2012-08-18 18:06:51 on Help me!
facebook and google?
2012-08-18 17:58:13 on I need opinions here.
Well with a kid involved it seems a bit ridiculous to be acting that way.
I think that usually happens because if you decide to break up with someone you are probably pretty angry at them, or have just decided they are really not right for you.
If it’s because you were really angry then you are probably so bothered with the anger that you just don’t want to see them or think about them because it’s just gonna hurt.
If it’s that you decided you weren’t right for each other, then you probably still have some positive feelings for them. After a while these will confuse you make you reconsider your decision, even if you know it was the right one. So to prevent this you cut contact.
It’s also just easier to sort your thoughts about it out if you take a step back from a situation and cutting contact would be a way to do that.
2012-08-18 17:47:51 on Hey guys I need some opinions on this!
I didn’t realise they censored the d word!
It’s not considered a curse here,
Makes it look much worse than I meant :/
Anyway yeah thanks so much!
2012-08-18 17:10:27 on Hey guys I need some opinions on this!
****! Thanks for that… think that’s probably my answer :)
2012-08-18 17:09:41 on Hey guys I need some opinions on this!
That’s what it is I think! I know I act very mature for my age, some would probably say too mature. I find it hard to be the fun loving 21 year old I’m supposed to be when my life has taken such difficult turns. I mean I’m glad they did I’m happy but I guess it made me grow up a lot. And now I mostly make friends with people a bit older than me cause I haven’t got that college student mentality. I’m more at the ‘what the hell am I doing with my life?’ stage rather than the ‘live in the moment, I’ll deal with the future when it comes’ stage a lot of 21 year olds around me seem to be.
I mean I do have friends my age and younger but none I’m interested in romantically. And I guess why him being 30 bothers me is because I would hope I will spend the next 9 years of my life growing as a person and maturing even more. I would like to be seeing someone who was likely to grow up and mature as they get older as well.
If he’s at my maturity at 30, that to me means at some point he just stopped.
So what if I pass him out?
It’s not just that I also think that me being mature is great and all but I am 21, I’m not 30 and I need to bloody relax a bit. I think I need someone my age who is a bit less mature so I can remember that and enjoy being my age.
That would be an opportunity to improve myself, being with this guy, this miserable, depressed, mentally frozen guy… would probably do more harm than good.
2012-08-18 16:33:18 on Hey guys I need some opinions on this!
[quote a wild ozy appears]uh, i think in you’re gut you’re just not getting the right feeling. with so many people out there, i don’t understand why you’re trying to force yourself to want him.
i understand that he’s likable, but he’s older, has no real job, has no ambition, talks about “settling down”, tells other people about you, and is kind of immature, which are all turn-offs for you. if your instincts don’t say GO GET HIM, then why bother? it seems really silly.
i sense that, if you do go out with him, your attitude will be more like:
*shrug* why not? i SHOULD want him.
just because you like someone doesn’t mean you’re obligated to date them.[/quote]
I know it’s just that I didn’t mind before I knew his age and people keep saying I should be able to look past it. But I think I just can’t. Kinda wish I could cause it could be fun but it’s just not working.
2012-08-18 05:27:05 on hey guys i would love to have new friends who wants to be my friend?
Sure why not. And I’m just past a teenager, I’m 21. So if you still wanna I’m here :)
[quote Siren]time and distractions[/quote]
What I did after a really horrible messed up year was I spent the summer getting incredibly fit and doing yoga. Every few days I noticed how much better and stronger I was getting and it made me feel fantastic. It was a great distraction and I was constantly feeling rewarded and accomplished for it.
The only way to get through something difficult is to just get through it. There’s not really some secret formula. You just have to feel like crap for a while. But distractions and finding other ways to feel good inspite of it help time pass quicker and make it more bearable. Then next thing you know it’s not so painful anymore.
2012-08-17 16:55:54 on My dog won’t pee outside when its raining.
we used to just push our dog outside anyway and he learned the fastest way back in is to go
2012-08-17 16:54:42 on I need a way to make money without leaving my house.
What if you be a night cleaner? You won’t really have to deal with people much.
2012-08-17 14:57:13 on Hey guys I need some opinions on this!
It’s just a pity cause if I’d never known I would probably have gone out with him. Kinda wish I didn’t know…
2012-08-17 14:40:55 on Hey guys I need some opinions on this!
[quote spiratec9]Is he your soul mate.Accept nothing less.[/quote]
I am quite sure already that no he’s not. :/
[quote wil]Maybe you need more time to get to know him? It may be easier to assess in light of his age. Nothing wrong with that.[/quote]
I was thinking that and that’s what I said but he’s been telling people about me and the other day started talking about his plans to settle down and I was kinda freaked. Dunno if he meant it that way but I feel like he’s expecting this to turn into something serious… which I don’t really want.
[quote griffin195]a friend is a friend. go for it
just cause he doesn’t act his age
look at me i’m 195 i act like maybe 40[/quote]
I wish I could just ignore it. My flatmate keeps saying to just go for it and who cares about age but for some reason I can’t seem to…
2012-08-16 12:10:30 on Why is it so bad to wear a lot of makeup?
I sometimes get given out to for wearing too much make up. I know I don’t wear an incredibly amount but I like doing my lips and I also like doing my eyes so sometimes I do both and forget to tone one down and it looks a bit much apparently.
I mean I can understand what you said earlier about guys rarely approaching girls who don’t wear any make up unless they just naturally look great cause like I only get attention from guys when I wear make up, when I don’t I think I just blend in or just look bad. Cause I need to wear powder cause my skin goes red really easily, and then cause I’m really pale and don’t like fake tan, I look too washed out and ill so I have to put a little lipgloss and or eye make up on on.
But on the other hand since I rarely go out without make up maybe I would still get attention I just don’t know it.
It could just be it makes me confident and people react to that :S
You should do what makes you happy, but if what you’re doing is expensive and a little less make up could make you look better, with less effort and for cheaper then that sounds like a pretty good deal to me!
Oh also, I do think Amy Child’s looks bad the way she’s done up. I saw a picture of her without make up and she looked loads better. She doesn’t need it, she’s just really pretty anyway. So I guess the guys who’s get with her would probably just happily ignore what’s plastered on her face. But I do know a lot of guys who wouldn’t like her look.
I think he should be willing to try it, maybe he’d enjoy it. But I mean I can understand his feeling awkward because he might worry if he was watching it too intently you’d get jealous or something
I have been trying a few of those things but I’m still so busy it’s easy to stay stressed
I try to laugh but nothing seems funny.
Yeah I do need one but feel like a weekend isn’t enough and I don’t think my job would give me a holiday I’ve not been there long enough