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Well that is abit late now isnt it? And we did use to get on before he went to jail we got on perfectly now he’s home we just fight all the time.

What lie? And why do your parents hate him?

Maybe that is your problem, not wanting to change to become interactive with people. Instead of looking for a job that has the least interaction maybe you should work on becoming more intreactive. Get yourself out there the first steps are always the hardest, play sports or go out and make some friends. Then your future can be whatever you want it to. If that’s the only thing holding you back from actually living your life you should try and change it so your not stuck under a rock. Then human mind can get over anything as long as you want it bad enough. Try just talking to some random stranger, strike up a conversation on the train or bus or even in a shopping centre, if you get shut down then it doesn’t matter your probably never going to see that person again! If you dont you might make a friend for life. Life is choices and change make things happen. You say you live at home, there’s nothing wrong with that even at 26 as long as you have a plan of what your going to do, I’m 22 and married and my partner and I live with my family, I’m kay with it because I know the amount of money we save by staying at home can let us go out and buy a house straight up in a year. Instead of going out now getting a mortgage and paying it off for the next 10 years a little bit of sacrifice is okay!

Hmmm, I dont think he’d be up for that, he thinks we’re perfect. That everything is fine. There is just no getting through to him when he thinks everything is normal and fine!

I think feeling like that is very normal these days. Young kids are brain washed to think skinnier is better. It’s very unhealthy. As long as you keep healthy, make sure you eat and dont deprive yourself of things your body needs ;)

Dont push yourself to hard because you will find that you wont be able to maintain it. Baby steps. I’m 5′6 and weigh 63kgs and want to get down to 50kgs. I lose a kilo here and there and put it on just because of my laziness to stick to anything, someone told me about this thing called hydroxy cut, apparently its meant to double whatever calories you burn for faster weight loss. How old are you?

[quote dove7]What if she wanted you to raise your kids as she saw fit, and you didn’t agree. How would that work out?[/quote]

She would have nothing to do with the “raising” of my children. They would be my children so she wouldn’t have a say. At least I’d like to think like that. She’s so controlling so I guess she’d try!

A lot of times GrumpAs! And I’ve caught him out on a couple of ocassions lying to shut me up. He knows he will make me angry so he just says whatever will make me happy and keep me quiet. It’s very very frustrating!!! Your on holidays GrumpyAs and you are bored!!! What the?? Hehehehe :) Yeah it gets like that. I stress so much I wont be able to have his children! We are still young so we dont stress it out to each other but I mean I always think whats going to happen if I cant do that for him. I wouldn’t want to hold him back from having his own children, but at the same time I dont want to be alone for the rest of my life you know!

When we tell her she needs to ask someone else she puts a guilt trip on us by saying there is noone available to help and we are the only ones. There has been a couple of occasions when my family has needed something and my husband just gets snappy and grumpy about having to do it, but my family has learnt not to ask because it does cause problems and they dont want that for us. I mean that’s what a normal person would do if they trully wanted you to be happy.

I have asked him, he says me. But I dont feel as though it is. I think he just says it to make me happy, so there is no problems. I then I get freaked out and think it’s me, have I done something to make him think I’m not worthy enough to be number one in his eye’s. We’ve been trying to have children for about 3 years and nothing has worked and I think in my head he kind of resents me for not being able to give him that. There is just a mountain of stuff I think about everyday, and all I want is for him to love me like I love him :(

We’ve spent a year and a half away from eachother he only got back about 2 months ago. If anything I think the time away has made it worse. It never use to be this bad. And yeah I think she does know she’s doing this. She is very religious and has said on more than one occassion that he should love god first, his mother second, and then the rest of his family.

That is true dove7 but I guess when you are brought up in a country where the wife is meant to be the next of kin, you kind of just expect to be notified when it is something as big as your husband having cancer and having an operation. Like what if something went wrong, and he died (god forbid) but you know that’s where I’m coming from.

I know I know, it’s like no matter what he does, or how angry I get its pointless because its not gonna change anything. And he knows this.

Yes but he just says “its my mum” I dont want to push to much you know?

Good so it’s not just me!!! I cant even tell anymore if I’m just overracting or actually have a point to getting mad!