Hi Shigaku, how are you? I saw your post briefly before you closed it. It said “In fact, just an hour ago, I chatted her up to ask her when we could meet to finish up a music recording we were doing together. She left me there for a 10 minute lapse.”
I think it’s not too bad though, it’s not too long. It’s hard to tell sometimes why someone takes long to respond, as in your other posts. But 10minutes is not long I think.
It’s important to just be patient, all good things take time, even if it is just a chance. You wanna avoid sounding impatient, because that would be a turn off for her, so, just be mature and accept that she may need time. Just look on the bright side, even if she rejects you more, you will learn things about approaching a girl you really like, and it will help you in the future when you meet another nice girl you like. Either way, you can turn this into a victory, even if it is just a small victory, as long as you are patient.
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I pulled an all nighter due to a sleepover, lugged stuff down for SHS from 8 to 9, haunted house work from 9:30 to 11:30 (sooo fun, but my voice is croaky now), Jazz commitments from a little after 12 to 2:20 or so (performance at 1:15)… I’m sore everywhere. x.x
I didn’t visit any booths. And all I ate was a hot dog. I didn’t go to the courtyard or the cafeteria. Um. Yeah. Too busy to do anything…
I’m generally really critical of most of the summer reading books we get. =___= Oh well.
Oh, I knew her for like a month and then I think she forgot who I am. XD This was in middle school, I think. We went to Honor Band together and complained about our butts hurting from being seated so much. Good times. She was/is pretty cool.
Oh, am I in the 8:00? I forgot already. I must be. I’m on stage at noon for Jazz and after that I have a haunted house shift. o: harro.
I only just saw your post from yesterday. Today the junior advisor meetings - mine at least - consisted of us splitting into groups and discussing “invisible” people as described by Mawi Asgedom. So for me it was like you were responding directly to that, but I don’t think you guys did that. o:
I’m curious who it was, but I probably don’t know who it was so it’s okay. But I’m very happy for you and it gave me warm fuzzies. Yup.
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The other thing is knowing whether or not you actually like her. You’ve complained enough about her personality and tendency to use people and interact with people for the wrong reasons. Is that okay with you? Does she deserve to be loved by you?
And, well, you’ve said that you wish she could see your posts, but you could show her if you really wanted, or paraphrase. I don’t know how much she knows, but often communication helps.
Most of the time, going as friends isn’t platonic. I mean, friends go together when they have the lack of a date in common and just end up dancing around one another on the night of the dance rather than planning it out beforehand. Platonic friends would usually wing it or go as a group. There are exceptions, of course, but that’s usually how I see it.
Thing is, most people with one-sided feelings enjoy spending time with the person they have feelings for. It makes sense: I like this person, therefore I like being around him or her. You are definitely not alone in this.
However, you have to recognize the reasons you do the things you do and not let your judgment cloud over. :/
You also need to figure out what you want. You say you’ve tried walking away before and been stopped, but if that’s what you think is best for your sanity and happiness, do it. If you’re more the type who can love from afar or doesn’t mind just being friends in order to spend time with your love interest without making any romantic advancements, then that works too. Both options have the potential to cause pain and/or increased happiness. Neither is easy, I’m afraid. x_x
And if you’re ever on GApps (like now or at school), you should add me, because I thought about adding you a long time ago but didn’t know which ID to add because you have one of those more common types of names here.
We kind of stopped talking for a while, but you know I’m here, right?
It is very possible if you really are just friends with a platonic relationship. However, going as friends is usually the result of compromising because of one-sided feelings. Then, it is not likely to go well. Consciously or not, the person with feelings for the other gets his or her hopes up, while the other spends the night sidestepping and avoiding letting him or her on in a social minefield. It detracts from the friend’s enjoyment during the dance and usually leads the other person to feel more dejected when things don’t work out.
Basically, when you’re thinking about going to a dance or anything with someone as friends, you have to know why it is that you want to go with him or her. Like, consider just how platonic your feelings and intentions are.
And I’m going to go have dinner now. XD
Sorry if that wasn’t the answer you were looking for, but that’s my true opinion.
Lol it actually turns out that i DO know you. I replied to one of your posts a long long time ago titled “Im going to continue with this even if it hurts me”
Iunno if thats the same girl or not though.