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It’s impossible to close your account. Sorry. Just leave and hope it goes unnoticed whatever things you said or did that makes you ashamed to admit them.

It got smeared on my hands when I was stealing time from other people, including you.
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The jerk doesn’t deserve your love. He cheats on his girlfriend, but controls who you can text? He’s a control freak, manipulative, whatever you want to call it. It’s unlikely he ever cared about you more than what he could get from you.

*You* sound like a troll to me. I have not noticed anything you have mentioned.

I guess you need to get their sister to be on your side then.

“Your goal is to choose a math course that is appropriate for your skill level. A deliberate wrong choice of course might lead to a waste of time in attempting the course, and a waste of money for the course and required textbook. We want you to succeed!”
It’s meant to assess you. If you don’t remember, just say you don’t remember how to do the problems.

So… I suppose try to focus more on the person you’ve been in a relationship with for so long. And stop thinking about the other girl. Every time you start to think about her, stop it as soon as possible. Don’t allow your thoughts to go down that path unpunished.

You can’t two people at the same time.

See this post:
http://help.com/post/395782-i-am-in-a…

Thanks for the notification Anonymous.

If their mother is being emotionally or physically abusive, the child services people should be contacted. It depends on what you mean by being mad and mean though.

[quote Littlenick]Sorry, no money here.

While we at help.com are really sorry about your situation, I’m not sure anybody here is able to help you.

The only thing I can send you is lots of blessings and good wishes.

If you came here looking for money, sorry there is no money. As far as donations of any kind, I don’t think you’re going to find that here either. However, I might be wrong. I hope someone who can help you sees your plea. Sorry.

We at help.com are so broke we cannot pay attention.

For positive affirmations, go here:

http://www.vitalaffirmations.com/

For ways to save money:

http://www.howisavemoney.net/

Click these websites, you might find something there:

http://cyberbeg.com/

http://www.modestneeds.org/

http://www.newhopenow.org/index.cfm

And for a job if you want one:

http://jobs.com/

If you’re facing foreclosure:

http://makinghomeaffordable.gov/

If you need urgent help, contact the Homeowner’s HOPE™ Hotline: (888) 995-HOPE

http://www.freddiemac.com/index.html

http://www.realtor.com

And if you need money for a scholarship for a student or even you as a student, go here:

http://www.fastweb.com/

If you need a car, they might help you here:

http://www.freecharitycars.org/

FOODBANKS:

http://feedingamerica.org/default.asp…

HELP FOR PAYING FOR PRESCRIPTIONS:

http://www.pparx.org/

http://www.needymeds.org/

PFIZER http://www.pfizerhelpfulanswers.com/p…

http://freemedicine.com/?gclid=CNLx7t…

http://www.freerxplus.com/frp00570/en…

PAYING FOR SURGERY WITHOUT INSURANCE OR IF INSURANCE WONT PAY:

http://surgery.about.com/od/beforesur…

I would contact your local hospitals for more information.

If you need help with your utility bills:

http://www.nls.org/benefits/utility.htm

Also go here, for government assistance with your utility bill:

http://www.utilitybillassistance.com/…

If you need a computer or laptop and cannot afford one, go here:

http://www.computerswithcauses.org/ap…

And who knows, with the law of averages if you go to enough websites, you’re bound to find a benefactor who will be willing to part with his money and give it to you.

And for Worldwide Hotlines:

http://help.com/post/210790-hotlines-…

And for life skills, compliments of Micheal Liebman:

http://lifeskills.endlex.com/menu/art…

If you want to make your own website to try to collect money on your own, go here:

http://www.chipin.com/

For Government help with food and money for food

http://www.foodstampshelp.org/getfood…

and

http://www.nyc.gov/portal/site/nycgov…

You’re a member of a union. They should be able to help you. See if they can pay some of your educational costs retroactively:

http://www.unionplus.org/college-educ…

AFL-CIO

http://www.aflcio.org/index.cfm

http://www.aflcio.org/issues/jobsecon…

Contact your state affiliates. See what they can offer.

You are a veteran.

Military help:

http://vets.com/

http://www.unmetneeds.com/

http://www.4militaryfamilies.com/

http://gilocator.com/Careers/Home/0,1…

http://www.adusa.com/FamNeeds.htm

http://www.military.com/benefits/reso…

Sorry, that’s all I have.

And for your own protection, if you’re thinking about doing it, don’t post your personal information or anybody else’s on any public forum like this one. You’re bound to find scammers who will come out of the woodwork pretending to want to help you and will end up leaving you worse off than you already are. Be really careful.

Sorry, and good luck to you!!!
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^ The above is not official, but it does convey the feelings of several of us here.

I would say it depends on the expectations. It is unreasonable to expect someone to be able to change for every single expectation we have; and how do we know our expectations are fair, and that it’s their problem?
To counter that, I’ve held myself to a higher standard than others. I want to help them work through problems they have, but at the same time I need to keep from thinking I’m perfect myself.

So, to answer your question, I do all three. If someone does not meet an expecation of mine that is important, such as not being backstabbed, I will cut off contact with them. Otherwise if the expectation is one someone is having trouble reaching, I will help them. And if I realize at some point that my expecations are unreasonable, I change my expectations; that is where the main problem is, I think… determining which expectations you should have, and which you shouldn’t.

People can often have negative connotations for good things. I think it’s “conditioning.” So, it may not just be what you are doing, but things in general that may hurt him. And it’s also possible he can hide that hurt for a bit, and then just feel it later on after he isn’t talking to you. /shrug/ It is very hard to tell without seeing him in person, as I,Human mentioned.

The others here are giving you fairly good advice, so I am just going to point out something I don’t think was mentioned and leave it at that.
People who are hard to read are sometimes people who have had their emotions used against them in the past, so they are afraid to show them in greater depth. While, on the other hand, they sometimes fake emotions because they’re manipulative.

I’d see which is more likely; mostly by seeing if they ever have moments when they seem to be hurt by something and then just go quiet, to prove the first. The second is harder to tell, but depends on the level of skill at manipulation.

Anyways, optimism is a better approach though people should remain guarded, so good luck on it.