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dam Mitzy, I am soo sorry to hear this, called way to early, my condolence to all the family ~ E

you bet - this is the only place you can come, be anon, be whoever (which is still anon) and get sound advice from the core group of us that have been thru it - or need help with something ourselves. Sorry for the fragility of your son, and his wife. Her reasoning skills read way off, i hope the kids are ok, and hate to say this, but wonder if they’re even his … only she can do the math - They choose to learn the hard way, but - they’ll learnnn… :))

in a prior post ~ E - I’ve been with ya since your send out the invitations days :)

I’m sorry for your comrades, My heart wraps around you to remain and come home safe. We all love you very much ~ E

yeah you are being too lenient and too trusting = and if you don’t send what she needs she don’t have it. You know that. But - that itch he got on the side - she will harm your child - on purpose, bad food, not food, crap in it. All of that. And he’s passed out drunk somewhere or not even there … As long as you keep paying his way, he ain’t gonna change. You know that. Trying to be nice may be seriously hurting your child. Of course the child won’t get sick until she’s back in your custody after that visit, and then You are the villain - you see this coming … better get your priorities in order. I know you got a lot on your plate, but he ain’t the answer. My guess you don’t want him on paper cause you need a babysitter…or you still got feelings and wanna rub his nose in his responsibility - he ain’t gonna git it girl … dam I just broke my fingernail …

thank God, you read like a good Mom to me. I hope and pray your life changes all for the better. Get far from the maddening crowd, they don’t change — I’m pulling for you, write anytime … :)

hi, I think you are slowly, trying not to realize, that this is a no win situation. She will always find issues - about everything, anything - yeah you have been there for each other. But she’s unstable, for whatever reason - you are smart enough to notice what’s not going on in her mind, her reasoning capabilities - yeah it’s good to stand by your girl - but not when it means the whole course of your life - think on it, for the reality

you can’t connect cause you’re carrying around that wet blanket everywhere you go - drop it. Kick it to the curb. Gotta start fresh. Anew. All that Jazz. No yesterday’s pain, no anticipation of tomorrow’s sorrow. It’s gone, finitio. Over. New horizons to scale. New heartbeat. People change their mind, people grow different. Roll with it. And change too. Seriously. Wallowing in shte gets you = only dirty. and smelly. No one feels sorry for you. No one cares. Wash yourself good today, tonite. get some lemon essence in that bath or shower. Breathe, and go On. Period. Do it.

hii, your response makes me sooo happy and proud for you. For leaving the demons behind and getting your mind straight and your heart in line with your Spirit, this makes me smile, thanx …. as for bread - don’t know where you live, but I like nature’s made honey wheat, on occasion, i’m not a big bread fan, it fills you up. On soda, I drink deer park sparkling lemon water or plain seltzer water, on nuts, I lovve pistachio nuts — but that’s just me, try it and letmeknow…. :) don’t worry about a scale - check out that body shape coming …:))~ don’t forget to walk for exercise and clarity :)) lub, ~ E

Yeahhh!!! Happy Birthday!!! I so hope you enjoy your day - by any means necessary - just think, older, wiser, stronger … wonderful — think love, joy and peace especially on this day, Yeti? Hi Yeti, been gone soo long …hope you are well also

Yeahh !! that’s help.com for ya, 24/7 guess what? I could use the help too - I’ve put back on lost weight over the winter, but my plan is to walk it back off - going to the zoo, they have lots of up and down walking and can stop and watch exotic fish or frogs or apes and cheetahs - then get back to walking - 2,3x a week, and the zoo is free. So that’s my plan, walking and deer park water = if and when you are no longer anon, i’ll meet ya and we can duke it (the weight) out together - haha :)

so again, and for the last time, it’s always your fault. He has none. Just to get away from you so he says - which means he wants you to always come begging for him. And within 3 days of alone, that’s exactly what you will do. Have been doing. Hopefully not anymore. Please try both groups, I don’t know CODA, but if it’s a self help group I hope you stick with it and find Yourself. Or spend your time at Al Anon, in person. Ready to stand for your sanity. PS: Stop playing cat and mouse with this dude. You are always the mouse …you will never win his respect nor appreciation. Quit looking for it. Find your own.

The highs are over. The only high you get now is when he is need of something, anything and you fulfill it. He can get anything from you and then blast you so you feel sorry — for him. No, you’re a co-dependent of an maddening drinker, or druggie, pills - anyway, I said Al-Anon group, which is a meeting for enablers, and bleeding hearts who just don’t know what to do but suffer thru and ignore abuse at risk for themselves to the point of no return. Please call or visit Al-Anon near you, they are everywhere, anonymously, discuss your situation - just try it.

[quote Hello Sweetie :)]its only a couple of pounds i need to lose. and i really cant diet, ive tried so hard, it doesnt matter how much excersize, even 2 hours in the gym and burning 1000 calories every day i dont lose a single pound. its really getting to me[/quote]

drink sunsweet 100% prune juice a glass or 2 a week - that’ll clear your system in about an hour - also svetol green coffee bean extract, you can order it online - i know these work

I mean why? what the hll is wrong with the truth? If it wasn’t any of her business that you are married, why didn’t you wear condoms? if she still wanted to talk to you, she would have. Now with no choice you have given her a baby without benefit of love, care, protection and a father. Sweet talked her family like you were a stand up guy? you had the nerve to propose?? hella yeah they mad, sad, and disappointed. Thanx dude. Real man. You shouldn’t be in a relationship when you don’t know or honor who you are. Too many fatherless babies out here. It’s not about a child support check and a weekend visit. It’s about a child’s Life and the mother’s Life. and even your Life.[/quote]