ok, this is a lot. I’m sorry,… life sucks sometimes. And then it gets better … you already know you got the good with the bad. I sense you are young, but i also sense you can get through anything - a soldier. Thank you for that too. For real. Listen, you can’t beat a dead horse. Who you married cause you wanted to do the right thing, first love bs, ain’t working out. Ok, next. So far, i’m not believing in her. I recognize tender moments, but it was just that, moments. Even through 6 years of knowing. You loved her cause she was familiar, you two were close in the growing years. Which are still going on. Now she’s living off your benefits and young enough to not be sitting at home faithful. come on, get real. Life is changing every second. Don’t focus on her. Focus on getting home in one piece. Then concentrate on your next battle. Sorry to say this, but DNA test making sure the 2nd child is even yours. Man up. Forget her, drop her like she’s hot. You deserve a real love. For you. Not your paycheck and benes and your puppy love for her. Don’t be used. You’re fighting for your country. Fight for yourself too. Don’t come home crazy. Soldier. by God.
you can’t connect cause you’re carrying around that wet blanket everywhere you go - drop it. Kick it to the curb. Gotta start fresh. Anew. All that Jazz. No yesterday’s pain, no anticipation of tomorrow’s sorrow. It’s gone, finitio. Over. New horizons to scale. New heartbeat. People change their mind, people grow different. Roll with it. And change too. Seriously. Wallowing in shte gets you = only dirty. and smelly. No one feels sorry for you. No one cares. Wash yourself good today, tonite. get some lemon essence in that bath or shower. Breathe, and go On. Period. Do it.
I don’t think we ever get over it, gotta go around it - mine was years ago, but with all the crap on tv these days, there are flashbacks - so stop watching crap tv, spooky, scary, awful shows of molestation, stupidity, evil. think on all things good to the best of your ability, be grateful you’re alive and count yourself a Survivor - don’t let it rob you of your future - I keep saying the Best Revenge is Living Well - so get better in your head, and your heart. You love You. Spit out the dirt of the past to your counselors since they’re paid to listen - depend on only yourself and cross off the demons trying to take over the mind - then keep on stepping up, over, and out….
- written 1 month, 3 weeks ago – voted for by . . .
ok let’s look at this another way, your parents jumping on you, shows love. In spite of your pain, your actions, your rambles, your very tough life, they are not willing to let you go. Otherwise they would have sat on the couch watching tv or something. But better than that, you have bonafide caring, considerate, genuine friends on this site. Who have walked with you along this dam battle of the mind spirit struggle. And so as a Soldier for us All, you must persevere. Yeah it hurts, defeats and robs you, but you always come out swinging, so, the fight is on. I’m sorry for the pain, We have your back.
- written 1 month, 4 weeks ago – voted for by Ahhotep
ok, sorry you didn’t pass the pre whatever. What’s your next move Soldier? Get to Stepping. How dare you quit on Yourself! if i knew where you were, i’d be beatin your butt! you know you gotta get out from momma’s house so you better figure out what else in life you want to do - grab your 40 dollars and get on a bus and find a new Life, oh wait, bus cost more than 40 dollars, well, save up your money and get your azz z outta there! join peace corps, or work on a cruise ship, or freaking find some adventure that pays. Sell newspapers or something to get money. find work you can walk to whatever - get in gear!
I chose 2, close to subway, the walkup will give you exercise, small bedroom - get twin size mattress, sit it on like 6 open plastic crates, lay them on their side facing out to store books and stuff in, buy a comforter and fold it in half under the mattress on top of the crates for comfort, get a work table from the flea market to house your computer and find a skinny bookshelf - cheap tall mirror from like target or dollar store to tape to the wall to view dressing and hair, maybe more crates (colorful of course) to stack and fold your clothes in if you don’t have a closet. You can find most of this at the flea market, gotta go early though. Oh, treat yourself to a extra firm pillow or 2 for your bead - one for your head, one for your feet, - written 3 weeks ago
you bet - this is the only place you can come, be anon, be whoever (which is still anon) and get sound advice from the core group of us that have been thru it - or need help with something ourselves. Sorry for the fragility of your son, and his wife. Her reasoning skills read way off, i hope the kids are ok, and hate to say this, but wonder if they’re even his … only she can do the math - They choose to learn the hard way, but - they’ll learnnn… :)) - written 3 weeks, 4 days ago