crystalsandsand's reply history at Help.com

If that’s true then he deserves punishment yes, but he does not deserve to take your life too.
Which he would if you killed him as that would ruin your life.

I don’t know exactly because I’m not one, but I think some people just like to think they are better than someone else in the world. Then no matter how bad their life gets they still can still tell themselves well at least I’m better than them!

It’s probably also that some people are just uncomfortable with the thought because its not something they’d like to do. And rather than decide not to think about it or that its not their business, they decide that it’s wrong for everybody and no one should do it.

Treating people with respect is a lot easier and more rewarding than learning how to manipulate people.
If you’re not naturally good manipulating, it’s not that easy to learn.
And if it’s not natural and people realise you’re trying to manipulate them they’ll get really annoyed.
So if I were you I’d just try and start respecting people’s decisions.
But when you want to be more convincing follow the simple rule that if you want someone to do something for you, make it sound like something theyd want to do.
Like it would be beneficial to them.
If you just say I want you to do this cause it will help me, they’re likely to feel put out. If you say if you do this you’ll get to meet some new people(or whatever), then they’ll be more likely to do it.

why would you want him to hit you?
How is that better than ignoring when it shows an utter lack of respect for you?

You cant force him to stop ignoring you. You should try and talk it out.
And if that doesnt work then maybe you need to consider moving on.
If talking to him calmly, and trying to get him to explain his side of the story.. and you really try but get nothing back, then you could threaten to leave.
Thats a last resort, because you have to be willing to follow through, but the threat might wake him up.
If even that doesnt work, then there really is no hope.

[quote Verisimilitude][quote crystalsandsand]that’s nice but you seem annoying, and I bet your face and your intelligence aren’t half as impressive as his.[/quote]

I think this reply sort of contradicts what you said above. But I understand what you mean and believe that you have good intentions nonetheless.[/quote]

I suppose you could look at it as contradicting.
I reacted that way because I take issue with someone going on a site called help.com, bragging and then insulting people.

And I was really talking more about people who do no one any harm, and are kind good people, but people still look down on them.
They try their best, but because of who they are it might be harder for them than most.
I’m afraid I get annoyed, and lose respect for people when they chooses to rub their luck in other’s faces and insult them.

that’s nice but you seem annoying, and I bet your face and your intelligence aren’t half as impressive as his.

Yeah kinda.
I just don’t like how people are always looking for reasons to look down on each other, and that for instance someone being a ****, means they don’t deserve as much respect. How is that anyone else’s business exactly?

Or how people look down on people who don’t take as much care of their appearance, like that is any reason to think you are better than someone else.

Or even how people think of themselves as more important because they are more intelligent. Society sides with intelligent people, what if you’re just not that smart. That apparently makes you less important and people treat you as such. Even if you are actually quite intelligent in some aspects, if its not obvious, people just use putting you down as a way to make themselves feel better.

All I’m saying is.. that even if you don’t agree with someone’s personal choices, I don’t understand why people feel they can pass judgement.

are you a girl?
Cause I went on the pill and my skin cleared right up..
Though also not washing it or putting anything at all on it helped as it was so sensitive everything just made it worse.

Nah I think everyone does. But I understand where you’re coming from. I don’t mean respect in a sense of looking up to them, but treating them like they matter.

It’s true though what you say in the sense that not everyone needs that to make them feel better, and maybe they respond more to being treated badly. But I think generally respecting everyone’s opinion and right to happiness, whatever that consists of, is important.

There is a prayer called the serenity prayer,
you may or may not believe in God but you can’t doubt the valuable truth in it’s words:

God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can and the wisdom to know the difference.

I made a post almost identical to this last week.
But what I’ve been coming to realise is that there is no point hating yourself. Because you are who you are, and hating yourself will not stop you being that, it will just make you feel awful.
You have to try to make the most of what you’ve been given, even if its not what you think you want. It’s what you have, and I bet you have some really good qualities about you, you just need to embrace them.
Then you’ll have a reason to be proud of yourself and will begin to truely repsect and love yourself.
Treat yourself like a good friend.
Would you tell a good friend you hated them all the time?
Would you be destructive towards them?
Of course not.
Because you like them, you care about them.
You need to learn to feel that way about yourself.
You deserve it.

Why is it that some people who really want kids and think they can’t suddenly find themselves pregnant?
Why is it that so many people can be saved now from dying young and painfully because of developments in modern medicine?
Why is it that people can fall in love?
Why is it that in the modern world when someone is abused or treated unfair something can actually be done about it? Why is it that science can prove who did it rather than it just being word of mouth?

There is good and bad in the world.
If you focus on the bad it seems unfair, but it’s not, it’s just the luck of the draw.
The fact that there exists fertility treatments to help people become pregnant who would otherwise never have been is amazing.
The fact modern medicine has cut down the death rate of children has increased life expectancy and is able to help cure and prevent diseases is amazing.
The fact a lot of abusers get what they have coming to them and that victims have support groups and organisations to turn to for help is amazing.
There are two sides.

I don’t understand why people think it is okay to not respect someone just because you’ve decided they don’t respect themselves.

life isn’t unfair, life is just life.
No one ever said lit’s supposed to be easy.

NLD?
I just looked that up and it sounds like what I have.. but I thought I have dyspraxia, I have not been formally diagnosed but I know I have something from such things as I never learned how to ride a bike and it took me years to learn to tell time.
But the characteristics of NLD sounds really similar too.
Is it much different from dyspraxia?