Sorry it took so long to get back, I only come on this site when I am bored, lol. I am really enjoying game design so far, it is a lot more complicated then some believe. I am going to apply at places like lionhead studio, bioware, and there are others but I am drawing a blank. I am hoping to find a job as a world builder/level designer.
It does help when you are divided by two awnsers, each wanting your opinion. You can look away from each but see what they are describing then piece together your own thoughts and what you think. Being on only one side usually causes unneccessary trouble and adds drama to easy awnser questions.
Got to go for about an hour to take care of something but i’ll be back.
That’s right, sometimes the two options just don’t do it for me so I have to pick my own better awnser. Sometimes you get two choices that are both wrong awnsers. It’s a long story but basically a very long time ago I was a one sided person but it didn’t work out, so here I am taking the good parts out of both for a better awnser. And yes, grey cookies are the bomb;)
It was more of a “yeah, everything’s cool” thumbs up, maybe something similar like that.
I don’t like driving left or right but just like going strait and I don’t like chocolate cookies because their black or vanilla cookies because they’re white, more like I just like grey colored cookies because they’re not either color.
I think they took the link off the main page a while back to sort of keep trolls out.
That’s awesome that you’re going to visit her. I’ll bet she’ll enjoy your company even if you act like a weirdo. But I think the main thing with social stuff is to trust yourself, to like who you are. People are attracted to self-confidence.
I’m glad you got that stuff sorted out. How far away does she live? Maybe one of you could move…?
As for me, I recently met an amazing person online, on help.com’s chat room in fact. We’ve been talking online a lot and it’s like, the most amazing friendship I’ve ever ever had. We’re both stoked at having found each other.
No problem. Hope it helps. This might all boil down to you two having conversations so often that they aren’t high-quality. Quantity != quality. Maybe you just need to only message each other when you want to have a good conversation.
Do you ever see this girl in person, or it is strictly an Internet friendship?
Not knowing more about the relationship than what you’ve told me, it sounds like she isn’t as interested in you as you are in her. I could be wrong, though.
It could just be a different style of communication. It may not mean that she doesn’t care about you enough to pay as much attention to the discussions as you do. It may just be that that is how she handles all IM conversations. Some friends i had in high-school times would do their regular web-surfing while having several IM windows open with different people, sort of casually responding to them. Didn’t mean those people weren’t important to them, just that they didn’t see IM chats as important conversation tools.
Or it could be something else entirely.
If you haven’t asked her about this behaviour specifically already, that would be the first thing I would do. Address it directly with her.
I would describe it objectively, then describe how it makes you feel when it happens, and then describe what you would normally expect or need instead. Then make a request. Say, “would you be willing to focus more on our conversations?” or “would you be willing to tell me when you are tired of chatting so we can end the conversation respectfully?” etc. Use your imagination to try to word it so it isn’t accusatory or confrontational.
It may sound sort of “needy” but hey, you are a human and you have emotional needs/requirements in your social interactions. If somebody is disrespectful, then your needs aren’t being met, and you have the responsibility to do something about it. It doesn’t just apply to romantic relationships, but to friendships or business relationships as well.
The situation will be much easier on both of you if you understand each others’ needs/preferences. If she thinks those requests are not in alignment with her needs, then you guys can see if an agreement can be made which serves the needs of both of you, and if not, then you could go your separate ways.
Here’s an example:
“Hey, when we chat online I’ve noticed that it takes a while for you to respond sometimes, and that you sometimes disappear without saying goodbye. I feel upset, and a little disrespected when I’m left hanging like that. When I talk with people, I usually expect the other person to be fully present in the conversation, and to let me know when they are going to go do something else. Would you be willing to focus more on our chats and let me know when you have other things to do so we can say goodbye?”
You could mention your feelings for her (liking her), if you like. It might help her to understand why this means so much to you. But if you feel that would be premature, then use your best judgment. You know more about the relationship than I do.
I wish you luck. And also, if you do have one, I’ll still want to chat.
hmm, what I’m trying to say is that aiming not to have one for me sometimes makes it worse. I like to accept that it might happen, and I can survive it. Then I can focus on relaxing, food, having good habits that support my goal of chillin.
Took me a looong time to accept that random strangers could care and be nice to me. I always thought that I had to be nice to them, or impress, or fit the mould or what ever - then they would be nice to me. I lived for years with the hope I would one day be good enough for people to treat me good. Lots of people did treat me good, but I always had to read too much into it.
Anyways, I was once suicidal, but some random Asian old man happened to be walking past and asked if I was ok. Sounds made up, but it happened. I realised that being nice was about him, not me.
So I now feel free to be as nice as I want to anyone I want to be nice too.
Hope the makes some sense. I’m sorry those around you were less than they could have been and treated you crap :-\ lifes tough.
Where do you get self esteem if even your own parents don’t like you. I don’t know, but working on it.
I’m feeling pretty bad and failing most things in my life atm. Last few years I’ve discovered each of the five things I listed happened to me ( plus two more), but at the same time, don’t want to hide behind them as an excuse.
I want to see if “i’m a loser” or just dealing as best I can with some chewy crap.
I don’t know if that makes sense, but hearing that you also have esteem issues helps. I hear about you, and don’t think you’re a looser, so I try and give myself the same treatment.
Hey thats too late..Pls go take a nap now..Will you ?
I have the same problem I pull lot of all nighters too..I know from experience it doesn’t do you any good .. Is there anything keeping you from sleep ? Like anxiety or something ?
Hi Door. Nice to meet you :O) Just try and ignore those who are goading you so that you don’t get yourself banned along with them. We have a saying “don’t feed the trolls”, in other words don’t give them the pleasure of engaging with them at all. Let them make fools of themselves and don’t get drawn in is the key. Hope you’re doing ok, love mums x
People won’t get banned for saying sex or any other such words. Users will likely get a warning if a number of other users/moderators take exception to what they say, but you’re unlikely to get banned for it. Name calling, insults, abuse, stalking, trolling, lying, etc are things you’ll get banned for.
New users go through a verification process though. So, as you’ve only been here 4 day, words you say such as sex will be held in the moderation queue. Basically an automated system checks your response and notices the word ’sex’ and then a moderator will check it out before approving it; it doesn’t mean you’re not allowed to say it though. Over time the system will stop checking on you after you’ve been here a while.
Really? … stupid me … lol. I just woke up when i was checking my shouts … sorry
But ‘Dare to make a choice’ is also good. Although, any choice you make is a change in your life, if not you’ll stay in the same circle….
So are you from Europe?
Dare to make a change … yeah that’s a good moto. I also made a change in my life and it made me so happy in the end. Sometimes those changes can be good, sometimes bad. But if you don’t chang, you’ll be stuck in a circle …
But what does your name mean?