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Sadly there are no easy solutions. It is best to just remember the reasons why you broke up with him. Sometimes it helps if you write down a list of the qualities you want in your ideal mate, and then compare it with a list of things your ex did that don’t correspond. If you have it posted on your refrigerator/frontdoor or something it will be a daily reminder of the kind of mate you really deserve.

Remember that things happen for a reason. Maybe, dating your ex-boyfriend was not a mistake. Maybe, God wanted you to date him, so that you can truly appreciate your next boyfriend even more.

And even if you have to wait awhile to find your next mate, just remember this. Maybe God hasn’t given you someone yet, because he hasn’t found anyone that he felt deserved you yet.

If you want him to notice you, you have to do something about it.

Honestly, I see a million people every day and do I notice any one of them at the end of the day? No, unless someone made it a point to introduce themself or make themself known.

Guys may or may not like aggressive girls. So why not be inbetween?

in example. I was at the coffee shop and i had a chocolate submersion. A girl came up to me and asked me what kind of drink that was and what was in it. She kept repeating the name and asked me how i liked it.

i had to go, so i couldn’t stay and talk. But i think that this was a great icebreaker, because there is no greater form of flattery than mirroring someone else’s image, or in this case, taste.

… plus if you try to change your appearance or make yourself “stand out” it’ll change who you are, and that guy should like you for who you naturally are.

I dont’ know how he loved you and that loved turned into hating you? If you did something, i.e. cheated on him or slept with someone else, you should expect in karma. Honestly, it is a rare occassion for a smart guy to take a person back who cheated on him.

You can get over him, but you won’t, not can’t. If you really wanted to get over him, you would not put yourself in the position to have him flirt with you.

If you truly believe that you cannot forget him, because he continues to flirt with you, take yourself out of that position.

How do you know that you can’t get over him, if you don’t try 100%? Just don’t hang out with him, seriously.

I’m not sure what you should do. However, I can tell you this. I was dating this guy for awhile and then I had a crush on another guy. We hooked up and then I decided that my ex bf cared a lot for me and that’s something I may not get with this “crush.”

Anyways, long story short. I had to beg my ex to take me back. Afterwards, it was not the same. We had major trust issues and what not. I think that if you are with someone, you should never give them any belief that one day you guys might not be together.

Is a crush worth it? First, you don’t even know if he likes you. Second, how do you know that he will/can treat you better than your current boyfriend?

Whatever you do, just take your time. Why not take it slow and sees if your feelings for this crush continues after a month or two, before you take the notion to break up with your current boyfriend. Bye

I think that you should definitely tell him exactly how you feel, and then give him an ultimatum. It is unhealthy for your relationship to continue if he continues to place his past girlfriends before your needs.

Tell him that a relationship cannot continue without trust. And that trust cannot exist in your relationship if he continues to hang out with people that you have trust issues with.

Make him acknowledge that you do not care if he hangs out with other girls, but that you do have a problem with his continuing to see his ex-girlfriends.

Your problem is understandable, especially since your boyfriend did cheat on his ex-girlfriend with a prior ex-girlfriend.

I know that many children want their parents to stay together and that is understandable. However, you must look at it from an adult perspective and look at it from your mother’s point of view. If your father is doing things that make your mother feels as though she cannot live with him, listen to her.

If he drinks a lot (meaning he drinks at home, with his friends, etc.) then he is an alcoholic. If he drinks just socially, just during meals, or occasionally, there is nothing wrong with it.

If he is an alcoholic he could hurt your baby. If he gets angry he might shake the baby which could kill it.

So don’t think just for your personal safety, but think about how it might effect your child.

If he is an alcoholic go to the court and make them grant you an order for child support. I’m sure this move will get his attention.

How about?

Your royalty? Or your highness? Master of the castle?