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• How do I get through a bad breakup?
  

  Sadly there are no easy solutions. It is best to just remember the reasons why you broke up with him. Sometimes it helps if you write down a list of the qualities you want in your ideal mate, and then compare it with a list of things your ex did that don’t correspond. If you have it posted on your refrigerator/frontdoor or something it will be a daily reminder of the kind of mate you really deserve.
  
  Remember that things happen for a reason. Maybe, dating your ex-boyfriend was not a mistake. Maybe, God wanted you to date him, so that you can truly appreciate your next boyfriend even more.
  
  And even if you have to wait awhile to find your next mate, just remember this. Maybe God hasn’t given you someone yet, because he hasn’t found anyone that he felt deserved you yet.
  - written 3 years, 5 months ago

• how do i get a guy to notice me?
  

  If you want him to notice you, you have to do something about it.
  
  Honestly, I see a million people every day and do I notice any one of them at the end of the day? No, unless someone made it a point to introduce themself or make themself known.
  
  Guys may or may not like aggressive girls. So why not be inbetween?
  
  in example. I was at the coffee shop and i had a chocolate submersion. A girl came up to me and asked me what kind of drink that was and what was in it. She kept repeating the name and asked me how i liked it.
  
  i had to go, so i couldn’t stay and talk. But i think that this was a great icebreaker, because there is no greater form of flattery than mirroring someone else’s image, or in this case, taste.
  
  … plus if you try to change your appearance or make yourself “stand out” it’ll change who you are, and that guy should like you for who you naturally are.
  - written 3 years, 5 months ago

• this guy used to be my everything and now he hates me and i still love him
  

  I dont’ know how he loved you and that loved turned into hating you? If you did something, i.e. cheated on him or slept with someone else, you should expect in karma. Honestly, it is a rare occassion for a smart guy to take a person back who cheated on him.
  - written 3 years, 5 months ago

• people r tellin me 2 let go of himbut he flirts w/ me still i love him stil
  

  You can get over him, but you won’t, not can’t. If you really wanted to get over him, you would not put yourself in the position to have him flirt with you.
  
  If you truly believe that you cannot forget him, because he continues to flirt with you, take yourself out of that position.
  
  How do you know that you can’t get over him, if you don’t try 100%? Just don’t hang out with him, seriously.
  - written 3 years, 5 months ago

• crush Vs Boyfriend which one to you pick ?
  

  I’m not sure what you should do. However, I can tell you this. I was dating this guy for awhile and then I had a crush on another guy. We hooked up and then I decided that my ex bf cared a lot for me and that’s something I may not get with this “crush.”
  
  Anyways, long story short. I had to beg my ex to take me back. Afterwards, it was not the same. We had major trust issues and what not. I think that if you are with someone, you should never give them any belief that one day you guys might not be together.
  
  Is a crush worth it? First, you don’t even know if he likes you. Second, how do you know that he will/can treat you better than your current boyfriend?
  
  Whatever you do, just take your time. Why not take it slow and sees if your feelings for this crush continues after a month or two, before you take the notion to break up with your current boyfriend. Bye
  - written 3 years, 5 months ago

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