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Oh have i been there! I know what you are feeling. I know the heart break in your heart. But what you must understand is that it is not HEART break. it is heart ache. you are aching because you feel as if you need someone as a companion. not necessarily him, but he is the last one that touched you emotionally. so what you should do, is get back out there. I dated a guy for 2 years. and must i say it was the worst two years of my life. i was only 16 at the time we got together, and i was young, he had me so brainwashed into thinking the way our relationship was, was the way it was suppose to be. BUT, I later realized that it was far from how it should be. I did not deserve being thrown through doors or jerked around by my hair or by my arm or pinched so hard that the bruise appeared immediately. he told me that was our personal business and i should not tell anyone of our personal life. so i didnt. and when i would try to break up with him he would threaten to kill himself or me. so i stayed until i found a solution. he told me that he could never date any one who did drugs and partied. now i know it wasnt the route to go, but i started partying alot. i would sneak away from him and go to parties, because he couldnt hurt me there. well he came to my house one day, and in front of my parents i told him i couldnt see him anymore. my parents were upset, because they didnt know of the horrid things he did. but i did it in front of them, and after he left, i told them everything. so if they ever saw him around they knew he wasnt suppose to be there, so i felt safe. and after the break up, i was 18, and i didnt know how to date. i was so lonely. i was afraid of every guy i met. so i decided to form a big group of friends, i called them my support group! we all went out all the time, and it made life so much easier. instead of having a “companion” i had friends, who really heal the wounds much better than a new man. friends dont expect much out of you, just to be there for them. and they will be there for you. so instead, why dont you find someone you get along with, and start hanging out, watching sad movies, and talking about how some guys are no better than dirt. friends are amazing. they will really lift your spirits in times of need. so get yourself a best bud, watch some chick flicks, and eventually start going to social gatherings, you will find your self stepping out on the branch again, with the push of a great friend.