spoke to my doctor and he said he could probably use a mood stabilizer and I do need something for counciling but if they don’t know about bipolar it won’t do much good. I just need to somehow get him to the doctor. I’m convinced that if I can do that, it might just be okay

His mom see’s it and tries to help by talking to him, but it never seems to sink in. He adores and respects his parents and I talk to his mom but she doesn’t like to hear it. I try to balance the good more than the bad so she doesn’t get defensive. Whether it’s to me or someone else he needs help. He hasn’t hit me. I am working on my issues with this and realize I don’t deserve this and that the longer I stay the more my heart will be broken. It’s hard to leave and stay gone when he turns on the charmer part of his personality.

He doesn’t have a problem, I do……….

You know, I was married to a good guy for a very long time and they will hurt you too. I feel bad for you. The person who was hurt in their last realtionship (usually unknowingly) takes it out on the next person. They are just trying to protect their heart from being broken and feeling that pain again. They need to get over their issues by forgiving the person who hurt them initally and not feel like it was something they did. (Especially if they were cheated on.) Next time you start to date (don’t give up hope and give yourself time to heal)ask questions. When was your last realtionship? How did it end? How do you feel about that? What if X happens, how do you think you would respond? Do your homework and you can avoid alot of heartache. After good guy cheated on me for 3 years out of our 17 year marraige (I’m 40) I found a bad guy and he broke my heart after 9 months (think he is bipolar) but now I am very, very, very (not suspicious) but weary of what every guy I meets personality and past was like. I’m too old to play games so I ask. If they walk away or I don’t like the answers…….NEXT…….Try online dating, I know alot of people it has worked for, just don’t be desperate or in a hurry. Get over this one first.

I’m recently divorced and unemployed. I can stay with my friends but they have their own lives. He has kids too and I really fell in love with them and want to be there to take the heat off of them. I would love to know how to get him to see the erratic behavior and get him to a doctor. I know people on medicine who are normal with it.

Sometimes that’s all we need to recharge our batteries!!! It’s nice to be able to be spontaneous. Enjoy life to it’s fullest.