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Happy Holidays!

cool, good to your still alive :-)

the post got lost, oh well.

Sure, pro-palestinian people (but not Hamas) and anti-zionist (but have nothing against Jews) …

(: Best Wishes for a Happy New Year :)

How’s it going?

Is it inappropriate time to say I think your new hair cut looked great :-)

are my chats getting through?

makes sense, as you are clinging so tightly to something that is making your mind hurt and exhausted.

Hmm, I hope I don’t come across all science like. I do care, I just guessing you picked me to chat to as you were looking for this sort of interaction. I just do what I can.

trying to say I don’t think you are crazy, just your mind is trying to protect it’s self from over stressing. Like a muscle cramp. The challenges you face are real, just got to either put them down somehow for a bit so you can look at them with a bit of perspective. Or just something simple to avoid the well worn mental path that leads to a unhappy place.

Those places are real, but perhaps the night before an exam isn’t the best time to face it.

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I am trying to offer advice, but if you know a better way I can help, take the lead and let me know what you want.

I’ve got a think skin.

brain numb?

Like disassociation?

if you want to rant away from public shout,

i’m chunkymoves
at
yahoo
dot
com

not saying you should, just an offer.

Sleep is good too :-)

Crying releases happy chemicals, and also give a sense of release.

If you need to constantly cry or you feel suicidal, and you are getting exhausted from crying, that’s a tough spot to be in.

just putting in my two cents…
running away is better than death. Animals run away all the time. We are told it’s a terrible thing, but so is a lot of the shit people have to face - stuff not talked about by the same people who are down on running away. I might get in trouble latter for saying this, but running is better than banging your head against a wall till it breaks down.

I once told a counselor that if they just told me to take a deep breath I’d just walk out.

The guy was smart enough to explain the nervous response mechanism, and how the lower diaphragm can actually give a “relax” signal that can break the panic cycle.

I could force my mind to stop, but I could force myself to take deep breaths, and looking up the names of the nerves distracted me for a while too.

You got lots of adrenalin to fight of flight, and it isn’t being used up, so you get stuck in panic. Breathing deep tricks the mind that danger is over.

It’s not, you still got mid terms tomorrow, but hey, having adrenalin sloshing round your head don’t help

what’s it like, the “being on fire”?

I’ve not felt that sort of thing. Lots of others, but not a burning sensation.

What happens if you try and calm your mind down?

Sounds like it’s stuck in panic mode.

Would it be easier in person?

Lots of people find it easier on the phone, and there are plenty who can barely say “I’m hurting so much I want to die” even just via text.

Not the sort of thing you admit, and it don’t help too much even if you do.

But having a good rant can help, and having someone listen.

Hope you’re off getting some sleep, but if you want, shout me anytime.

reward

effort to reword ratio…

No cost, little time,
possible rewords are high.

I think the time to call those lines is when the good people around you are either out of ideas, or out of compassion. They still might love a bunch, but people do get compassion fatigue, but the people on those lines are there to listen.

It frustrated me that it helped, but just talking to someone made me less anxious.

I’d guess you mind is stuck in a loop. Something like “want to get away and relax, can’t get away cause exam tomorrow”
hmm, not really a loop but a straight conflict?

I’d say find 3 numbers, give em a call, and chat to the first one who don’t piss you off :-)

I’m happy to stop ranting and have a listen too if you want, I’ve been known to shut up for whole minutes on end :-)

it’s all good, and I know this might not be believed straight away, but you asking actually makes me feel better.

1. I respect you highly, so you asking my views on something makes me feel respected.

2. It reminds me that I am getting better, as I think about those times I called a distress line. I remember the pain, but I don’t feel it.

One of the big things that got me through was when I heard someone I trusted say “I remember the pain”. I knew they had been down bad, but I could see that it was possible to get through it.

Everyone’s different, but i always felt I was smarter than those offering advice, and I could see the flaws in their comfort.

anyways, hopefully that just showed I don’t mind being asked, and that I’m just a regular person who has actually faced a mental meltdown and didn’t think a cup-o-tea would fix it.

Now to answer your question…

do-or-die criteria. hmm running out of space, next shout on it’s way…

warning… weather is perfect spring, motorbike running well, just finished uni - can graduate!!!, so…

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Ly9NyH…

so maybe offer not the most well thought through advice :-)

Hey there pici, give a us a story aye?

You are right. i 100% agree with you. i always appreciate what i have now even unfair things happened to me. but i realy need help because i am helpness!!!

Oh god yes, never a dull moment.

I’ve been working like crazy and I start class next Wednesday. I quit American Eagle yesterday and start my job bouncing next week. It’s unreal!

Excited to go back to class?

here is an invitation to visit dancer’s post @ http://help.com/post/408342-what

i think it may be fun, and may remind you of an enjoyment in your own life.

How have you been Pici?

See you got a boy in your life now? :) I’m just judging by the MSN name haha

like my new pic n usenme?

like my new pic n usenme?

heyy birdie!!
sup??

I’m fine, about to write a rant post. Yourself?

r u okay??
tell this thing to your psychiatrist!
again meditate….

You’re quite welcome, my friend. I’m glad I met you, too. :)

I’m on a med for the rest of my life. I don’t even think about it really. I’m just so damn grateful to BE alive. And to be better than I was without the med. :) So I take it each day, one day at a time.

The drawback to my med is that it can lead to complications without any warning and death would ensue within 48 hours or so because the situation would be irreversible by the time it’s diagnosed. Know something? I still don’t mind taking the med. I’d rather enjoy every day that I do have so it’s worth the risk to me. :D

It’s all relative. You’re doing great! One day at a time is all you need to do… :)