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• Are grubs in your fruit really bad for you? posted (4 months, 3 weeks) ago
  I ask this because I have read a lot about nutrition recently and I have been thinking of our ster…

• Every day I get super tired around 3pm and stay that way until around 9 pm. posted (7 months, 3 weeks) ago
  Sometimes I fall asleep. Anyone know a possible reason or solution for this? I also get really col…

• Trying to stop thinking about things that upset me. posted (7 months, 3 weeks) ago
  Okay, I am posting because my mind seems to generally wander back to times of stress or times that …

• I am sick of being unbalanced at school. posted (8 months, 1 week) ago
  Every task I get seems either unbearably easy or unbearably hard. I’ve always been intereste…

• Medical Question: I heard UV radiation is non-ionizing. posted (1 year, 5 months) ago
  How is it able to do damage to the DNA of your skin if it is non-ionizing? I heard with other non …

• Acrobat printing help please. posted (1 year, 7 months) ago
  (since I don’t have duplex printing) The program has option of even pages only and odd pages…

• ADD and Anxiety Disorders posted (1 year, 7 months) ago
  I want to hear about peoples’ experiences with A.D.D. and anxiety disorders. I have ADD inatte…

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betta's Top (5) Replies by other users' votes

• (1 vote) why religion?
  

  Why do I keep coming back to this stuff? Most of the replies here are stupid. There are people telling a 13 year old girl to out argue or debate her parents, telling her to mock their views, telling her to engage in a battle of wills between herself and her parents (without any knowledge of the kinds of discipline her parents use).
  
  Next there are religious nuts here trying to change the mind of a 13 year old who has been exposed to religion all her life by invoking the threat of hell, an launching long tirades. You really think she hasn’t heard that one yet? Also you think she’s going to bother reading all that when you are obviously not helping?
  
  - written 1 year, 2 months ago – voted for by leanne.rab

• (1 vote) Dating = Impossible?
  

  I generally get frustrated like you, but I have had some time to think about it and to read about it.
  
  First of all, if you are too nice right off the bad you are no longer a challenge to women. Notice how in fiction a lot of the guys are kind of jerks who the women reform? (EG Hans Solo in the star wars trilogy) That is because women see potential. A guy who is confident and sure of himself but does not submit is seen as adventurous and wild. Women don’t dream of the guy who completely submits to there will. They dream of turning the bad guy good.
  
  Next I think is that nice guys tend to come off as not confident, so act confident and you will do better.
  
  Finally I think the trap that nice guys fall into is being afraid to take risks. That includes fear of being rejected, fear of hurting her feelings, fear of being perceived as rude. Jerks have the opposite problems and can suffer from inability to have long term or meaningful relationships.
  
  One thing though, understanding this is not all there is to overcoming being a nice guy. Obviously we don’t want to become jerks, and we don’t want to give up all those good manners and lessons on how to treat women and others in general that our mothers taught us.
  
  Some things I think might help you get over this are as follows: Develop confidence, Develop a sense of humour, and try and become an interesting person. Have some interests and some things that make you unique. Have some stories that are all yours to tell.
  
  OK I can’t go on much more because I got to go work on these things myself.
  
  - written 1 year, 3 months ago – voted for by Fooch

• (1 vote) So, apparently I’m going to Hell.
  

  [quote ɐʇɐɯɹǝɟ.Suc]they try and be emo and think they are emo but they really arent
  wemo is short for “wannabe emo”…
  and its the wemos and stuff that slit their wrists etc
  theyre just trying to be emo and doing a really bad job of it
  and they generally declare themselves emo a lot
  an actual emo doesnt declare his/herself emo much[/quote]
  
  Just when this whole emo thing appeared as stupid as possible it has gotten even more stupid. Now there are the emo kids and the kids who just look act and talk emo, but aren’t because their souls aren’t painted black enough. Emo is just a fashion statement that got cool because at first only a few people were doing it and they appeared to be really original. Now more kids fit the part, and they are just as emo as the first ones. Now the spotlight is shone on emo kids and it is obvious how stupid the whole fad is. But the diehard emo (no pun intended) is in denial. S/He needs to believe that his/her activities were because s/he was being artistic, creative and misunderstood. So everyone else who appears to have jumped onto the bandwagon (or in front of it so to speak) is not authentic. They are just posers trying to get attention, unlike the first brave males to paint their nails black and cry in public about being misunderstood.
  
  - written 1 year, 5 months ago – voted for by Xeno Dragon

• (1 vote) what does it take to find a girl who will like you and be with you for who you are?
  

  hey, it can take some time. I recently hooked up with a girl who likes me for myself. However I’m concerned about what you said in your post about how girls don’t ever want to be direct about their emotions. You have to realize that this is not them being manipulative. Women seem to generally be more subtle and less direct than men about these kinds of things. Also women aren’t always completely aware of their emotions.
  
  - written 1 year, 7 months ago – voted for by HEAVEN SENT

• (1 vote) My Goldfish Are Dying ?
  

  Goldfish usually don’t live very long. Its probably a bacterial infection or something. That said, if you bought any of them within the last couple weeks they could have caught something from the new fish, who might have been sick. Bring any new fish back. take the dead ones out right away. Do a (partial) water change everyday for the next week. You should also be testing the water quality and chemistry. If there is ammonia or nitrites in the water, that could be the culprit. Also check that the pH is stable. Your fish could have died due to a sudden decline in the pH if the water has not been changed recently.
  
  - written 1 year, 8 months ago – voted for by Mezz

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• TO MEN: Can’t you really be force to LOVE someone?
  

  If love is not defineable then we can’t talk about it. I think we can stick to the common definition.
  
  [quote Abba Zabba]But love itself isn’t definable, the definition alters. Stockholm Syndrome, as 2d20 mentioned, is a form of love that develops. It may not be what you think love is, but that’s what happens.[/quote]
  
  Most cases where people beleive it can be forced we see something like the battered woman syndrome, which is more to do with fear than genuine compassion.
  
  Stockholm syndrome could be said to be love or not love depending on how you define it. Regardless when someone develops Stockholm syndrome they were not forced to love their captor. It is a side effect of being kidnapped, and probably has a lot to do with the attention as well as the good treatment received by the hostage than the bad.
  - written 11 hours, 50 minutes ago

• My cat is acting BIZARRE!
  

  Take her to the vet, a different vet from the one that botchet her spaying procedure. I’ve never heard of giving pets contraceptive shots, and it is irresponsible to let a cat outside if it is an adult and not neutered/spayed. Making loud noises could mean she’s in pain. When my cat got old she got a hyperactive thyroid, and she got kidney stones. She would make those noises when she used her litter box because it was painful. Your vet should check for conditions like this so that if your cat has disease or condition you can treat it.
  - written 12 hours, 20 minutes ago

• please some one give me serial key fpr nero 9.4.26
  

  I think you post violates the tos, so no, noone can on this forum.
  - written 12 hours, 26 minutes ago

• Has anyone tried the Charles Linden Method?
  

  Who are you to say anything about my moral character? You don’t know me. Just because I disagree with you does not make me a bad person. I don’t have anxiety problems much at all anymore. If you are right about it having many tools to help recovery then reactivate your account and give one single example.
  [quote nora.lace]Are you really an anxiety sufferer? This method has EVERYTHING you need to recover. It is not as you say mostly about Linden’s personal experience, but provides many, many tools to help recovery. I have been doing it for a week now with amazing results. I hope people aren’t guided away from the help they need by your incomplete (and somewhat snotty) evaluation.
  
  The beauty of this program is that it’s written in language we can all relate to, not in the confusing language of some cognitive behavioral book written by a doctor.
  
  If you had taken the time to go through the material, you would have found out that Charles Linden used some of your suggestions before he cured himself with the method presented in the material. Your suggestions are good ones, but they are lacking, obviously, or you wouldn’t still be seeking answers. Maybe Linden’s method would help you, too, if you took the time to learn it and live it.
  
  BTW, maybe your moral character could use some help, too (nudge nudge wink wink).
  
  [quote betta]I downloaded acquired copy of the package (nudge nudge wink wink). I haven’t opened all the media that came with it, but it comes with some guided visualizations. There is very little to it. Reading the manual it was hard to get any instruction out of it. He mainly just explains how anxiety disorders work. His 9 pillars were pretty much useless:
  1. Stop going to doctors
  2. Get of medications
  3. find yourself a hobby/distraction
  4. Stop telling people you have an anxiety problem
  5. Stop researching anxiety disorders
  6. Only follow the linden method
  7. Stop relying on others to help you with your disorder
  
  etc.. etc…
  
  As you can see, most of the advice can be dangerous as it cuts you off from the help that your looking for. I have been following most of that stuff since before I had anxiety anyway, and I still have problems. There are a few points of good advice in his method. I find the book long and lacks structure I’m looking for. Most of it is reading about Linden’s personal experience, and background information about anxiety. There are lots of parts I haven’t explored yet, and I think there are things like diversion tactics in there too.
  
  To save you the trouble and expense of his method here is what I think would be the equivalent:
  1. Get a book on cognitive behavioural therapy for anxiety/depression. Read it, understand the why, and the techniques for dealing with it.
  2. Practic yoga, reiki, and other new age relaxation techniques.
  3. Buy a relaxation cassette and listen to it once or more per day.
  4. Get a hobby.
  5. Be physically active.
  
  There may be a few other gems of wisdom in his method but they are scattered throughout. I guess he wouldn’t be able to justify the cost if he streamlined the materials. I personally disagree with some of his advice. I think it may be best geared to those who suffer from panic attacks.[/quote][/quote]
  - written 3 weeks, 6 days ago

• Every day I get super tired around 3pm and stay that way until around 9 pm.
  

  I’m not that old yet. But worked shift last summer. My body does not adjust well to alternating sleep schedules. I don’t have that particular sleep problem anymore. I figure it may have been a combination of stress, a bad circadian rhythm, and also maybe I was having too much carbs in the afternoon. I often find carbs make me tired if I have too much.
  - written 1 month, 2 weeks ago

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