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I hate our dog that constantly paws at my feet.

Have you talked to him about it?

Just be like “I think we should plan more carefully so we can hang out more often with less of a chance of bein interrupted.” Or somethin along those line. Just come across that you really like hangin n it bums you out when it gets spoiled.

[quote ǝןʇʇıɹq][quote NotYouButMyself]A squirrel, because they never stop moving and because of the fat one at my place that always throws nuts at me. I wanna throw nuts at people.[/quote]

besides, who doesnt want to be fat and fluffy? :D[/quote]

Seriously!

A squirrel, because they never stop moving and because of the fat one at my place that always throws nuts at me. I wanna throw nuts at people.

I think you owe her honesty. Like you said, “only person who ever cared about me”, don’t throw her away for not wanting to change. This isn’t going to be a bad change either. Give it a chance.

Just be sure if you do that that you are on the phone or in person so they KNOW you’re asking in a joking manner, or it defeats the whole purpose. Texting won’t work.

[quote Anonymous]Just be joking with them and say how come you and i don’t date? see how they react … then you’ll know how close or how far off you are[/quote]

There’s a great way!

[quote izzitd]I’ll tell you,if you like a guy let him know. No really LET HIM KNOW.

He may be just as shy or scared of rejection if not more than you are.

Sometimes,like me,they are completely clueless. Many years ago there was this girl I would see up at the coffee shop all the time,she was always nice and friendly…always went out of her way to say hello to me. I thought she just had one of those personalities.

It was finally her coming up to me one day saying ‘Is there something wrong with me.I’m always nice to you and I make every effort to strike up a conversation with you and you practically ignore me.What do I have to do to get you to ask me out?!?!?!?

I really had no idea this girl was even remotely interested other than friends.Like I said I thought she was just being a nice girl…not interested in anything more than a friendship.

So some guys really just need a clue.

Not to mention breaking the stereotype of waiting for the guy to make the first move is really a turn on for most of us guys.

Try it,you may be pleasantly surprised.

Good Luck![/quote]

He hit the bullseye. This also falls in for guys that aren’t really looking for a relationship, not because they don’t want one, but just because it isn’t crossing there mind. They’ll miss some of the most obvious hints just because they aren’t looking for them.

They’re all right. Living with that kind of regret is worse than being turned down tenfold.

[quote amberr*fr3ak$*]seth im gonna add you. :)[/quote]

Haha, knock yourself out, that’s what I’m here for.

[quote Anonymous]Thanks ‘NotYouByMyself’ ..i will try counselling or physcotherapy i think i really do need to let it out. My parents even said they will, i just hope they stick to it now.[/quote]

I promise it’ll work dude. If you ever need a ventee you can add me on facebook since I’m not on here often. Or just send me a message if ya don’t wanna add. I’ve got it activated on my phone so I can reply 24/7. Seth A. Neal if ya ever need anything. I’m headin out now. Like Amber said, keep your chin up n keep up the laughin!

[quote Anonymous]I’m 17 btw[/quote]

You sounded just like me haha. I come from Watson, IL, population 750. We’re pretty much all family, so I know exactly how ya feel. The hard worker n people problem was my same problem as well. Ya can do it though, like I said, it’s not at all as bad as you would think. You’ll meet people from other towns which will help a ton. You’ll make friends from other places, a clean slate.Jus be yourself in the work place n you’ll be good to go.

[quote amberr*fr3ak$*]yes i know what you mean…and yes sometimes it helps more than you think or know. i feel the same way as you, im giving other people the advice i would give myself. and if you want to ‘fit in’, dont try…just do. either that- or just be the odd one out, the kind of person who people wouldnt believe what kind of childhood you went through. dont feel lost, there are plenty other people who probably are going through what your going throught right now, you just need to find them, connect with them and that takes care of the loneliness…and you do have plenty of purpose; imagine that you never existed…imagine all of the bad thing and how everybodys lives would better without you, now imagine how much youve done for other people and how its good that your here today and how other peoples lives would be hell with out you in it. just try it, please.[/quote]

She has some pretty good advice, give that a try as well.

[quote Anonymous]NotYouButMyself… so how did u get thru it?

..and anonymous, thanks.[/quote]

Well, I use to be pretty introverted, so I only had a few close friends, and one best friend. I told my best friend about it, n he gave me the encouragement to tell my parents I wanted a councilor n he also gave me the shoulder to lean on n the ear to listen before I told them. You need people that you can vent to, and this is great for that reason, and I wish I would have known about it back then. If you can, get ahold of a councilor/psychologist. Even your school councilor would work. You’ll end up talking with them about problems you didn’t even know you had, they just kinda pop out. Getting it all off your chest is going to do more than anything to help you. Keep a positive attitude. I got my positive attitude from one of my ex’s, because she was older than me and had gone through the same thing n showed me you can turn out for the better from it.
Pretty lengthy, sorry bout that, n that’s not even half of it,but the key points are stay positive, vent everything, and know it’s not hopeless. Laugh as much as possible, even if it’s at yourself.