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hey, you replied to a post a wrote five months ago. about my heart surgery. i was wondering how you were doing? how everything is.

Hello there :) How are you ? :)

All is well Malia :) How’s your health? How are the kids?

Aloha! How are you my friend? :)

Or like is it possible to go to work part time. If you were employed and retired, clearly you are employ-able.

Why I asked was because being in a constructive work or a hobby you enjoy and interacting with co-workers, it does have a significant effect on our cognitive and emotional well being. What i’m saying is that it should be very, very good for you :):)

Would you like to pick up any hobbies Malia?

ummmm……silly me right! I am sure you asked all the questions :):) So sorry.

Its just - i guess i wasnt so knowledgeable about it and the whole thing sounded concerning - like i wasnt able to figure out - if the heart needs surgery - why wait 6 years - thats a helluva long time! i mean who knows…….by the time you need a second bypass what other advancement medicine would have made. So long as you are in good hands and are comfortable about it - its all good.

Do you work Malia? Have you found a partner yet?

Aloha! So you’re saying they’d like to postpone the surgery to 6 more years?? That somehow doesnot sound right! Shouldnt you maybe get a second opinion Malia. This sounds too concerning! :(

NO, thanks for writing in. Our paths were just meant to cross and they did. I want you to know that I am around and here for you, if you ever need to talk. Or at least thats the best i can do at the moment, for whatever its worth :)

Have a wonderful, bright fun filled happy day too :D

And oh! How rude of me :(

I’m truly sorry to hear about your husband. But you know what! A man who cant be beside you when you actually need a man - in sickness and misery - its good to be without such a man really.

But I’m more saddened to hear about your heart condition. Have you got the surgery done as yet? When is it scheduled? The medical science, luckily, is really very good these days, especially in matters of the heart (or at least the physical pump inside our bodies that we call the heart). The irony of my statement wasnt quite lost on me lol :D

Do you have children?

I wish you the very very best for your surgery Malia. And needless to say, if you ever, ever need to talk, I’m around okay? I mean that.

Btw your thoughts about grieving and letting go - yeah beautifully expressed. I completely agree. Thank you for sharing them. Much love and hugs.

Hey Malia! Aloha! (Noticed you’re from Hawaii :D)

Thanks hun. Am I supposed to be grieving? I’m not sure if i ever met you, but hey! pleased to make your acquaintence :)

Aloha:) I’m around. Mostly at this time.
It’s the time of year where I just ready for the ummm..I don’t want to use the word…colder season..lol.
I have to get myself a southern gig.
Something that can keep me entertained from Nov. to june..lol. Maybe I should call Arnold..lol. Hawaii is cool:)

I know :) I do not have much patience with medicines myself, I wont take any as long as I can help it :) Graduation isn’t for one year :) I’m doing a four year program and this is my last year :) Take care of yourself as well :) Senting good wishes your way :)
Love and hugs

Je vais essayer mais attention, ma grammaire est très mauvaise.

They blew me off , I’m in serious trouble and I don’t know what to do , can you say a prayer to your God Whom ever He may be and ask Him to help me .

I’m glad you’re out and having some fun. Getting together with friends is always a good thing, eh?

Hey, at least you had that one date a few months ago. That turned out okay. At the least, you probably made a good social acquaintance out of it and could go out again just as that. :) It’s not the same but it’s not so shabby either. No point in sitting home for lack of somebody to do things with.

Slumber party! Sounds cool! :D I don’t go to bars these days. I don’t drink either and I stopped smoking a few years ago. I don’t even tolerate second-hand smoke now. It really irritates my throat. I prefer being outside to being indoors.

Oh, the labels watching goes on and on. Sodium benzoate is a badass that actually alters genetic composition. Nice, huh? High fructose corn syrup shuts off the part of the brain that tells us when we are full. That results in people eating and eating because they don’t feel like they’ve had too much. :) Tricky!

I don’t eat out. I make all of our meals. I can’t remember the last time I ate out, in fact. I’m just not comfortable if I can’t know the ingredients, especially being a vegetarian. A lot of so-called vegetarian dishes really are not made that way in a restaurant. I’m fussy, yes.

Age is not a contributor for me. Sheesh! I know kids in grade school who are insulin dependent. I started out just the opposite as a kid - I had low sugar. Some experts link low sugar with future diabetes as though low sugar is the body trying too hard to regulate glucose.

I was bad as a kid, Malia. I would put so much sugar on my cereal that you couldn’t see anything but a blanket of white. :/ I was a sugarholic! I had enough of it to last me a lifetime so it really doesn’t hurt me to go without it now.

Weight-wise, I’m proportionate to my height. I exercise every day for at least 30 minutes. I go for a 4 mile walk 2x/week. I follow my dietary routine faithfully most of the time. I’m also dealing with additional issues that sometimes impact the diabetes so it becomes a bit of a challenge sometimes.

But know something, my friend? I have no real complaints. :D I’m here - I’m alive - one day at a time. And, that’s all any of us have.

I’m sorry you are going through a tough time, but eventually the medicine will make you feel better I suppose :)I hope tht happens soon :) I’m good, a bit busy though being final year at uni :)

haha, the “how’s it going” was to the OP, but I’m glad you responded.

I’m great, thanks for asking.

No need to be sorry about the diabetes. Everything for a reason, I say. :) I don’t know who they are but I doubt weight has anything to do with it when someone is rail think to start with. :) Have they also told you that stress is a contributing factor?

It’s a must to read labels. So many foods now have high fructose corn syrup, cane sugar and other assorted sugars. Sometimes 3 or 4 sugars in one product. :) I’m not a cheater. I do my best to avoid sugar unlike some diabetics I know who think it’s okay to eat ice cream sandwiches and twinkies. I take it seriously.

I do believe in mind over matter and I have no doubt that I will be off medication when I can properly set my mind to it. I’ve had a lot of distractions lately and not focusing as I should.

Hello there :) How are you feeling :)

I am. I’m looking forward to dropping the med someday and controlling it with diet. Mind over matter, I think. This is rather new for me, too.

How sweet! (No pun intended but it works, huh?) That’s a great going away - send her off with treats! Very smart of you to let her help in the making so she can carry on the recipe. One of those gifts of love that she will always remember.

I take Metformin also. It’s known for helping to prevent heart attacks and strokes. It’s actually a beneficial med. :) Maybe it’s a good thing you are on it.

wow! That is definitely a baking spree! :D

Hey!

How are you doing? Feeling stronger?

Yes it was. I wish her strength.

Which post?

Hi:)
I thought I’d add you as a friend.
Hope it’s okay and wishing you a better day:)
Max.

I know it’s not cool to wish my life away just to have more comfortable weather but I am looking forward to Autumn also. It has been a stifling summer for the most part. I’m heat sensitive and just don’t tolerate it well at all.

How are you feeling, my friend?

you can clearly see that most those siding with heartbroken, have never had their heart break…
should we assume that the absolute answer is loneliness is better?

all i know is that since i wrote this post my mind is made up again and again that i’m better off alone.

Sorry for the delay. I’m making a late meal for the bears. :)

I know how you feel. I don’t like taking meds either. I’m lucky I only need one; I’m busy avoiding others by avoiding tests.

I have no real complaints, my friend. The weather is getting cooler and I welcome it. I am heat sensitive and it has been a very uncomfortably hot summer.

How are you doing, my friend?

Okay it is open on my profile page for you, sorry I have to go for now, but drop me a letter later.
Love you
Agape

Hey I am going to open my E-Mail for you to stay in contact with me now.. I just wanted you have it so anytime you get chance to connect I would love to hear from you.

Kisses back to you as well oxx

He he Ja! Thanks I shall tell him, you are so sweet.
Great big hugs girl.. it is gonna be okay. Sounds like you are doing the best that you can within these situation, and it sounds nice to take the walk so you can chat and kind of stay grounded a little more. Just do not give place to any sickness, you are entered into His House and be blessed breathe in His Love and Healing and find that peace and call it home.
Love you

You have a great day too. I’ll drop you an email later on.

Well done, Sister. lols

I’ll add you. Thank you. :)

How are you doing?

Hey Malia
Hope that you are doing well just thinking of you and sending you love and hugs Sistah! Standing in the gap with you..
love to you Agape

Hi Malia,

Yes, that’s normal. When you click for the email, it will open an ‘Outlook’ window. Just copy/paste the address from that and close the window. Then you have the address to use with your own email program. :) I don’t use Outlook either.

I couldn’t get your email address because they don’t post on the site unless you manipulate them somewhat….rules.

If you go to your friends list and go to my name, you can click on the envelope and that will open up your address for me on your profile page (just as mine was opened to you).

I was away for a week+ so not current with anything. I hope you are doing well, my friend.

~ Kitty ~

Help is a great site. I have found many good people here. We are all here to lean and roll. Just depends on the day. We all do both. I will help you anyway I can. Shout me anytime. Up or down.

. . .No, dear. That is not what you meant. You defined exactly what you meant, when you defined what you had awaited me and what I had seemingly turned my nose up to.
Now, as I have said, “Let’s try to make the best of this and consider that time isn’t finished with anyone of us, yet.”
Fair. . .?

okay. . .
dearest Malia. . .
I don’t think you have the understanding of what I have been through and what the nature of my focus is within my travels. . .
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Why did I NOT invite you to my post? Because I reviewed my old post and examined your bitter response to me when I did not divert from the course of my destiny. . .
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“I have no pity for you Allan, my house was open to you….free bed, hot shower and a good cook waiting to make you feel welcome…..I’m sorry you didn’t want to stop Big Al One…I was looking forward to meeting you, maybe next time.”
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If you want to make something out of this that isn’t, that’s not something I can help. . . In my journey, there are countless persons who extended their door to me as well. . . It’s difficult to be popular with invitations like this and make good on all of them. If I were to do so, I wouldn’t get home until January.
Considering that I live in Alaska and we already have termination dust on the mountians, my bike just dosen’t magically transform into a snowmachine. . .
I’m sorry to have disappointed you, Malia, but there was much that I was disappointed in too.
Let’s try to make the best of this and consider that time isn’t finished with anyone of us, yet.

You have nothing to apologize for. Sometimes we don’t always roll the way we want to. Sometimes we lean. You can lean on me anytime.

You did not shout yourself again. I don’t mind listening. We all need an ear from time to time.

You need to take care of yourself first. Do you have family in Hawaii? Do you want to go back there?

Do you have family and friends that you can count on?

You shouted yourself. :)

I am sorry for what has happened to you.
How is your heart now? Are you feeling better?

Curious, didn’t know if I was talking with a teenager….I have a bad heart, have 4 stents put into it in less than 4 months. Not a good scenario

I am in my 30’s. Why?

Malia, my friend, I opened my email addy to you. Just look on my profile page.

Well, the year is nearly over, sister. A new year will be here before you know it. The good part about being on the crappy end of things for so long is knowing that the wheel is constantly turning and eventually it has to begin its upswing. :)

*hugs* sister